(Closed) I hate people!!!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Forget about them. Enjoy your day when it comes and enjoy the marriage after that. Every bride is super excited about her wedding or possible wedding. It’s just how we are! A day where we get to dress up and have it be all in honor of US and the man that we love? What isn’t to love?

Post # 5
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think you’re overboard at all. It’s great both you and FH are invested in your wedding and marriage emotionally and want it to be a day you’ll always remember as so special and unique to you two, I don’t see what’s wrong with that.

Two things pop into my mind to make this problem go away: One, if someone says something snarky to you ask “Why would you say that?” and put them on the spot. Someone else gave that advice here on the Bee once and I haven’t had opportunity to use it yet, but I love it! LOL! Two, as much as it would suck because I know you’re excited, but avoid talking about wedding related things around these people. Maybe you and the other engaged coworker could have wedding coffee dates or exchange emails so that the annoying ones don’t eavesdrop?

I’m glad you came here to vent, that’s what we’re here for!

Post # 6
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

I hate people too!LOL

It wasn’t overboard, but ignore them. People hear a woman discuss wedding and she’s automatically a bridezilla and don’t let her be waiting on an engagement! Then she’s the crazy wanna be bridezilla nevermind the fact that the MAN brought up marriage and engagement first.

Post # 8
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I used to get the samething allllll the time as well. I have always loved LOVED loved weddings..the details, the romance EVERYTHING. So i always talked about them, helped people with them etc. and it made me so happy…sort of. My family and sisters mainly ragged on my “obsession” with weddings, and when i was ready to marry my then boyfriend they had all the nasty comments you can think of “of course you are…you are so obsessed….we are sooo worried about you, what will happen when the wedding is over” so cruel. Then when i was wedding planning oI got the bridezilla comment as well…from my own mother!!!

Anyways…it wont end *laugh* Not to be cruel. But just push all that crud aside! Im now a wedding planner and couldnt be happier!

Post # 10
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I work with people like this and my advise is to let it roll off your back. Some people like to “rain” on others happiness because they have nothing better to do. Opinions are just that opinions and I would politely ignore theirs. 🙂

Post # 11
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

@MsBrooklynA:  I’m sorry you have such obnoxious co-workers!  Don’t mind them.  There are so many people that don’t understand the e-ring thing (IMO).  Some people don’t mind upgrading in the future, and some people want to keep their original e-ring no matter what.  To each his own.  I believe that if you take your time and really do your research, you can find a ring that you will love forever and suits you AND your budget. 

Doing your homework when it comes to your e-ring is essential in order to get a quality piece that will withstand the test of time.  Most people don’t understand how long it may take to have a finished product while working with a local jeweler.  It’s definitely not the same as going to a mall store, picking out a ring, and having it sized.  Your efforts will certainly pay off when that ring is on your finger and is in great shape years from now!

Being engaged is not just about the ring as marriage is not just about the wedding.  While the ring and the wedding are certainly wonderful aspects of promise and matrimony, they’re only a small part of it.  The older coworker sounds very superficial.  If she cares more about the wedding and acts like you’re going to change your ring every now and then as your style changes, she’s definitely materialistic. 

Enjoy the time you’re spending with your SO planning your engagement, wedding, and future together!  Forget about anyone who tries to bring you down!  You’ll never get these moments back.

Post # 12
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404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It’s just amazing to me how easily some people butt in/give their opinions/insult other people. I think it’s smart to do your research and strech your budget as far as you can and get something amazing. There’s always going to be people to rain on your parade, whether it’s because they’re jealous, or Debbie Downers, or just mean and spiteful. I like the one suggestion of “Why would you say that” as a response. May be the best response I’ve heard for that sort of nonsense.

Post # 13
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Don’t let them steal your joy!  There’s nothing wrong in being happy and excited about your engagement/wedding/marriage, etc.

The only thing I will say is that when you’re *not* in that process, it can get old/boring to hear about it constantly. Maybe work on having other things to talk to them about?  But if you’re not even talking to them about it, and they’re butting into your convos with your friend, then they need to mind their own damn business.

Post # 15
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

@MsBrooklynA:  Ok.  Sorry I misunderstood.  But this is about YOUR engagement, and YOUR wedding.  It’s about YOU and your SO so who cares what your co-worker thinks?

This is your e-ring and wedding we’re talking about.  Who cares if she thinks you spend your money on dumb things?  Your money and what you do with it is none of her gosh darn business.

Also, I’m someone who wouldn’t want to “upgrade” my e-ring later in life. . .I guess I’m a sentimental schmuck.  That said, I totally understand the importance of taking your time and being a bit picky when it comes to your e-ring. . .it’s something you’ll wear for the rest of your life!

Post # 16
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302 posts
Helper bee

It definitely bothers me when people get nosy. I especially hate it when I am talking about my future engagement (inevitable–we have already talked a lot about it) and people look at me like I’m crazy because I don’t have a ring yet. What is the difference between someone in a 4 year relationship with a ring or someone who has dated for less than a year with a ring–I know my BF more than anyone else I know and we know we are getting married, so why can I not talk about it?? People are rude…

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