- 5 years ago
I posted around a month ago, about my indecision on the style of engagement ring I wanted: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/he-doesnt-love-me-enough – Summary: “I’ve always wanted a princess cut solitaire, MJ and I agreed my engagement ring would be one. I found a round halo which I fell in love with, though was unsure about a round diamond as I’ve never really liked them. Opted for an oval instead. Purchased an H, VS1, VG cut, 2.2 oval which is currently being set in a micro-pave halo with a plain tapered band. Started having doubts about my choice, after a comment from MJ, so began comparing princess/oval and solitaire/halo – unfortunately came across a three stone emerald which I cannot get out of my mind.”
After coming to the decision (with the help of all you bees and my wonderful FI-to-be) to wait until I saw the finished ring, I was really looking forward to seeing it and being able to try it on.
Unfortunately when we picked the ring up, FI-to-be knew immediately I wasn’t happy with it and actually said I looked “disappointed” the second I opened the box. He was right. It’s nothing like how I imagined it would be and I would almost say I hate it.
The funniest thing is that I love the halo aspect and the shape, which were the things I was previously worried about. After trying it on, I knew in that instant that an oval halo was for me – the princess solitaire and emerald three stone have nothing on this ring.
The problem is the design. I (stupidly) went with the jewellers advice over what I initially wanted and now I am really, really unhappy with the ring.
There are 6 issues with this ring:
The first thing I dislike are the prongs. Which is simply my own fault. I specifically requested double prongs, however these are not in the position I wanted and I now want no prongs (photos two and three).
The second thing I dislike is the size if the halo diamonds. I initially wanted 1mm or 1.5mm diamonds, but the jeweller convinced me they would be too small and would be “unnoticeable”. At 2mm, I think they’re too big and take away from the centre stone as apposed to highlighting it, which is what I wanted (photo one).
The third thing I dislike is that the band is not tapered to the stone…well is is, by .5 of a millimetre on each side. I wanted, and requested, a noticeably tapered band (photo one).
The fourth thing I dislike, is the side view/setting. I wanted it to look like a ‘V’ from the side, with the band then coming up and tapering. The stone and halo would be held by the ‘V’. The jeweller said it was “not possible” and changed it to the current setting, which was what I was trying to avoid (photo three).
The fifth thing I dislike is that the centre diamond sits a lot higher then the halo, I did ask that the diamond sit slightly higher, but I showed the jeweller pictures of what I wanted and even a picture of what disliked, which is now what I have (photo three)
The sixth (and final – thank goodness) thing I dislike is the gap between the halo and the centre diamond. I showed the jeweller so many pictures of what I liked, I said I wanted the halo to sit flush against the stone, but it doesn’t (photo two).
Now, you’re probably wanting to see this horrible, screw up of a ring, but thing is, it is pretty, it’s just not what I want. Could I live with it? Yes. But I would never really love it the way I so desperately want to and my poor FI-to-be will always remember the look of disappointment on my face when I first saw it.
Here is the ring: sorry for the not so great quality photos
Obviously we are going to have it ‘fixed’ but I am unsure on a few things. Do I use the same jeweller and make them fix their mistakes for free and then pay for the changes I want? Do I use them but pay for the entire new setting? Should I go to a different jeweller and see if they can create my dream ring?
Also, would you go with the 1.5mm stones, or the 1mm stones?
What would you do Bees?
(NOTE: We are thinking of taking the 2mm halo diamonds and having them put into a pave band, as FI-to-be’s wedding gift to me is going to be a diamond band.)