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    missclover    September 16, 2012  

    Wedding Planning!!!

    I REALLY do...I hate everythig about it.  I am not good at making decisions.  I'm not good at searching for things and I am sure as hell not good at letting go of my hard earned money!! I cannot wait until the day of our wedding to see how everything comes together and to be my best friends wife! Until then I feel like I am stuck in prison. 

    Sorry I just had to vent.  Does anyone else feel this way?  I really thought I'd enjoy this a lot more.  Everytime any of my friends got married I was always so excited to help them! Now that its my own I feel like the whole entire process is driving me crazy!

     
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    futuremrshc    June 25, 2011  

    Oh yeah, FI and I are at the same point. We're ready to just have the wedding part over and be married. We're paying for things as we go, so it's like having a new bill every month. I can't wait for this to just be over!

     
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    missclover    September 16, 2012  

    Glad I'm not alone...I really never thought it was going to be this stressful! We are trying to pay for things as we go too so we aren't freaking out at the end..

     
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    aunt pol    May 7, 2011   Ireland

    There is an end to it, ladies, thankfully! DH is STILL having wedding dreams, lol... Definitely harder than moving house or changing job!

     
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    Cotton    September 23, 2011   NY

    I completely agree with you.  I always thought getting married would be this amazing experience.  The reality is that it is a real pain and I often feel like the money could have been better spent.  But I have heard from married bees that it's all worth it in the end. 

     
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    missmidcentury    September 2011   Midwest

    Agreed. It's fun at first (picking colors, thinking about flowers and cake and decorations) but not when you have start getting in touch with vendors, making appointments, etc. Even with a really small wedding I'm experiencing the most stress I've had in my life just becuase all of my vendors suck at getting back to me within a reasonable amount of time. If I could pick out my stuff and write a check it would be great, but dealing with all of their lag times and schedules is really wearing on me, it's like I am having to beg for a quote/contract just so I can pretty please give them my money to secure our date.

     
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    bells    June 26, 2011  

    It is stressful but I love wedding planning! Its fun to see all your ideas and hard work come to life.

     
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    kala_way    May 28, 2011   Manhattan Beach, CA

    4 days and it's finally over. I can't wait.

    It's pretty sad when wanting the event to be done with takes over the feelings of wanting to get married. Our culture sucks.

     
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    MissKatelyn    July 9, 2011   Live in Westchester, NY / wedding near Portland, OR

    I hate EVERYTHING about wedding planning. Thank God it eventually ends.

     
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    linguo42    February 27, 2011   Vancouver, B.C.

    Wedding planning sucks. It's the little secret that nobody tells you. The magazines and the movies make it seem like so much fun, but it's just one big stress attack waiting to happen.

    That said, on the day I finally got to walk down that aisle and marry the man I love, it was all worth it. All the arguments we had with our families, all the battles we fought to make sure our wedding was true to us, every tear I shed, every time I wanted to call the whole thing off and elope...they all just sort of went away when I put on my beautiful dress and they're now only a distant memory.

    So hang in there! It gets better!

     
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    LucyMegs140    September 24, 2011   Chicago, IL

    I was always one of those girls that thought wedding planning would be awesome.  I even used to buy bridal mags when I would travel (years before I was engaged or even dating my fiance) just to look at all the pretty gowns.  However, once it was actually time to plan, I couldn't believe how much I dreaded it.  I felt clueless which was frustrating and just didn't want to deal with it.

    The one saving grace I have found is getting other people involved.  One of the most fun days I've had planning was going with my mom and two of my bridesmaids to pick out bridesmaids dresses.  Having a good group of ladies with great sense of humor made the day a blast.  Maybe getting a fun friend to help would make it a little more enjoyable.  I'm afraid that's my only advice though since I still struggle with the bridal blues.

     

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