(Closed) I HATE PLANNING (around my recruit’s schedule)!!!

posted 7 years ago in Military
Post # 3
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sure that everyone will understand your situation.  I hope you can figure things out though!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It was pretty easy for Dh to request leave and get it–getting married is pretty acceptable. but dh was an army officer–i know things are different for enlisted guys so don’t take my word for it! i just know it was really easy for him.

that being said, if you’re concerned, plan it on a holiday weekend. They get block leave anyways !

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

We had a near disaster with DH coming home for our wedding. His sergeant ended up pulling some strings for him and getting him home in time.

I will say that you should make sure all of your vendors put a special clause in your contracts saying that they will let you reschedule without penalty if your FI cannot make it home. Most of our vendors called it an “act of god/war/etc” clause.

Have you ever considered a JOP, and then a wedding later?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I second zippylef.  I’d make sure that your vendors agree to be flexible and will allow for shifts in schedule without penalty. Also, a JoP wedding would let you and your daughter live with him/get military benefits, correct? I would see if this would make them less flexible on giving leave for a wedding then, since you’d technically already be married. Best of luck!

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m another vote for the JOP–then you could actually live together as a family, since the military won’t let you live on base together until you’re married. It’s so common with military families

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

ah i feel for you, my brother is in the marine corps (OORAH!) and i know how demanding it can be. is he finished bootcamp? and just doing his MOS tranining? They will most likely grant him leave for his wedding day as long as he puts it in far enough in advance. My brother is set to deploy to afghanistan in Late February/Early March and put in for leave for my wedding 2 weeks before he is planned to deploy and they gave it to him.

Post # 13
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2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Insurance. Buy it.

 

🙂 and congrats and good luck!

Post # 14
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659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Welcome to the Marine Corps – they will perpetually screw up any plans you will ever have, so get used to it.  I COMPLETELY do not mean to be harsh at all – but the saying is Semper Gumby for a reason.

He’ll have some leave – post boot camp before SOI/MCT – but if I were you, I would not plan on anything until he is in the fleet and knows is schedule and can request leave/have it granted. 

We have a wedding date and I fully expect the Corps to screw something up with regards to the date of his upcoming deployment. 

If you do not want to wait (which I would do because reallt, the pressures of a new Marine don’t need the pressures of a new hubby, but that’s my opinion) then you can go a JOP wedding between boot and SOI.  And be sure any vendor knows about the military and just have your contract say something like “if there is an unexpected military deployment/training, the day is considered rescheduled not canceled”.  I have that in all my contracts which is easier than paying for insurance.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I second the PP’s ideas to get a JOP ceremony so you’re legal then have a wedding later.  If you’re already planning on getting married, you might as well be legally married before he goes.  You are better protected, you get better benefits, and you can be his primary contact in emergencies/if something happens. 

And, it’s my understanding that he will only get 2.5 days of leave every month, so if you do want to have a big wedding, you could wait till he’s been in a year, he could come home for a month, you could have a wedding, and a nice honeymoon.  Plus, if you’re legally married before he gets his first orders after basic/school, you could go with him wherever he’s stationed for that year or so and plan the wedding basically together, as long as he’s not deployed/in an area where you cannot go.

Just a thought!  I know it’s tough planning on a military schedule — my FI is a Navy Recruit and we’re getting married prior to him going to basic for that reason!  I don’t mind the Navy dictating our lives, but I don’t want it dictating our wedding haha. 🙂

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

2.5 days of leave per pay period (you get paid on the 1st and 15th).  However, weekend’s count when you’re on leave.  Additionally, the odds that you’ll be able to take a month off at a time is pretty unheard of for most people except terminal leave. 

you only can bring dependents with you when you PCS (i.e. he enters the fleet).  You won’t go with him to school or anything if you’re married at that time.

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