- 3 years ago
- Wedding: December 2015
I can’t believe this is happening, I never thought that I would be the kind of girl who hates her e-ring. When my bf and I picked it out together, I was very happy. The diamond itself is very pretty. It’s a VS2, Color f, .65 carats. However, after closely inspecting the setting is just horrible. I can see every imperfection. Every prong is a different size, shape, and thickness. The placement of the prongs are not symmetrical which makes the diamond in the center appear crooked.
That’s not all, my ring has been recently resized and now appears to have an oval shape to it. This wouldn’t bother me as much, but the ring is much wider on one side of the band and sits very uncomfortable on my finger.The pave band are also not symmetrical. One side it thicker than the other. To tell you the truth the whole rings appears to be wonky.
I tried discussing this with my s/o, but he’s extremely hurt and upset. We both are, I’m upset for not going with my gut and he’s upset that he’s spend so much money on a ring I don’t even love. Its clear that we both want to fix this problem, but nobodies budging. He wants me to keep the ring and learn to love it and I want not nothing to do with the ring. I feel like the setting was poorly made and he fails to see my point of view which is very upsetting. He apparently discussed this with is mother which is another story on itself, her mother doesn’t wear jewelry so she doesn’t understand my point of view, therefor he has the impression that it’s not a big deal. She commented to him “why does it matter that the prongs, setting are uneven? I mean, as long as you can wear it around your finger then the ring is serving its purpose? ugh . . . so irritating. i hate how i don’t have anyone to discuss this with.
I have no idea why s/o is so attached to this ring. When we first saw the ring together, he didn’t even like it. I would understand if he was attached to it if he had proposed to me with it, but he hasn’t. I even went with him to pick it up. since he failed to pick it up on his own. Anyway, when he got the ring he gave it to me in the car. Very romantic, (it’s not like I wasn’t asking to see it) but he made it real clear that the ring wasn’t my proposal and that the proposal would come later when he had time off from work. Anyway, I’m very confused. If he doesn’t need the ring to propose then why is he so attached to it?
What should I do bees? I hate the ring so much. Every-time i look at it, it reminds me of all the arguments we have had over it. I picked out the ring, it’s my fault, I understand that, and I’m willing to pay for it whether it’s a new ring, or half of the cost of a new ring, or even for a new setting but he’s not letting me do any of those. He has told me that he will never sell it, no matter what happens between us, and if i don’t want it. he would just keep it either way. This ring has brought so much stress to our relationship and it’s terrible to say but it’s almost tearing us apart. We are both unhappy and have no idea how to fix it. Why can’t he just understand how i feel? tHis has been something that I’ve been dreaming about my entire life. I seriously feel like I’m in a bad dream, this was supposed to be one of the most happiest days of our lives and it’s been totally ruined. :'( I ruined it. I wish i could just accept the ring how it is but it makes me so sad. I know I’m being materialistic but your supposed to love your ring but all l i feel is regret, disappointment and sadness.
has anyone experienced this? If so, how did you handle it?