Post # 1
I really want to be happy with what my fiance picked out to wear on our wedding day, but I can’t help but hate it. He wants to a bow tie and it so does not go with the wedding and it far too formal for the day. Also, below are the bridesmaids dress we picked out in ‘pure jade’. We went to Men’s Warehouse and found an option that may work but now realize against the dress swatch it’s too bright of a green and shiny which I am concerned how that will look against flat chiffon bridesmaids. They don’t have any other shades of green that would work. The groom doesn’t want to go all black vests for everyone as he wants to look different that his groomsmen. He is aware of my opinion on the matter. I don’t want to be selfish, and at the same time I want there to be a flow to the pictures rather regretting the choice after seeing the wedding photos. Help?
Here’s the link to the bridesmaid dress in Pure Jade
Post # 3
First of all, welcome to the hive!
Now, I just want to throw this out there — it’s his wedding, too. I assume that given the attention to detail you are describing here that you probably also put (or will put) a lot of effort into picking the right dress for yourself. He should get to feel just as satisfied with what he’s wearing, and if that’s a bow-tie, I am sure he’ll rock it! The bride and groom are supposed to be the most dressed up people at their weddings!
And regarding the color matching, I know it is a personal thing, but I actually think I like that the textures will vary. I sometimes find matchy matchy bridesmaid dresses/groomsmen vests to be a little prom-y. And it would be really hard to match the matteness of chiffon anyway. I am sure it will look fabulous, so don’t stress yourself out over it and let it go!
PS — I love that dress! My BM loved it when she tried it on, but as she’s only 17, her mom (FMIL) vetoed it for showing too much cleavage haha.
Post # 4
My fiance is also wearing a bow tie, and honestly, I think he looks so dashing and devinar in it!
Men just always look awesome in bow ties, so don’t fret 🙂
heres a photo of my guy and one of his groomsman
Post # 5
I agree with PP if he wants to wear a bowtie then let him. It will look nice. And you wouldn’t want him to dictate what you wear so it has to go both ways. As for the vests, I don’t think the greens have to match. However, if thats an issue what if your groom wore silver or white vest and his GM wear the black one. That way he still looks unique.
Post # 6
What? You let him pick out his own tux? Wow good for you! I’m not sure I’d be able to do that! lol
Post # 7
Whether or not it matches the theme, or you don’t like bow ties, do you think he looks HANDSOME in it? When you look at him, are you thinking, “wow!”? If yes, then keep it!!! I think you both should be infatuated with each other on your wedding day, and him looking dreamy is a part of that.
Post # 8
Does it help at all that bow ties are kinda considered to be ‘geek chic’ right now too, so people won’t necessarily jump to the ‘formal’ conclusion? And what about maybe getting a cool pattern for them (I know it’s an extra expense, but you can get them for $15 at http://www.thetiebar.com) so they’re a bit more playful? Like maybe a plaid or polka dot or paisley? I personally really dig that look! =)
Post # 9
I’m sorry, those BM dresses are to die for, though!
Post # 10
My husband wore a bow tie to our wedding and looked super handsome 😉
Post # 11
i was worrying about this also but honestly i think WE the “brides” get to pick our dresses and they have no say. as long as you give some guidlines let them have what they want
Post # 12
I think the the bow tie will look fine with the green dresses you chose. But I’m biased… because I love my man in a bow tie! But honestly, the dresses are long so they will go with bow ties I think. 🙂 If he is stuck on the bow tie, maybe he can just wear a vest without the overcoat.. that tends to dress things down a bit. My fiance is wearing a tan/brown suit with a bow tie, and eventually going to just wear his vest. Hope it all works out 🙂
Post # 13
I am not a fan of the bowties either but I had 100% say in what me and my girls wear so he gets 100% say in what he and his guys wear. It is his wedding too and honestly, if that is what he really wants and thinks will look good on him, let him!
Post # 14
you may hate it but some men like me wanteed to help her pick the dress out, but she said no, ruin the suprise, but it will not ruin it for me sorry to break it to her. so i told her fine ill pcik my tux she has no say, to bad if she doesnt like. she took the one aspect i cared about being a part of so she losees this right. i migh eve pick a color that doesnt go for being so snobby about it.
Post # 15
I don’t get the bowtie thing myself, but for some reason men dream about wearing bowties the same way we dream about wearing a veil. My guy is also all about the bowtie. I think it makes him feel like James Bond or something. I don’t personally like them but that is the one thing he seems to have worked up some enthusiasm about, so I’m like, go for it! Work it in, and don’t sweat it.
Post # 16
You say that it won’t go with how formal your event is (or lack of formality) but those BM dresses are long and formalish.
Just let him wear the bow-tie and try and be happy about it. You wouldn’t like it if he didn’t like your veil/dress. At the end of the day you won’t even really notice what he’s wearing.