Post # 1
Hi girls! I really need some advice!
I made a $1,200 impulse purchase yesterday… I bought a dress that I am not in love with!! I had everyone pushing me and telling me I dont have time to be picky –my wedding is July 15, 2011– The dress is nothing like I dreamed about. I can’t believe I let my family control this decision for me.
I don’t know what to do!! I am assuming dress orders can’t be cancelled?
I am feeling so overwhelmed that I don’t even think I want a wedding anymore. 🙁
Post # 3
Have you called the shop to see if they sent your order out yet?
Post # 4
If you hate it the 1st thing you need to do is call the shop and see if the order has gone out yet.
Post # 5
I ditto AmeliaBedelia. I would call the shop and see what they can work out for you. I have heard of shops canceling orders and I have also heard of them letting the bride exchange the dress.
Just breathe. It will be fine. Why not go back to the store alone and try on some dresses? I felt like having other people around made my shopping experience harder. I really wish I would have gone to some appointments by myself.
Post # 6
Call the store!!!!!!!
If you hate it now you will hate it when your wedding comes around.
I ordered my dress for my December 31st wedding on July 31st and it arrived by October 31st. I know it was the “off” season but do what you need to do.
Post # 7
First of all take a deep breath…It’s going to be ok. *hugs*. The dress is a stressful decision but it’ll work out and you’ll be excited about the wedding again.
If you ordered on Saturday, chances are they didn’t order yet. Just leave a voicemail now and check first thing tomorrow again when they open. I joined WB on a very similar situation 1.5 years ago when I was searching for answers on what to do. When I got a hold of the shop they told me they already faxed the order and production began within the 24 hours I changed my mind (!) but then they let me cancel with a $100 penalty. If you really really regret your decision and it’s not cold feet, and you can eat up a fee like that, you can offer the store a similar compromise. They are much more willing to work with you when they’re compensated for their trouble.
Post # 8
*Takes a deep breath*
Thanks everyone! I will call the shop tomorrow. I can’t talk about this with my family because they will just upset me and yell, “You don’t have time! Quit second guessing everything!!”. I am going to try on dresses by myself, I don’t think I really want their opinion anyway..
Post # 9
@JesusFreak: I agree with your decision to just go shopping on your own. However, with some dress manufacturers, you are cutting it pretty close. When you go shopping, I’d be really direct with your consultant and explain that you only want to try on dresses that can definitely arrive in time for your wedding. That way, you won’t end up falling in love with an impossibility. Good luck! And for the record, dress shopping was really stressful for me, and I ended up choosing my dress when I was totally fed up with the whole process, in a “Screw it – it’s close enough!” moment. I got home and had a “What in the hell have I done?!” reaction, and totally freaked out. On the day of my wedding, though, I ended up absolutely loving my dress. So, don’t be afraid of not having that “THE ONE!!!” feeling.
Post # 10
@redherring: I agree, I didn’t have “the one”, but I loved my dress and everyone else couldn’t stop talking about it!
Post # 11
My mom said that strangers were commenting more on my dress than on the brides that they were there for. My mom and sister said I took everyone’s breath away and they both had tears in their eyes, but I didn’t get the same feeling.
Maybe no dress will feel like, “The One” to me? I am just crazy for trying to plan an entire wedding in 6 months (well, now 5 months)
Post # 12
You actually do have time. Most designers will do a “rush” ship for a little extra. The fee varies by designer. You might not even need it, though. I ordered my Maggie five months before my wedding and it came in in plenty of time. I would gladly have paid the 80$ rush, though.
Post # 13
@JesusFreak: While it’s great to have the reactions of other people be positive, you are the only person who needs to be 100% happy with your dress. You might not have The Moment, where it hits you that the dress is “The One”, but you need to not hate your dress! Go shopping again, and see what you find. And it is possible to plan a wedding in 6 (now 5) months. There are definitely Bees on here who have planned with way less time than that! If you’re worried about the timing, maybe make a separate post devoted solely to timeline stress, so you can get input from the speedy planners.
Post # 14
I have heard that a contract can be broken by either party for up to three days after you sign. I heard this is a law and you sometimes have to pay a penalty, but you can break the contract. This info is from my mom (because I came close to canceling my dress) so double check it. She’s not a lawyer. Hopefully, the store will be helpful.
I looked for 3 months before buying my dress and am now excited (nervous!) about it, but if you are really unhappy, you could find something else and pay a little extra for rush, like some of the other bees said.
Post # 15
@JesusFreak: I am in the same boat… notice my date!!! I just started planning myself too!!!! Its possible!… your only as crazy as me!
Post # 16
I hope you can cancel your dress order! Many bridal boutiques have sample sales where you buy the dress right off the rack – no need to order it 6 months in advance. (Plus they are usually about half the cost!) I didn’t think I would find the one either…just be patient and it will find you!
It’s so easy to be pushed into rush decisions with everyone pressuring you due to the timeframe. I set my April date in October – about 7 months to plan – and have been feeling the same thing. Just keep true to what you want. It can be done!