Post # 1
I adopted a stray cat 4 years ago. He was 4 pounds when I found him. Some asshat dumped him in the townhome complex I was living in at the time. I had initially thought I’d rehab him and rehome him, but it turned out he had a chronic medical problem that few people would take on. It was something that he could live a normal life with, but it required him getting most of his teeth pulled and regular medicine and vet appointments. I’m so glad I kept him. He turned out to be the most awesome cat. He was like a dog almost. If he saw my car pulling onto the drive way, he’d run to it and jump in my lap when I opened the door. He liked to sleep on my chest at night and boss the dogs around. He licked my face like a dog would and constantly nuzzled me. I never understood why he got dumped. He was fixed when I found him, so he was somebody’s cat. I guess he developed his medical problem and who ever had him didn’t want to even be bothered taking him to the human society. They thought dumping him off alone to starve to death was the easiest solution. To this day, I’d like to roundhouse kick in the head whoever did it. For some reason, now that he’s gone, I’m angry all over again about that. I wish I could dump that person in the middle of no where with no food, water, or shelter and see how they do.
Well, last night he didn’t look right. He seemed weak and wasn’t eating. I stayed down stairs with him so he wouldn’t have to go far from him box and food and water. This morning he looked worse. I ended up taking an occurence at work to get him to the vet(I don’t have attendance issues and I feel zero guilt about missing work for my buddy). It turns out that he had developed a couple more chronic problems, and the prognosis was poor. There were a few treatments that they could try, but in the end there was no guarantee they would work, and he would never have the quality of life he had before. It sounded like a lot of suffering, so I did what I had to do, what was best for him. I put him down.
My husband is on his way home, and we are going to bury him in our yard. I have him wrapped in the snuggy I slept with sometimes and put in a water proof box. We’re gonna have our own little funeral
I’m not sure what I’m looking for bees. I know we have a lot of pet parents on the boards. People who aren’t animal people don’t understand the grief that goes with losing a beloved four legged friend. I apprecaite my fellow pet parents who get it. Thanks for reading, guys. I feel like I needed to brag about what a totally awesome cat he was to people who understand. He deseved better than what he got in the beginning of his life.
Oh, and anyone who feels like I need a lecture about the irresponsibility of calling off work for a pet, or the thinks I’m a terrible person for saying I want to kick someone in the head, SAVE IT. I don’t care, and I don’t want your comments.
Post # 2
🙁 I’m so sorry about your kitten.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I am so so sorry. I dread the day I have to deal with one of my cats passing away.
Post # 5
Bridey77: I’m so, so sorry. We recently had to put my cat down. Very similar situation — he was a banged up stray who found his way to our door. After hearing his little meows and feeding him for a couple days, we decided to keep him. He was emaciated and had various other diseases that we had to get him pills/drops/etc. for. He was just the most loving thing on the face of the planet. We would joke about how if he knew better about how he was treated as a kitten, he wouldn’t be so loving and trusting, but he sure was. Like your cat, he was a “cat-dog”, just talking away, following us around everywhere, wanting attention and affection, etc.
He started having issues with his bowels and after trying a few things that the vet suggested, our next option was surgery, but the vet couldn’t guarantee that it would work and our cat was in such pain that he would just lay in the same spot all day long and not even lift his head. We made the decision to put him down and it was the toughest thing. I felt like I had grown up with him.
I have another cat who is now 16+ years old, and I can’t imagine losing her. I told my FI just yesterday that when she goes, I will need bereavement days. So I totally don’t judge you. Pets become such a part of our lives, feeling so close to them is totally natural.
Anyway, just want to say that I’m so sorry. I hope our lil guys are playing together in the big cat heaven up there 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks guys. He was just such a loyal, loving friend. I aspire to be the kind of person my cat was.
Post # 7
So sorry. The by far hardest part of having animals.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I’m so sorry 🙁 That is the absolute worst, even when it’s for the best as it sounds like it was in your little guy’s case. Internet hugs!!!
Post # 9
I’m so sorry. I have two cats myself and can’t imagine what it will be like to lose them. You did exactly what I would have done.
Post # 10
I’m so sorry! He sounded like a very sweet kitty and it sucks that he’s gone. Just remember that you gave him an awesome 4 years.
Also, who the hell would give you crap about missing work for taking a sick pet to the vet? You have a responsibility to take care of your kitty and that includes taking him to the vet when he is sick. So unless your job requires you to push a Do-Not-Blow-Up-The-Earth button every 10 minutes and you were the only who had the key to the room, then I don’t know how that’s slacking on your responsibilities.
Post # 11
TheGridMonster: I’m sorry about your buddy. It sounds like you made the best decision. Sometimes the best thing is also the hardest. I think one of the toughest things for me was the fact he was only about 6 years old. He didn’t get a full cat life. I’m off work the next 3 days, thank goodness. You don’t get bereavment days for pets, but you should.
I love the idea of cat angels playing together. I like to think he’s at the rainbow bridge waiting for me now. I’m hoping I’ll live to 150, so I’ll probabky have my own zoo waiting for me.
Post # 12
I really appreciate everyone’s kind words. It really does help hearing from people who “get” it, even in internet land.
RunsWithBears: I feel like I had to add the disclaimer, because there is always at least one person who zeros in stuff like that. Those comments are usually preceded with “No offense, BUT……”
Post # 13
Bridey77: Sorry to hear of your loss 🙁 I had to put down my beloved Kitty a few years ago and he was only 3. He developed diabetes and was losing all his teeth and the quality of life for him was going to be very little. I swear I cried for days after. I vowed I would get another black cat in his honour and I did get 2 of them this year! I also feel the same way about people that hurt anoimals..they are disgusting people and it makes my blood boil to think about!
Post # 14
Oh honey, I am sooo sorry! That is so hard to go through. I did have to put my beloved cat of 8 years down because, similar to your situation, he had developped a cancer where there were very limited and ultimately not super useful courses of treatment. You just have to remember that you made the most humane decision, and he gently drifted to sleep before he went to heaven. You took in a an abandoned cat and cared for him and that makes you a wonderful individual.
Virtual hugs xo
Post # 15
I had to stop reading and couldn’t read any PP’s comments regarding having to put their pets down as I am now crying at work. I am very sorry for your loss, one of the hardest days of my life was the day leading up to putting my dog down. My dad called me at work at noon to tell me we would be going after work (please people unless you know the person can leave work never make this call). Please know that you did the right thing, you were a great cat mom and it will eventually not hurt so much