Post # 1
It hurts and he has such a temper where he yells for a while. I know it will be better in a hour or two but when we fight I really hate it. I hate crying and hearing the swear words.
Anyone else really hate fighting?
Post # 3
me too..a couple of days ago, I had a really bad fight with my fiance and it shocked the both of us because I haven’t screamed or cursed like that ever. Something just snapped in me and I had to vent it out.
When we fight, we never curse each other out. We might curse in front of each other, but we NEVER curse each other out, like F.U. and stuff like that..
We also try not to let the fight go on the next day..so we’ll try to end the fight before going to sleep…which really helps in a lot of ways…
I hate fighting too. I promised him that I would never get that crazy again..because honestly, I shouldn’t be talking to my future husband in that tone of voice, or behaving that way towards him. I felt so ashamed and horrible for letting it get that bad. I don’t know what came over me. I just snapped.
All we can do is just learn from our mistakes and hope that we don’t let it happen again…
Hope you’re feeling better. Don’t worry. We’ve all been there <3
Post # 4
Wow I am sorry to hear he has a temper when he is angry. Sometimes it just takes some cooling off. Hopefully you two don’t fight too often because then I may be concerned.
I am waiting for a fight as soon as my FI walks throught the door but I will be the one losing my temper.
Sorry you are having a rough day. Hopefully it will turn around really soon. *hugs*
Post # 5
So much so that we don’t.
We can tell when the other is upset. When they are mad upset, we walk away, and don’t provoke. Give it time, appologize for whatever portion of the disagrement was your fault & discuss. When they are quiet upset, we ask what is wrong and talk about it.
My parents fought and fought and fought while we were growing up. I never wanted that, ever.
But it is sad to disagree. The thing is, no two people will ever agree on everything, hence disagreements. So long as you can move past them, no worries.
I’m sorry you had an arguement! Hopefully it’s resolved soon.
Post # 6
It is getting better. I think he was just in one of those moods today. It probably didn’t help that his friends were over for a while. He tends to try to act all matcho when they are around and so sometimes he tries to control me which he knows I cannot stand. We are going to spend the night with our friends and then tomorrow come together and talk it out. I just got extremely upset this afternoon and so did he. We both had different expectations for the day and so when neither of us was satified we saw each other to blame. We need to figure out how to let this frustration out in a more posisitive manner of course and how to make our expecations known to each other. We are used to the other just knowing what the other expects. We both need to learn we are not mind readers.
Thank you for all of your support. I really don’t know what I would have been if I hadn’t found this blog. There are so many wonderful people who have all experienced the same experiences we have.
You women are so wonderful! <3 <3 *hugs*
Post # 7
I hate fighting as well. In all honesty, arguments of any kind are the reason why I never wanted to get married or involved in a long-term relationship in the first place. But I love my FI sooo much, and I have to come to terms with the fact that we are in fact- different people (in reference to being a couple). I feel much better knowing that I am not the only one out there who is facing similar issues such as this. Thank-You for this post :). *hugs to you all!!*
Post # 8
@Prettyinpink89: I never wanted to fall in love either. It was easier to be alone. But now that I have him and love him, I’d rather fight with him than be without him.
I’d rather not fight at all but if we didn’t have disagreements I would be concerned.
I love going on these blogs for that same reason. I realize I am not alone! 🙂
It is amazing and I love helping others as they help me!