I hate my engagement photos.

posted 2 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Should we have our engagement retaken?
    Yes! : (31 votes)
    65 %
    No! : (17 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 2
    559 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    We decided to pass on the engagemnet photos and used the extra money to splurge on a 10-piece band for the wedding. It all depends on whether or not you think you’ll actually use them. I am designing our save-the-dates and we don’t plan on doing photo invitations, so we would basically be paying hundreds of dollars for a fancy Facebook photo. 

    Post # 3
    1878 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I have a couple large prints of our E-pics. And I also used some as decoration for our wedding.

    Post # 4
    932 posts
    Busy bee

    Is she also photographing your wedding? Or did she just do an engagement shoot? If you are having a different photographer for the wedding- most of their contracts come with an engagement shoot so that they can get to know how you photograph and what angles to use for the actual day. In that case you can have a 2nd engagement shoot. If she is your photographer for the wedding – then I would consider hiring someone else. You dont want to be disappointed with your wedding photos! 


    Post # 6
    2430 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    How much do you like having photos of you and your fiance? I love them, so if it were me I’d definitely retake them. We didn’t use them for our Save the Dates but they’re just nice to have in general. I like having photos to look back on. We got one printed on a canvas and used that at our wedding (and it’s now hanging up in our house).

    Post # 7
    5545 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We have ours in our house. Not huge but as part of a wall in the hallway that is pictures from the actual proposal, our engagement pictures, wedding pictures and our honeymoon. I like having pics of us that are more than FB level selfies so it is worth it to me. What I would do though is wait until you have a wedding photographer and get some done by them. That way you can get to know them and make sure you like the pictures so you know at the wedding they will turn out how you want. 

    Post # 8
    1878 posts
    Buzzing bee

    You cant really see it, but we put the laminated pictures in mason jars, put some rocks in the bottom and filled it with water. We found the idea on Pinterest. It ended up looking something like this.

    Post # 9
    988 posts
    Busy bee


    Beautyandthebusiness:  am I understanding correctly that you paid your FSIL $200 to take these photos? If so that sounds pretty steep for non-quality portfolios from a “budding photographer”

    Honestly, two thoughts come to mind…if she’s trying to build a portfolio to find other business and you don’t like the quality of your photos, you may want to be honest with her. Obviously don’t attack her work and depending on how well you know each other, maybe have FI or FI’s bro help with the constructive criticism. If she’s serious about getting into professional photography, she may appreciate the opportunity to learn and use your critiques to re-shoot something closer to your vision.

    Otherwise, I agree with PPs that your actual wedding photog will likely include engagement photos in the package, so unless you have a use for the pics now, I’d hold off and not spend the dough.

    Post # 10
    1080 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    MrsWoods47:  We plan on using some epics at our wedding too. Framed by the bar, guest book, etc… We’re going to get them done closer to the wedding and not using them for save the dates.

    We decided not to do a bridal session. I don’t need 100+ pictures of just me in my dress so I can have one large print at the wedding. We can take a few pics on the wedding day. Since it was part of the package we were looking at, we decided we’d rather get engagement pics taken and have good pictures of us together. My FI has terrible red eye in most pictures, or its only a good picture of one of us, etc.  Seemed like the better investment. 

    Post # 11
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Just wait until you book your photographer and e pics will likely come with the package and you could get them then. I had a friend do some fun pics for us and I like them better than the photographers e pics. 

    Post # 12
    53 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    RE-DO!!! Since your wedding is so far away I’d wait till next year and just re-do them with a professional… To spare feelings tell her you won a session or got a crazy discount (or that its another friend) she doesn’t need to know specifics.

    We’re doing 3 differnet engagement sessions (I know, I know sounds ridiculous) but I have so many photographer friends and they all offered I was just straight up with telling them we’re doing a bunch so no one got offended.

    Like previous poster said, engagement pics usualy come free with the wedding photographer. I’m sure this girl doesn’t expect to photograph your wedding too (I hope) so you’ll probalby get a chance to redo them anyways and just tell her it was free with your package.

    Post # 13
    550 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Beautyandthebusiness:  if you got anything you like out of a free shoot, then consider yourself lucky! When you book your actual wedding photographer, they may include an engagement session in your package…until then, why sweat it? If it’s really bothering you, don’t consider these your “real” engagement photos…consider it a favor that you did for a family member that you got a nice picture out of.

    Post # 14
    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    If you aren’t happy with them, then you have the right to get them retaken.  You should wait until you have a photographer for your wedding and have them taken with that photographer.  My photographer includes e-pics in their package, so you might end up with a situation like this too.

    Post # 15
    875 posts
    Busy bee

    Beautyandthebusiness:  I like our engagement photos more than our wedding photos.  I think because they’re less fancy and more *us*  We used them for our wedding website and save the dates and have hung several around the house.  I think you should get them redone, but as MrsN14 said, it’s very likely your wedding photography package will come with them and if it doesn’t you can always pay for them seperately and just tell you FSIL that it came with it, so you don’t have to worry about hurting her feelings.   

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