Post # 1
I always imagined something very romantic with a lot of thought and set up going into it. It was very simple – he just got down on one knee and asked. No special occasion, just did it after dinner one night. I feel a little disappointed. And when people ask me “how did he do it”, I feel like I have to start the story with a waiver saying “it wasn’t a big deal or anything…”, but I wanted it to be a big deal! Anyone else have this issue? I LOVE him with all my heart and can’t wait to marry him, but I can’t shake this disappointing feeling that I will have this lackluster story to tell the rest of my life :/
Post # 3
don’t fret. Nobody will ask you how he proposed in a few more months. I have been engaged for almost a year and I really can’t remember the last time anyone asked about it.
Post # 4
We were at a restaurant on our anniversary, and he was so nervous that he wrote the proposal in my card. It was cute, but nothing fancy! I’ll remember that moment forever, but no one else in the restaurant even knew it happened.
I’m sorry you feel that way. Hopefully you’ll be okay with it down the road. I wish I had better advice for you.
Post # 5
I think you should say something like “he did it at home when we were spending the evening together.. he wanted it to be in our home because its a very special place for us and our relationship”.. no one needs any more detail than that. Don’t let your disappointment in the proposal overshadow your joy about your marriage.
Post # 6
Haha, this might not be the answer you’re looking for but you might just be a bad storyteller. An engagement doesn’t have to be in some exotic place or some craziness for it to be romantic. But it’s all how you tell it.
For starters, don’t start off with your waiver! You’re making people feel sorry for you when you have a great guy and have a terrific romance, so sell it. If Grey’s Anatomy can make a post it note wedding look romantic you can make your engagement story romantic.
Post # 7
I think the story is very sweet. Maybe he wanted a private moment at home?
If you act disappointed, people will read it on your face. Spin it positively, that is all you can do. We should not expect our men to do things like they do in movies–expecting such things sets us up for disappointment in the future. Did the proposal reflect your relationship? Reflect him as a person? Surely it does…surely that is why he chose to propose to you THIS way, versus with something over the top.
The big deal is that he asked you to marry him. Not how he did it. Just that he did, and he meant it =]
Post # 8
Mine wasn’t terribly fancy either. We had a yummy dinner, not in a romantic restaurant, our seat wasn’t even nice, it was a really large U shaped booth, we were on one side, 2 older women were on the other (strange). After we ordered our dessert, he nonchalantly got down and did his thing. It wasn’t what I’d imagined. I would of liked a lil more thought. I kept thinking of all the ways he could of done it, ways that would of even saved him money. But eventually I realized I was just happy it’d finally happened. Eventually, this feeling will pass for you too.
Post # 8
I think it should be special regardless of how he did it! I have the opposite problem lol I always wanted it to be just me and him alone having dinner or just lounging around the house and then out of nowhere he just pops the question, no big hoopla just sweet personal and romantic. Instead I got to go to Millenium Park in front of tons of people with friends of ours who tagged along to take pictures of the moment. Even though It wasn’t what I expected or what I thought I wanted it was still amazing and romantic and I will remember it for the rest of my life plus I will be able to have those pictures forever!
Post # 9
Mine was the same way! I always envisioned having some crazy romantic story, but my Fiance just did it one night out of the blue. I was a little upset at first, but the more I think about it the more I realized how perfect it was. We were never a crazy romantic couple, so if he would have taken us to some fancy restaurant or the place we met I would have known what he was up to in a heartbeat. He said his goal was to surprise me, and he certainly did because I had no clue anything would be happening since it was a typical night for us.
Try to put a positive spin on your story when you tell others. I always start with “Well, let me start by saying I can read my Fiance like a book. So, his goal was to propose without out me knowing it was going to happen . .” Or something like that. And in the end it doesn’t matter if others think it was a good proposal. Either way, the man of your dreams asked you to marry him. How could you not be happy no matter which way he did it!
Post # 10
I think your story is more than you think it is!!!! Mine didn’t do anything. He literally handed me a ring box and looked at me funny.
Yours got down on his knew!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so sweet!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 11
My Fiance proposed to me in our house while I was in my Pjs. This was after he lost the key to our safe and I had to find it for him. I still love telling people
Post # 13
The same thing happened to me! It was at home after dinner one night…no big fuss or anything. He was complaining his legs hurt from the gym earlier and ended up kneeling in front of me. The ring was hidden in the couch! And while I read about all these beautiful, elaborate proposals, I am SO glad he did it low-key. I think it was a personal moment that we shared and wouldn’t take it back for anything. It totally fit who we were and our relationship, and that is why it was so special to me! Because while I wanted and was extremely excited for the ring, at the end of the day, I really just wanted him.
Maybe he though giving you a simple proposal was what you wanted…and even if that isn’t true, you get to marry this wonderful man who loves you! As Moose1209 said…keep your story simple…it is now your marriage that really matters!
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2010 - The Glen Manor House
It’s definitely all in how you tell it. Though you may have been disappointed, you can certainly share your story in a way that better communicates how you feel about HIM and being engaged. “I thought it was just an ordinary night, and an ordinary dinner at home, but it changed everything…”
Post # 15
My Fiance made me a powerpoint. yep. he likes to call it a “slideshow”
And in class, one of the professors showed a cartoon of some guy proposing that way and EVERYONE thought it was hilarious.