I hate names MIL/FIL want to be called

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

 

Ok, when I read the title of this thread I thought “oh relax, let them go with whatever silly grandparent name they want.” But then I read the post. Your IL’s are bat shit crazy and want PARENT names. Aaaaahhh! 

Unless you are leaving the baby with your ILs for childcare, you actually have total control over this. The baby will learn what to call them from you. You could teach him to call your MIL “cray-cray” if you wanted. So Nan-Ma will be Nana if that’s what he hears (you point to photos in the house and say Nana enough, the baby will learn). And PaPa is a dad’s name. Maybe PopPop? PawPaw?

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Why can’t she just go with Nana? Mama for a grandmother is ridiculous to me, maybe in some other families/cultures it’s the norm but I would not want my kids calling their grandmother mama when they call ME mama!! My sister’s MIL is called Mamma, I don’t know how to express that phonetically – it’s like mam with the a sound like the word man, and ma, like mah. She had already been called that before my sister knew her so she didn’t have much choice but she’s never complianed about it. My MIL is called Mimi and that was in place long before I knew her as well but I like it just fine. FIL is Grumpy which is hilarious, and my parents are Grammie and Grampa. Our parents are all divorced so there are SO’s too but they don’t get special names. The only one that is remarried is FIL and SMIL is just called by her name.

So just for ideas since you asked, the women in my family are called Mimi, Grammie, Nana, Mia (because my cousins couldn’t say gramma when they were little and it came out Mia)

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Why not Nanna? That’s what I call my grandmother. Just a thought.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

cora_123:  My sister and I have called my grandmother “nanma” always – I have NEVER seen anyone else come up with that name! We actually pronounced it like “na-ma” with a silent n (who knows why?). We actually called our grandparents nanma and poppa, so this post is kind of ironic to me. Bottom line is, your kid will probably call them whatever she wants. I think being called those names are normal, since thats what I called mine! 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

cora_123:  I can relate.  I wanted my MIL to be called Grandma, just like my mom.  But she insisted on mimi because her other grandchildren call her that.  I wouldn’t have had an issue with if mimi wasn’t a nickname for her name as well….so it kind of bothers me, but for now our daughter can’t really talk but I would rather both of our mothers be called grandma.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I can’t believe your in-laws are really so butthurt about this haha.  It’s one thing to be bummed at first, but it’s completely another to pout any time someone isn’t referencing “Nan-Ma.”. I personally don’t think it’s that bad, but I agree with the PP about calling the grandparents what you would mostly prefer & your child will likely follow suit.  Good luck!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Oh I forgot about the grandpa’s name, Papa is actually a grandpa’s name in my circle, we would not call dad’s papa but I know this is quite common. So yeah pop pop, paw paw, grampa, buppa, bumpa, grampie, gramps, old man.. lol

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Wow! That is absolutely nuts.. I thought they were just going to be asking for weird names NOT parent names! 

Luckily you can have your child call them whatever you call them! Heck my FI couldn’t pronounce grandpa when he was a kid so HE invented a new name and now everyone says that new name instead of grandpa! 

Im sorry you have to deal with the stress though, it’s so unnecessary and ridiculous of them! 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Sometimes grandparent names dont work out as planned – growing up my grandparents changed names a few times. My moms mom was already grandma ( i was the 5th grandchild in that family ) but my dads mom AND stepmom also wanted grandma so they went with Grandma Jane and Grandma Suzie – Grandma Jane changed her grandma name to “Grammy” after being called Grandpa Jane, Grandma Joe and Grandma Suzie by my sister and I ^^ 

I almost think letting her go w/ mama and letting things work themselves out naturally could be an option – if your baby calls you mama then it would be sort of weird for her to call grandma mama too – and if mama was too confusing for her grandbaby then your mother in law would have to choose a new name. If this is a hot topic now then that approach might not work.

Could grandmama be an option?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I called my grandfather Papa, so maybe that’s why I don’t see that as too bad, but MAMA? Definitely not ok.

Honestly, half the time, grandparents get called whatever the first grandchild comes up with. My aunt wanted to be Nana or Grammy when her first granddaughter was born. That granddaughter started calling her Nani (Nah-knee), and it stuck. Now she has 9 grandchildren, and she’s Nani to all of them.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

lmao, this is so werid and something i can see my MIL doing. i plan on having both grandparents being called grandma and grandpa, and when we aren’t with them they will be Grandma X and Grandma Y. that’s what my family did and what DH’s family did with their grandparents, so i hope we won’t have much resistance.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I completely agree with KitKat – Unless they have alone time with your child he will learn to call them whatever you do around your house. On the way to their house you can say “we are going to nana and pop’s” or whatever. (That just happens to be what my ILs want to be called.) And I agree with the pointing at pictures and saying whatever names you selected. They aren’t going to be able to correct an adorable baby 🙂

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - The Landmark

What about G-ma and G-pa? My grandparents where supposed to be something like that. 

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