(Closed) I hate my wedding…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

did you talk to your FI about how you feel?? you seem really miserable and he should know where you’re coming from. 

Post # 5
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1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

@rcorral:  You have the right to be upset.  Your wedding day should be about you and your fiance, what you both want, and done in a way that doesn’t cost you your sanity.  Does your fiance understand how overwhelmed you feel?  Do you have any family or friends that you can talk to or who can help?  If you are both paying for this yourselves make sure that you get some of what you want in your special day  There will be some compromises, but make sure you get some of that dream in.  If you can take a day off of wedding planning to just regroup and relax, it might help a bit too.  You have a lot on your shoulders and sometimes you just need that time to breathe.

Post # 6
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1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@rcorral:  I’m so sorry. I’m sure it will all turn out okay in the end!

However, I know if it were me… I would be having a serious conversation with my FH if he called me an annoying bitch and refused to help me do anything… I wouldn’t go into a marriage withvhim thinking that it isn’t okay to talk to me/ treat me like that. It’s definitely not acceptable behavior. 

Post # 7
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1771 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Um. If my fiancé called me an annoying bitch or just plain called me annoying when I tried to talk about my feelings with him, I’d reconsider marrying him. That’s completely disrespectful behavior. Marriage means you’re equals and treat each other with love and respect. He should not be talking down to you and trivializing your feelings.

What else is left to do for the wedding? Are they essential things that absolutely need to be done or can you get away with dropping a few things so you’re not so busy and overwhelmed?

Post # 9
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509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@rcorral:  Are you sure you want to marry  him? I don’t think I could marry a man who refuses to help me when I need it, or calls me “annoying” (let alone an “annoying b*tch”) when I reach out to him for emotional support. That’s not right, and that’s not the type of man I’d want as a life partner when things get tough!

Post # 11
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2302 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@rcorral:  uh yes, you have a wedding problem. you also have a fiance problem. honestly, he sounds lazy and like he doesn’t care to help you at all. the fact that he tells your you’re an annoying bitch?? completely unacceptable. 

and why is he such a lazy person who doesn’t want to help you? your fiance should WANT to make your life easier, and help you so that you’re not sobbing about the state of your wedding. especially when he picked a date in 4 months. 

Post # 12
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3271 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I’m going to skip over the rude comments from him and just ask

What is your vision for the wedding? What do YOU want and what could you rework to create what you would like?

Post # 13
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2302 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@rcorral:  when you say you’re paying for everything – is he sharing in the cost? i see that you say you’re here and that’s why, but aren’t you having budget talks with him like ‘x, y z is 2300 so please transfer 1150 to my account by x date so i can pay the vendor’?

 

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