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First, I wanted something small and intimate, now we have 80 something people most of whom I do not know very much. Most of the family is not coming because my mother is a witch and she is not coming because i don't want her to do my hair and my makeup and she is inviting some of the family to texas to visit her at the same time as my wedding. 

Then, I wanted it to be sort of a vintage femme style, but still clean and sort of modern... much like Jenny Packham's style, but my fiance doesn't like that. he's a groomzilla and wanted it to be.... just different. its too modern and boring in my opinion.

Then, I bought this dress (which hasn't come in yet), but i already hate it because it's too princess girly and not femme and vintage and sexy enough. i hate it, but it matches the rest of the wedding style i guess. i hate all of it.

Also!!! i hate my wedding colors. they are lavender and navy. i wanted to blend in other colors, but my groomzilla wants contrast instead of blending and i hate that. i wanted a color story not two basic boring colors like every other wedding i've seen. i wanted beige and green and grays and blush pink and ivory too... now i don't know what to do.

i hate it all and i'm going to look back on these pictures wishing i had done everything differently, which i didn't want :( i'm soo sad.

Sweetie. First off you need to stand up for yourself. THIS IS YOUR WEDDING. Hate to say it but the girl trumps boy ALWAYS, as long as it is nothing major.

First: who is paying for the wedding? Is it you and your hubby together, your hubbytobe, you? your mom, anyone else? Figure that ot before complaining about anything because that i important. You can't complain too much when you arent contributing financially, BUT if you are doing all the planning then, you should be able to have some sort of say! Labor costs! ;)

Listen, sit your hubby-to-be down and tell him how you are feeling. DON'T do that over drinks, or when you are feeling heated or mad. Do it once you have calmed down and are feeling more in control. Also, write down how you are feeling and why, POINT BY POINT. Do that NOW then look at them tomorrow before your chat - i say this because those things may not seem so important tomorrow. So when you do have the chat, you will know what is most important to you as a bride. Prioritize them too. Most important to least. (Family being there - #1, dress type #10, colors of wedding #55). You should be enjoying this time. Once you have a list finalized, clean it up and go through it with your fiance. Line by line and see what you can and can't change, and what can be modified to fit both your wishes for the wedding. If there are out of the box fixes, consider them.  We're never nailed to the wall. In the end you just have to get creative. And most importantly BREATHE. Its a bad day. We brides to be have them more than not these days, just put it in perspective and remember what is MOST important. Its not the wedding, its the marriage. :)

Don't have any solution off the top of my head, but as a mother of a bride to be (Sept of this year) I will {hug} you in spirit and yes, tell you to breathe.... deep and long.

Keep us posted please!

A MOB in Illinois,

Suzanne

thanks guys. all of you have said very encouraging things that i'm going to put into practice *breathing*.... yea, my mother is something else, but i'm used to it. i will just continue to not respond to her irrational behavior. i'm happy she's not coming, actually, because she's dramatic and manipulative. i'm happy as long as my fiance shows up :)

as far as the way things are being decorated. i'm going to have to powwow with him about it. i've shown him inspiration boards, but its been a while. i will show them to him. 

that was a very great point about the dress. my dress is allure 8756... i went with that because it was great at the time, and then i remembered what i was going for... and it isn't it. i think i'm going to take the flowers at the waist off entirely. hopefully i can find a lace bolero or something. maybe the hairstyle will really influence the look as well. 

i do feel a lot better bees!!! thank you for all the love!! i've turned my frown upside down:)

So I agree with everything that has been posted already... a comment about the colors.  Lavender and Navy will be beautiful together! Just because your hubby doesn't "think" he wants beige, greens, greys, pink, ivory etc. in the wedding doesn't mean that you can't have them... Pick your battles... colors isn't one you have to stress over! or fight over. You can incorporate all of those colors beautifully into your FLOWERS and centerpieces, and linens (go with an ivory under-cloth instead of basic white) and not even need to worry your hubby with it.  You'll be so beautiful on your wedding day, he won't even notice the colors of the flowers that your bridesmaids will be holding :)