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I go through phases like this fairly frequenty, especially around PMS time or just generally when things are stressful in various aspects of my life. I totally know that feeling where yo just want to tell pretty much everyone in your life or at work or wherever to f**k off. It's good that you are able to relax a bit around your FH and that he is supporting you through this. It's just a phase. It will pass. There are little things you can do - exercise, yoga, keeping a regular sleep schedule, etc. - that will help you elevate your mood, too.
((HUGS)) Do you by chance have an IUD? I experienced very similar issues with mine (that is coming out in the morning, do a little dance, make a little love, get down tonight) sorry I felt like singing!! I am moody just like that.
You may be feeling very stressed because of the upcoming wedding, it's a huge change in your life, you'll be leaving singledom and becoming a married woman. Even though you guys already have your family, it's still a huge step. Honestly I know that M is the right one for me, but it still scares the heeby jeebies out of me sometimes.
I feel ya sister! I have just not been a people person at ALL lately... I don't know what it is but i'm sure it ahs to do with stress. Hang in there!
One day I was feeling like this and I was getting annoyed with everything and I was thinking to myself, "I hate it when people walk too slow" and "I hate people who refuse to eat vegetables" (really- I overhead a converstation about how a girl would not even eat ketchup). And then I realized what I was doing and I was like "snap out of it!" and I decided to think about all the things that make me happy.
I really think you just have to decide to be more positive. I know it is easier said than done. Maybe you should try some volunteer work to get out of your rut.
Are you taking care of YOURSELF? Do you take vitamins, eat pretty good and workout?
I was this way. And I was desperate to find something to help me out because I was a total B*TCH! I found this website, read what they had to say and purchased these vitamins which after a month of being on them...have helped me tremendously. If something works for me, I'm always willing to share it with my friend and other women because I know I'm not the only one going through it.
It's called Women to Women. They are based out of Maine. But check it out and let me know what you think.
It's a little pricey but if it helps me, I'm willing to pay it. Good luck.
@ kittyachi...yea I do workouts on my Wii Fit and I seem to feel better after that...I'll add some another day into my routine.
@ crebre80....girl i don't have one of those and I'm glad I don't cuz it sounds like if I did on top of how I'm already feeling I would be a monster biatch! Lmao! I think secretly deep down...i'm terrified not at the idea of getting married...cuz i love this man way more than words can express but i'm scared of losing him in anyway. I haven't been sleeping well lately because my fears are visiting me in my dreams. I have frequent dreams that we break up. Then I wake up outta my dreams in tears and he holds me and tells me he's not ever going anywhere cuz there's nowhere better but I can't go back to sleep so yea the sleep thing that kittyachi said could also be a big part of it.
And here come the tears...ugh! I'm a mess right now!
@ kjpugs ....I'm trying to hang in there
@ Jacqi....I don't have time for volunteer work between school, work and being a wife and a mother
@ stephinPA ....I think I'm taking care of myself pretty well. I just has a major surgery in June so don't have a choice really. I am taking a multi-vitamin but I will check out that site. Thanks.
((HUGS)) I have become more and more emotional the older that I get and I definitely understand what you are going through. Sometimes I am terrified that M will be in a car accident or some accident at work and well what would I do without him? I think it's why I make it a point to say that I love him and to laugh and be with him as much as I can. It doesn't sound like your fi is going anywhere, so if you wake up again in tears, ummm put it on him to relax yourself and to exhaust yourself to the point of falling immediately to sleep.
@ crebre80 ...I know he loves me and I know that he won't be leaving at least not by choice anyway. He's a police officer though so I'm always on edge. Its just that uncontrollable fear ya know? I always leave it to him to put me back to sleep or sometimes we just stay up and talk until I fall back to sleep. Thanks for the hugs because they are much needed and much appreciated.
@ cbgg....no this is way deeper that pms hun.
When I started reading your post I thought to myself... wow, that sounds like me now that I'm pregnant! Try to do something nice for yourself, maybe go get a massage or a facial.. go on a nice long hike, whatever it is that makes you feel good. You're probably just in a weird funk and it will pass!
