Post # 1
I’ve been overweight my whole life, and also have been trying to lose weight pretty much my entire life. Right now, I wear a size 18/20, Bridal 24. My dream dress is a Strapless Satin Trumpet gown and I adore it, What I don’t adore is the thought of being turned during the ceremony so everyone can see my arms while im standing in profile.
I know, I know. No one will be looking at my arms. But to feel more comfortable I actually went ahead and orderd a dress with 3/4 sleeves. It’s a beautiful dress, but I feel like I’m settling. On one hand, I feel like I will be much more comfortable in sleeves. On the other hand, I feel like I will always look back at my picutres and regret my dress choice. I know both answers are correct.
I have voiced this to my fiance, and he tells me every time that I’m beautiful and that I am my own worst critic. I see so many photos of beautiful brides on here who are my size or larger and rock sleeveless wedding dresses. The one thing they all have that I don’t is confidence, and I had no idea it would be so hard to find that. I know I have option to cover up, like a bolero, but I am that person you see wearing a cardigan over her tank top when it’s 100 degrees out. On my wedding day, I don’t want to have to cover up like I do every other day.
My wedding is still a year away, and I am doingWeight Watchers, plenty of weight training, along with Bridalicious Boot Camp, but honestly, I’m afraid of failing and giving up like I always have in the past. I want my dream dress, but I also don’t want to be 100% confident on my wedding day.
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2014 - Temple Beth Am/Love is Blind
BoilerBride101015: I totally understand where you’re coming from. I hate my arms and my armpit fat (ew ). I found a gown I love and bought it, but now I am having major dress regret because it is strapless and all I see are my arms (and my armpit fat, ew). Although I know that’s not what others see it makes me very uncomfortable, and I am generally a pretty confident person (except for my arms!). I am still working on that, both physically and mentally and I can share that yoga has made a big difference in the way my arms look, so I am trying to continue doing that. Don’t settle! Work hard and know I am right along there with you, so I too feel confident on my wedding day.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Just don’t shy away from the weights! My arms are my biggest issue too – but i’m wearing strapless.
I walk everyday at lunch and just started carrying 3lb hand weights with me – I wish I had thought of doing that sooner! I also have this video that I like to do at my desk once or twice a day while I’m at work. it’s only a couple mins but you can feel it! http://www.pinterest.com/pin/156007574564584869/
I think you should order your dream dress! If you want, get a bolero or some type of sleeve to bring with you as a safety net. Take some photos with and without it. Tell your photofrapher of your concern so that you can get the right angles.
Lookup pictures of brides your size… I know sometimes it helps to see someone else the same size and see how beautiful they look. It’s easier to look past their flaws than your own.
Post # 4
I completely understand you! I’m also a size 18 and always pictured myself in a long sleeve or 3/4 sleeve gown. Surprisingly I ended up in a sleeveless one!
I say go for your dream dress! You still have plenty of time to work on your arms! When will you ever get the chance to wear a trumpet gown again??
I know how hard it can be to be as comfortable with your body as your FI is, but gaining confidence about your body is the most liberating feeling.
Trust your instinct. Go for your dream dress!
Post # 5
Get your dream dress! Your wedding guests already know and love you and are not going to be scrutinizing your body while you’re saying your vows because they’ll be paying attention to what they came for – your WEDDING! If you think you’ll regret the sleeves now, you very likely will after the fact when there’s nothing you can do about it.
Keeping focused on your goal is tough, I feel ya on that (I literally just finished eating a piece of pie. What wedding diet?) but a year is a long time with plenty of opportunities to refine and stick to your diet and exercise routine. Don’t forget the importance of cardio! You already know weight training is important, but 30+ minutes of cardio at least 3 times a week will reduce your overall mass so your hard-earned arm muscles can show themselves and will ensure your body is physically in peak shape to maximize every workout! Think positive thoughts and know that many bees are with you in your journey to look your best on your wedding day 🙂 No matter what, you will be a beautiful bride.
Post # 6
I’m in the same boat. Street size 20/22 but the dress I ended up getting was a 28. Which surprised me a lot. I hate my arms. I got a lace gown so if I end up feeling really insecure I’ll order a bolero to go with it. I’m currently nursing our daughter (almost to 8 months! WHOOHOO!) and I want to start dieting. By the time I am done nursing it will be January when she turns 1. So I only have Feb-September when out wedding is. Hopefully I can accomplish something and Fi sticks with me! I tried to previously start dieting while nursing and my supply plunetted. I decided it was more selfish of me to want to lose weight than to give our daughter the very best.
Post # 7
MiamiMavencita: Ask your seamstress to help you with the armpit fat! Strapless dresses just DO that to you almost no matter what size you are. Mine did that to me and I am not overweight. Miy seamstress took mine and literally stretched out the very top ( it has boning so no worries about it falling down )
BoilerBride101015: + one to the poster above me about doing yoga. I do it nearly 5X a week ( I am an instructor) and it really toned my arms up! Yoga will do amazing things for your self confidence too 🙂 A year is a long time to make changes in both your body and mind!
Post # 8
your telling me my arms are big and im not but it seems like that is the only part of me i cant get fit without looking too muscly! IMO girls should not have ripped arms! Ish
Post # 9
- Wedding: December 2014 - Temple Beth Am/Love is Blind
Boxerlover24: Thank you! I am meeting with her for the first time in a couple of weeks and I hope she can help with that. As for the yoga, it really works wonders! I should do it 5x a week, I am only doing it about once or twice a week now, I have definitely seen a difference and I feel amazing afterward.
Post # 10
I’m a larger bride, I normally wear a 18 or 20 in womens, or a 22 in juniors – [bride size is 24 and it will still need to be let out at the hips a little], and I HATE my arms. I am going to tan the month before the wedding and I feel that will help ALOT [the upper part of my arms is really red & splotchy, and I work 12-16 hours a day, 6 days a week, so not alot of outside time to correct the uneven tan].
I am choosing to wear a bolero because I don’t want to be worried about my arms all day, I also bought a really cute ruched cardigan for later on in the evening when it gets cooler outside. I am VERY self conscious so I don’t think I’d be happy without wearing one.