I hate my engagement ring :(

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
3202 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I am so sorry this is happening to you!

Honestly, the prongs on my ring are super crooked, and my diamond isn’t quite centered in the halo (so it only looks perfect if I hold my hand at a slight angle), and one of the prongs sticks out a little farther than the others and makes a shadow on the halo so it almost looks like a diamond is missing, and in certain lights it’s super obvious that the diamonds in my wedding band are a slightly warmer color than the diamonds in e-ring band…

But you know what? I honestly don’t care. Sometimes those things bother me, but overall, I just love how my ring looks on my hand.

It sounds to me like the problems between you and your FI are really focused on the ring, but maybe they lie elsewhere. He seems to be a little bit intense (he wouldn’t EVER sell the ring?) and you also seem to be unhappy with him for other reasons (e.g. he “failed” to pick up the ring). Are you sure there aren’t other issues bothering you more than the imperfections in your ring?

Post # 4
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Can we see a picture ?? I guess I need to know how bad it really looks to answer. If he was this invested in the ring he already bought, I personally would go with it and maybe pick a wedding band you love that would spruce it up? If the e ring is awful quality though could you replace it for one that looks just like it but higher quality? So it would be like a nicer version of the same ring?

Post # 5
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You two need to make a trip back to the store. It is absolutely unacceptable that you received such shoddy work. Explain to your fiancé that you do not want a different ring, you just want the version you should have gotten, a clean, well made ring. I’m sorry if it hurts his feelings but you simply cannot wear a ring that literally hurts your finger. You have a legitimate reason(s) to hate the ring and it’s not like you are bring catty or mean because it’s too small or whatever. you should return it or force them to fix it, whichever is in your best interest. Good luck and try to be gentle with your man, he’s probably embarrassed that this item he got for you isn’t up to snuff. 

Post # 6
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Jellyflies:  i would go back to the store and have them fix the issues so that you can enjoy your ering.

Post # 7
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You don’t have to settle for a poorly set ring. Definitely bring it back to the jewelry store and have it reset correctly. 

Post # 8
6407 posts
Bee Keeper

@howsweetitis:  I agree, this sounds like it’s really about more than just the ring. Very strong emotions on both sides about an issue of wonky prongs (which neither of you are at fault for).

Post # 9
884 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My ring is messed up to. On one side it’s perfect, then on the other the diamonds are different sizes and spaced uneven. It bugs me every single time I look at my ring. I would go back to the jeweler and tell them you want them to fix it. You spent money on the ring and it should be perfect when you got it. I wish I did that because now, almost two years later I always try to hide the one side of my ring and its not fun. 

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