Post # 1
Ok girls, I HATE my e-ring. I wanted it when we had absolutely no money, because I just wanted to get engaged SOOO bad!
But after months and months of wearing it, I don’t like it. People don’t even know it’s an engagement ring! People compliment me on it and ask if it’s an antique or a family ring…
Also, it is impossible to find a wedding band to fit it unless it is custom made.
What should I do? I’m thinking of getting a CZ wedding set or a Diamonique until we can afford something else…how do I break this to FI? Good or bad idea?
Post # 3
I actually like your ring and think a simple band would look great with it or a thin band with diamonds.
Post # 4
I am so sorry you feel this way.
The good part is, you wanted to get engaged and you are. 🙂
I am not in the same boat because I love my e-ring, however just like you, nothing would fit with it unless I had it custom made. I knew it when we bought the ring, and just figured that I’d wear it on my right hand when we get married and wear the band on my left hand.
So, maybe you could do that?
For us, it turned out that when we went to choose the wedding ring, we narrowed it down to 3 choices: 1 e-ring that I would wear on my left hand as a wedding ring(we loved it!), 1 semi-eternity chanet set, or a completely different wedding set (we found one that wasn’t too expensive).
My DH really preferred the look of the wedding set, even if the plan from the beginning was to have only one ring on each hand, so he went for the set.
I guess it’s a long story for saying: wear your e-ring until the wedding, then change it on your right hand and pick a wedding ring that you love! And when you look at the e-ring later, you’ll remember that when you were young and got it, it was more important to you to be engaged to your man than to wait for a more expensive jewel that you could not afford – smart decision!
Post # 5
I like your ring too. And I agree with Soon2beeMrsM, I think it would look great with a thin plain band or one diamonds. Have you tried seeing how it looks with the contoured bands? One or two of those would look nice too.
Post # 6
@egb: I agree. Move the e-ring to the right hand and pick out a wedding ring you really love to wear on the left
Post # 7
Well, the other issue is he gave me a left hand ring as a promise ring, and it is gorgeous, so I wear that at all times as well.
Sorry to complicate things more, but I would love to wear my promise ring. It’s a beautiful garnet.
Post # 8
Would you be able to wear a wedding band with the promise ring?
It could always be explained by the fact that the e-ring would need a custumized band and that way, you get to wear them all.
Post # 9
OR maybe have your promise ring resized a little bit bigger to wear on another finger?
Post # 10
@mrsv2be: Wow… ur e-ring looks similar to Jennifer Hudson’s!!
Celebrity Engagement Rings & Wedding Bands
Jennifer Hudson’s Engagement Ring
Neil Lane created this platinum engagement ring for the singer/actress that includes a 5-carat diamond as the center stone.
Photo: Courtesy of Neil Lane
Post # 11
@egb: I had a jeweler tell me it’s more difficult to size up a ring, than size down because you’re thinning the metal of the band.
No one thinks my sapphire ring is an engagement ring because it’s not a diamond… oh, well. it’s on the important finger, and that’s what matters most!!!
If it really bothers you, talk to your FI about it and see what he says. Maybe you could have it reset to where it’s something you like better. That could, possibly, be cheaper than buying a new one, if cost is an issue.
Post # 12
Your ring is beautiful, absolutely gorgeous! You don’t even HAVE to get a wedding band. I’ve heard of people forgoing it if they have a very intricate ring. It sounds like you’re letting other people’s opinions influence your own, but if you love it, don’t let their comments get to you.
I know what you mean about just wanting to get engaged. I felt the same way and told FI that I didn’t care the size of the ring and I would actually prefer non-diamond because of the whloe conflict diamond thing; I knew he didn’t have a lot to spend on a ring. I’m older and don’t want to have so many health problems for me or the baby when we try for kids so that’s why I didn’t want to wait anymore. So he proposed and I admit I was a little disappointed in the size/style and that it was indeed a diamond, but I know he put a lot of thought and time into picking out the right ring (within his budget) and that means more to me than anything else. It has grown on me and the wedding band I chose compliments it really well. Plus I know he would be really hurt if I told him I didn’t like it, and I couldn’t do that to him.
I’m confused, on what finger do you wear your promise ring?
Post # 13
Can you buy a wedding band that you love and then just not wear the e-ring with it? Then you’ll be wearing a wedding band you love, a promise ring you love, and you can just put on the e-ring whenever you feel like it. It doesn’t seem worth it to buy another placeholder e-ring.
Post # 14
I really like your ring but would you be able to wear it as a right hand ring and wear the promise ring with a wedding band?
Post # 15
I love your ring. But it’s not mine, so that doesn’t matter. If you hate it so much, why did you pick it out? And isn’t a (real) small diamond better than a CZ?
My ring is exactly like yours except with one center stone, and I had no trouble finding a wedding band to fit with it.
Post # 16
You picked the ring and told your FI that what you really wanted was him and this was the ring to get you. And he did. I think replacing it is a bad idea. You need to find a suggestion in this thread that you like that invovles keeping the ring you have in some way, and find a way to make it work.Otherwise you risk at the least hurting his feelings, and at the worst really upsetting him.
I also agree that other people’s opinions are influencing you too much here. Remember that this is the ring he proposed to you with. That he loves you, and wants you, and this ring is a symbol of that.