@ northernazbride...my fiance has a weekend planned for me next weekend and I can't wait. Congratulations on your pregnancy tho, I hope I'm not cuz I would def not fit in my strapless corset gown on June 19th if I was. I hope that my birth control hasn't failed me. Lol! Thanx for the advice.
Are you sure your not pregnant ??? You said it was bigger than pms. if not pregnant , i wonder if its a form of depression ?? I would get yourself tested in case u are pregnant and then if your not , then i would consider seeing maybe a psychologist ? wish u luckl!
there's a book I'm reading right now that you HAVE to read!!!! It's called "The Mood Cure" by Julia Ross. i'm sure amazon has it - or try or you local library.
even her website (www.moodcure.com) will give you some information you are looking for.
I hop you feel better!!!
@ brattkatt22....i'm going to call my obgyn today and see if I can get in. I checked out a few therapists. I'm just holding off to see if its just a phase before I go to the extreme ya know but thank you.
@ JuneBride_26June2010...I'm def going to check that out. Thank you.
Talking to all of you is making me feel a bit better. Thank you all so much!
Sometimes I get this was because of my birth control. It messes with my hormones. Sucky, but at least theres a medical reason.
@ starcharades....yea i just started taking a new kind of birth control so that may have something to do with it to.
girl, I don't have kids, but I was also working & going to school when I was planning our wedding...try to take 1 week off if you can, and I'm so happy for you that your FH is so helpful! My man tried, but he was pretty clueless, and I had to do almost everything.
@ cannotwait....thats funny he said I should take some time off from planning the wedding to bt I'm addicted to it! Lol! Terrible I know!
Nobody needs a shrink, we are females being females, our hormones work alot differently than men. I feel the same way now as well and i know for sure i dont need a shrink. Sometimes people just know how to push the right button to piss you off and planning a wedding is sure damn overwhelming
I used to feel that way when I was on the pill. It got so bad that FI and I decided that I would stop taking it and rely on other forms of birth control. Since going off the pill I've been my normal self and it's been wonderful. I hope you feel better soon!!
@ tammyt112.....girl you are a breath of fresh air! lol! I didn't wanna think that i needed a therapist but I thought it wouldn't hurt to talk to somebody.
@ jillianleigh ....I am on the pill and I just started a different brand so maybe thats a factor. Its frustrating.
The pill did this to me. Seriously. Badly. My BF and I decided that NO, we are NOT doing it anymore. As soon as I got off of it, I was back to normal. But I spent three months on that crap.
It was the worst PMS in the world 24/7. I had the SAME irritability and low tolerance for anything, and around my BF I was in TEARS constantly for NO reason! I would be crying and then we'd laugh because I was crying!
On those days, I stay away from people on purpose. Seriously. I don't pick up the phone if I don't have to, I keep to myself and just throw myself into something I can work (a feeling that I have accomplished something really helps). Those are also the days I find it helpful to take a quiet walk around my neighborhood either by myself or with our pugs. :) Maybe pick up a book and read something fun? Cook/bake something yummy (I know baking helps me!)? Take a warm bath when you have a moment? Perhaps you are just really stressed and need some time. :) But you are certainly not alone - I think we all have those days.
Bella
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Ok so I don't know what's going on with me but lately I can not stand anybody. Everything irritates the hell outta me. And I'm overly sensitive....when I'm usually a hard egg to crack. I cry at the drop of a hat. I take things vey personally lately and I snap at people all the time. I usually get along with everybody but now I just don't like people all that much and that goes for family and friends. The only 2 people I don't seem to feel this way around are my FH and our son. I'm fine when its just us.
I hate feeling like this because I'm never like this. I can get along with just about anybody as long as they don't annoy the hell outta me. The only other time I've been this irritable is when I was pregnant with my son...omg! I know I'm not pregnant with just over 8 months to go until we get married. While a baby would be a welcomed addition...now is not the time. I'm pretty sure that's not what is. It better not be anyway.
My wonderful man has been so supportive and he holds my hand thru all of this. He tells me its just the stress of putting together our beauiful wedding. He's helping out some by taking on more weddingly duties which I adore him for. He was already helping out but now he's there for EVERYTHING to make sure I'm not getting overwhelmed.
Anywho, is anyone else feeling like this. Like just ugh! Don't talk to me! Shut up stupid!
Please help me....before I go completely anti-social!