Post # 1
Hi Bees, I have a lot on my mind and need to vent. I hate myself for thinking this way because i know a lot of people are struggling with unemployment but I really want to quit my current job because it is making me sick. I have been there for 2 long years thinking it will get better. I work for a horrible manager who makes my life and others in our department, a living hell. It has gotten to the point where whenever I go to work, I have the worst cramping pain in my stomach, I cry on the way home, and generally unhappy. I have been searching for a new job but am not sure I can cope until I find a new one. FH has offered to take over the bills if I wanted to quit. Ever since I was old enough to work, I have had a paycheck coming in so the unemployment thing will be new to me. Like I said, I hate myself and feel extremely guilty for feeling this way with so many people unemployed. 🙁
Post # 3
Is she doing something specific that you can go to HR about? Is she breaking employment law or creating a hostile work environment?
I know what you mean about feeling guilty, I also hate my current job. The FH keeps telling me to quit and wait till election season and go back to politics. I have been working on some of my short fallings with an old mentor to charge my skills. I have never been without a job or two in my life and would feel sick sitting at home until the wedding is paid for.
Post # 4
@BouquetMel: Don’t hate yourself for feeling anyway, about anything. I am a total hypocrite in saying that because I feel the same way regarding my thoughts, but maybe one of us could be less tortured. I think you should quit, it is not worth your health. It will be a weird transition for a while but it seems like your FI is really supportive. Good luck to you!
Post # 5
hun, don’t hate urself….i sorta know what your going through….’cept my boss isn’t so bad its just i feel burnt out….i’ve there for 6 yrs and find no motivation or interest in the actual job anymore….i’m not sure i have any advice but just wanted to show ya some support and let ya kno ur not the only one in this boat…hang in there… ::hugs::
Post # 6
a friend of mine just posted this quote on her facebook today: “I guess the thing that is worse than not having a job is having one that makes you completely miserable.”
if this job is making you physically ill, maybe your health should take priority. sounds like you’ve got the full support of your FH to make this move. i would just take the time to prepare for a potentially long wait between jobs. maybe think about picking up a part time job to tide you over until you land another full time position. or you can always temp.
regardless of the situation, you are entitled to feel how you feel. you have to do what’s best for you. good luck.
Post # 7
Quit! It will be the best thing you can do for yourself. Your health is more important than a paycheck.
I quit my making-me-sick job (I was having migraines along with dry heaves and dizzy spells) one day, out of the blue. I just got fed up and left. The next day, I felt so much better. Haven’t had a migraine since.
Post # 8
Life is too short to be miserable. I say just quit. There will probably never be a “good time” to quit–now it’s the economy, but later it’ll be something else. Just get out of there and don’t look back.
Post # 9
Has she always been like this? I’ve noticed this problem more and more lately – especially because the economy has been so bad. Employers/bosses feel that they can get away with anything because people NEED the job. I’m not saying that’s the case in every situation.
I’m sorry you’re going through this though. I’m not sure how unemployment goes because I’ve never been on it, but my cousin quit his job because his boss was shorting him money in his check. The unemployment here in New Jersey almost didn’t give him anything because he quit and wasn’t laid off. J said the same thing would happen to him if he jumped at the first job available and knew it was going to make him miserable and would quit. It’s something I’d take into consideration. Like I said, I’m not 100% positive either.
I wish you the best of luck though. So sorry you have to go through this.
Post # 10
Thank you Bees so much for the support. I feel so guilty talking about it. I was nervous to come on here and read the comments. I am scared….terrified about jumping ship but I know in my heart this is the right decision, no matter how tough it is. I said a prayer yesterday about it and later I received an email containing this:
One Door Closes..Another Opens
When God leads you to the edge of the cliff, trust Him fully and let go, only 1 of 2 things will happen, either He’ll catch you when you fall, or He’ll teach you how to fly!
Post # 11
@BouquetMel: Oh that gave me the chills! I think just reading that you know what is the right decision for you. Good Luck!!
Post # 12
@tea: I like that quote too :). Initially that was what I was telling myself through all this!