I hate surprises…. and my 30th birthday is Monday

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

stardustintheeyes: um, plan something yourself. If they are planniNg a surprise for you, they are doing a crappy job. 

Stop dropping hints. You’re turning 30. It’s a big deal. Find a cute spa a bit out of town, plan a special getaway for yourself (and whoever else you want to participate) and treat yo self. And if they planned a surprise that you aren’t available for that’s their fault. 

I personally hate feeling anxious so making a plan for myself helps with that. If someone tries to stop me, then they have to come up with a better plan. Sorry not sorry. 

hopefully that helps! Happy 30th birthday!!

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

haha I just turned 30 two weeks ago, and something very simular happend to me, they combined my nieces 1st birthday party with my 30th, I had a feeling they were going to after all they also combined my Grandmothers birthday party with my sisters 30th birthday. I knew about my nieces party and had a feeling they were going to combine mine, sure enough they did. I also hate surprises, I ended up showing up an hour before the party started…that way no one could yell surprise to me, and my best friend was already there so dead give away. Honestly I was secretly hoping everyone would forget about me during 30th due to the wedding coming up…yeah didn’t work, I didnt mind sharing the spotlight with my niece though, took the attention off me.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Sounds like something is being planned, just try to relax and enjoy the surprise! I know surprises aren’t the best but so what?! You only live once, enjoy it!!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I tried to plan my husband a 25th surprise party.  We had all the food ordered, everyone was invited, and stupid FB malfunctioned and somehow changed the event to public from private.  So he saw it and made us cancel everything.  I was so sad…but I pulled it off for his 30th birthday instead.  He’s the same, does not like surprises, hates attention, etc.  But he ended up having a great night…I hope you can too 😉

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

stardustintheeyes:  I HATE, HATE, HATE, HATE, HATE, HATE surprises. To me, they are the world’s most AWKWARD experience. I hate all the eyes on me and I feel like my reaction is never appropriate. I am NOT the type of girl to be like, “OH MY GOD! THANKS SO MUCH! OH MY GOD!”. I more just stand their smiling awkwardly until everyone looks away, lol.

They threw me a “surprise” bridal shower at work (I’m a teacher and 35 (!!) teachers attended it). One of my co-workers ended up telling me when it was because she knew I was stressing about it. When I was about 5 minutes away from work, my heart started pounding and beating SO fast. When I got there, I knew what was going to happen. It was AWFUL. I was shaking, LOL. 

That said, I feel your pain! In terms of them planning something, I highly doubt everyone would ignore your 30th birthday so they must have something planned. Good luck, girl – I TOTALLY feel your pain. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’ve made it clear I never want to be surprised and I’m not a person who will do things she dislikes. So I’ve said I will just turn around and leave no matter how much money was spent, etc. It keeps people from ever trying!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

stardustintheeyes:  I’m turning 30 on Sunday! Yay for cancerians! Yeah I’m not a huge fan of surprises either (cos normally they are a let down, hah and I don’t like have to react properly under pressure/be the centre of attention) but it’s nice they are probably thinking of you and planning something special even if it is a bit misguided (given they know you hate suprises).  Hopefully it is something more low key and not too full on. Let us know how it goes! 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I turn 30 on Tuesday!!! Hello birthday neighbor!! 

 

And maybe they aren’t planning an awkard everyone yell at you SURPRISE moment. Maybe they will wisk you away for a fun spa day, or something less uncomfortable!! 

 

I don’t think my family is planning anything. Which bums me out. Luckily I have my awesome FI who is taking me to St. Louis for a mini vacation!! It was suppose to be a surprise, but he spoiled it! Silly boy! 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so curious to see what is actually going on! Also, at my DH’s surprise party, nobody actually yelled out surprise, they all just grinned at him while he tried to figure out what was going on lol. It’s always a lot worse in our heads…I hope that if it is a surprise party, the fun and love of your friends and family outweighs the first few awkward moments.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Happy Birthday!

 

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