I hate my wedding!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i’m sure everything will be fine.  what do your decorations look like? are you DIY?  post a picture, many Bee’s can probably give you suggestions.

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@MrsFutureG:  Did someone put this idea in your head? If you chose everything yourself, that means you liked it! Who cares if someone else doesn’t? We all have such very different taste and even if something is gorgeously decorated to some, others may find it tacky and cheap looking. There is no way to find a happy medium for every single guest, so it comes to a point where you need to do what you want – and that’s what you’ve done! I am sure it isn’t as bad as you think.

Also, it is never too late to blame your FI 😉

Post # 5
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1631 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MrsFutureG:  Breathe deep. I just had my (hopefully) final panic attack about decor yesterday. I feel like I know where you are. Stop second guessing yourself and just try to let the stress go a little bit.

The decisions you made worked at the time – and think about it – if anyone ‘judges’ you how will it affect you the day after the wedding? Are they going to egg your house? It won’t affect your marriage or your future – you are going to get married to your amazing FI and you will be in love forever.

Does everyone have a place to sit and food to eat? Then you’re all set. 🙂

IF they judge you it means they aren’t very nice to start with and you wouldn’t want them close to you anyways.

Embrace your party – show up in a tiara to your sweet 16 and have a ball babe – srsly – dont beat your self up 🙂

Post # 6
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8425 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MrsPanda99:  +1, especially the last part lol

Post # 9
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1395 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ok, first off, breathe! You’re probably sick of planning and are seeing a lot of your decor choices  in a different light than you did when you originally picked them. My suggestion would be to back away from everything for bit and just spend some time–maybe a week?–focusing on your fiancé instead of the wedding. Once you get some distance, you may find you like your choices more than you think you do. 

I think it’s perfectly normal to have the fear of judgment when planning a wedding–I mean, people are judgmental and everyone has different tastes. Trying to plan something that will please everyone, though, is impossible and will almost certainly lead to heartache and worry, even after the wedding is over. Not worth it, especially since it’s your wedding, your day, your marriage. In some ways, it’s probably good that you were the only one making decor decisions because there is nothing so stressful as having a forceful personality trying to turn your wedding into theirs! I imagine there will be continuity to what you have chosen and, most importantly, it will be what you and you alone wanted. I’d say own it and enjoy what you’ve chosen! 

Post # 10
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@MrsFutureG:  Whatever you don’t like is the 20% that he picked 😀

Seriously, you won’t remember any of this crap even 2 days after the wedding – you will be having a blast in Jamaica. It seems like the end of the world now, but you are one of the most rational bees I know – so I know that you know it isn’t!

Post # 12
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1631 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Everything looks gorgeous – srsly. Its going to be fantastic – if you are having a hard time with it – it could be because the centerpiece pics were taken in a casual environment. Do a full table mock-up with plates and a linen and everything. Srsly – it will give you a feel for how classy it will look.

And whether your cake will be ‘bridal’ enough? Don’t worry about it – primise. this is my cake:

Weddings are becoming more and more unique everyday – you don’t need white taffeta and tulle to have a wedding anymore. Celebrate your individuality – and give squinty eyes to anyone that judges you 🙂

Post # 14
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@MrsFutureG:  Based on the pictures I saw, they were good decisions. Your cake looks very bridal and delicious – I assure you that I would happily eat it! Seriously, just have the confidence to rock your choices, act happy, and act like you love them (because you must!). No one will say anything – all they will see is a happy bride.

I was watching 4 Weddings yesterday and there was decor that looked great but was not my style. I remember saying to FI, “it is not what I would have picked at all, but look at how happy she looks.” That is all people will notice (unless they are judgemental bitches, and in that case, why the hell did you invite them anyway?!).

If anyone says anything rude, do me a favour – save their cake for me!

Post # 15
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsFutureG:  We’ve had an 18-month engagement too and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve opened a wedding magazine or looked at a blog and just felt so inadequate in comparison!

 

I’m sure everyone will be too busy looking at you in your dress to even notice!

 

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