(Closed) i hate my dress…6 weeks till the wedding :”(

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

“well its not abt us, its about me and my wedding and what i want!”

LOL.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Woah… take a breath. Your wedding day, while very important and special, is ONE day of your life.  Why not focus on what it symbolizes? It symbolizes a union between you and your fiance.

Right now you are claiming you “hate” him over only giving you a 4 month engagement and a low budget. Hate is a very strong word and that would be the concerning part of this situation.

As for the dress, has it come in yet? Have you tried it on? Do you have pictures of you in it?

Is there a way it could be altered to make it more “you”?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Did you talk to him about how you were feeling? Did you tell him that you needed more time than a few months?  I also feel like hate is a strong word.  Low budget doesn’t always mean bad, my budget is pretty low and I know a lot of other bees have even lower budgets while still planning fantastic weddings.  And I also agree on focusing on the symbolism of the union.  I do think you need to talk to him about this though because being bitter towards him probably will make the day unenjoyable and start the marriage off kind of bad.  The part about it only being about you and not about us also kind of bothers me.  I agree though to look for ways to alter/add to the dress to make it more “you”.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Well, first of all take a deep breath and refocus.  The wedding is about both of you and the committment and life you will be making for yourselves.  If you really dislike your dress sell it and get another one.  I think that even with six weeks you have enough time to find a more suitable dress if you are so unhappy. 

Focus on why you want to marry him in the first place…..everything will fall into place.  Best wishes. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I went through 3 dresses before I foind the one I used. I got the one I wore about a mnth before the wedding. If you hate your dress that much, why not check out eBay and the local thrift shops? I got my dress off of eBay for $100 and we got an amazing Alfred Angelo for my niece from a thrift shop for $25. If you can’t get a new dress, how about dressing up the one you got? A fancy bolero (sp?), a lacey shawl, some kick-ass jewelry? What’s your budget? We pulled off a wedding, reception and a day-after pig roast for 5K and I have seen some beautiful weddings on WB that cost even less.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@rushing_bride: He doees have a point about the suits though. He WILL wear them more than once, so they are an investment. If you really hate your dress, take it to a seamstress and talk to a seamstress about waht you want.

Maybe also try to have a calm conversation with your FI about how his suits really shouldn’t be considered part of the wedding buget since they aren’t just for that one day.

Your wedding day is about you and him, no one else. It doesn’t matter what you wear, or who witnesses it. It is really about the two of you pledging yourselves to each other.

I understand the fantasy, I want a beautiful dress and a beautiful wedding. But the most important part of the day will be when he and I pledge our lives to each other, not what dress I wear.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I did go back through some of your older posts and found a post where you stated you found your dress and someone posted a link to it.  If that is indeed your dress, it’s gorgeous!!!  No worries!!!!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

@Maggie Mae: I just looked at the dress too and I agree! It’s gorgeous! Not plain at all!

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@rushing_bride: What happened in the past week to make you hate your dress? You were so excited about it after the fitting 1 week ago? What has changed since then?

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s easy to feel like this when you’re planning a wedding. You may be trying your hardest to remain balanced, but with all the pressure to look perfect, and with everyone repeatedly telling you it’s “your day,” it can be hard to stay centered. That’s how I felt sometimes, anyway. As someone who’s gone through it all and come through to the other side, I can tell you that most of the stresses aren’t worth it, and you may never actually find that “wow!” dress (I didn’t). In the end, though, what people remember is the spirit of the wedding, and the feeling that they have while they’re there–and that feeling comes directly from you and your FI. So just try to relax and filter out anything that’s pressuring you.

Back to the dress–do you have a picture of it? I’m sure it’s lovely!

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