Post # 1
-sigh- so mi biggest challenge throught this wedding planning process has been centerpieces. i finally found my perfect centerpiece (see below)
when i saw these i figured – way too easy to make these myself instead of paying a florist…on top of it when i talked to a couple florists i was going to be spending between 2 and 3g’s for these centerpieces. I absolutely love these centerpieces and would be perfect for our butterfly wedding. Anyways – I told my mom everything she needed to make these exact centerpieces and she decided to come up with her own idea. Here are her centerpieces she decided to make…
These centerpieces she made are nothing like what I showed her && I’m so mad because she put these together and it just seems like she payed no attention to what i told her i wanted. Like she just wanted to do her own thing. I don’t know what to do because my mom has done so much and has been the only one helping me with the wedding. I don’t want to hurt her feelings or make her mad but this is nothing like what i showed her i wanted to do…i tried to tell her to just let me get everything i needed to make them but she insisted she make them and what she came up with is definitiely not what i wanted at all. What do I do? Opinions ladies? -sigh-
Post # 3
I know they don’t look anything like what your inspiration picture looks like, but I think they are beautiful. In fact, I like them a lot more than your inspiration picture, but that is just me. For these maybe you could just put a few branches in the centerpeice and add some hanging crystals to them. That might make them more acceptable to you.
Post # 4
What? I love them! She did a really good job! Better than the pic! Maybe try it with white flowers or another colour to see if you would like it more?
Post # 5
Well i love your idea,
& then again i see where your coming from, maybe just be as nice as possible and tell her ” hey mom, i like that you tried to add your own touches but I think I wanna take a swing at trying to make it myself. Maybe you could help me a little with getting the shape I’m wanting or helping me pick out the flowers. I really value your opinion and would really appriciate it. :)” hope i helped a little anyway. And hey you should check out the real touch flowers online or at hobbly lobby/ micheals. No one will notice if your having a low light setting :] And real touch flowers are very close to the real thing without breaking the bank. I’m using real touch calla lilies.
Post # 6
Given that you have already said you hate them, I’m hoping that it is safe to be honest here.
They are not doing anything for me.
I always think that honesty is the best policy. I would tell my mom that as much as I appreciated her efforts, it wasn’t what I was looking for.
I would head down to your local craft store and ask one of the salespeople to help me pick out the things I needed to make my vision work- take your mom with you if she is willing to give it a second go-this time working with you- not on her own.
Post # 7
Honestly, your centerpiece inspiration does not look like the easiest thing to DIY. Not impossible, but I’m just throwing that out there to point out that your mom did an ok job with them.
I like what she came up with, and think it would also fit a butterfly wedding very nicely. But if you really have your heart set on the first pic, then maybe “if you want something done, you’ve got to do it yourself.” That is, in order to make sure it turns out right, at least purchase the materials yourself.
But I like either option, so I’m sure your wedding will be lovely, whichever you end up with!
Post # 8
I think they are pretty but I know what you mean. Totally nothing like the inspiration picture. I had to take everyone out of the picture when it came to my centerpieces and do them myself, by myself. Now, I love them.
Post # 9
They do not look like the inspiration pic, unfortunately, but thankfully I think a few changes could really bring them closer to your vision. I notice that the first photo has a tight, concentrated group of flowers with no greenery, so maybe remove the ‘extras’ from the one your mom made.
Also, the first has many more crystals draped from the branches, so maybe including a few more of the stronger branches and then incorporating many more crystal beads will help to bring what you’re working with closer to your vision. I hope that you can find ways to tweak what you’ve got, and make sure to thank your mom. 🙂 While it may not be what you were going for, you can tell she worked hard and I’m sure she’d love to hear how much you appreciate her helping out, like you’d mentioned above.
Post # 10
Honestly? I think maybe it’s the colors coupled with the type of flower that makes it look kind of…ummm… dated? I agree with julies1949: head to your local craft store with inspiration pic in tow and ask what supplies are needed.
And just be gentle with your mom. She really did try… Just explain that although it’s nice, it wasn’t exactly what you had in mind. And maybe you guys could re-work it together?
Post # 11
i appreciate all my mom’s efforts the centerpieces she made…well they just look old to me? if that makes any sense and they don’t capture the look i was going for which was blingy and elegant. they look more to me like they need to be vintage or something to that nature.
Post # 12
I think they are quite nice but obviously not what you had in mind, and i totally understand what you mean by they look old. Your inspiration picture looks very modern and sleek, whereas the work of your mother is a bit oldfashioned.
For now i wouldn’t say anything to her. If you like the colors then i think you can easily change the whole look simply by removing all that green stuff ( the leaves and grasses), and tying the flowers more tightly to create that round shape from your inspiration picture. Then just add a few more branches and crystals. And if your mother is upset then because you changed them, tell her how much you appreciate her work and that you didn’t want to hurt her feelings, but explain the difference between her work and your inspiration picture in a factual way, and i’m sure she will understand.
Post # 13
@JonathansLilMama: Maybe that is why I like them better than the original. I am going for a vintage Victorian romantic theme. I really think you should just be honest with your mom and see what the two of you can work out. Don’t tell her you hate them; just let her know they really don’t fit the theme of your wedding.
Post # 14
@NDBee – thanks for the advice. I just wrote my mom and asked her if she could possibly take out some of the greenery because like you said – it really is too much for me.
I really hope I can make these work…my mom has helped me so much. With both my fiance and I being deployed overseas we just can’t pop into Michaels and do everything ourselves . Any other advice on how to make these more to what I’m looking for? I’m definitely going to try and work with her to make them have a look of more what I would like.
Post # 15
I actually like what your mom did better than the inspiration photo
Post # 16
I think your mom did a great job, but I can definitely see what you mean by it not being similar to the inspiration pic. You should find a nice way to sincerely thank her for her help, but be honest with her about your vision. But she may be really sensitive about it since she worked so hard on them, so be careful. Maybe you could even plan a little mom-daughter time to work on tweaking the idea a little. She might love getting to work on it with you and then you can both voice your opinions on the centerpieces together.