(Closed) I hate the cat.

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Haha, oh I’m sorry Miss Starlet!  I went through a similar situation with my roommate’s cat.  Couldn’t stand the dang beast.  And I AM a pet person!  I wish I could offer some sage advice, but the darn thing about cats is… they do what they want.  PetSmart has a tool called the Furminator — if you brush the cat with this about once a week (if you can get ahold of it) then that will help with the shedding around the house and on your clothes.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

See if you can find the furbuster at Target.  It’s about half the price of the furminator, I couldn’t believe how expensive that thing was!  

Sorry I can’t help with the other problems, we have two cats of our own, but they are generally well behaved, generally…. 🙂  

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Hmmmm, I am wary of people who dislike animals. If my cats disliked my FI, I would not marry him. Animals tend to be excellent judges of character.

 Have your hubby brush the cat to cut down on shedding. Perhaps keep your bedroom door closed so he doesn’t get in there.

Frankly, I feel sorry for the cat.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have two cats myself and I volunteer at the animal shelter, so I will try to give you some advice.

-Cats are very tempermental and territorial.  I don’t know how long you/your daughter have been living there, but it could definitely take some time for the cat to warm up to the new situation.

-For however long your FI has had the cat, he probably has given it free reign.  Get a spray water bottle of a water gun and give the cat a little spritz when it gets up on the counter or the dining room table.  Also try putting aluminum foil on the table/counter.  They don’t like how it feels on their paws and they’ll learn to stay off.

-Make sure the cat has a scratch pad/scratch post.  You also might want to try soft paws (http://www.softpaws.com) I use them on my cats to keep them from scratching the furniture.  You only put them on their front paws though.

-Second the Furminator, and also try brushing the cat (esp. if it’s hair is a little long)  Also, diet plays a big part in the quality of cats’ hair, so it might help to up the quality of its food.

Sorry for the long response, but hope this helps!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh and FI = husband.  Sorry, I missed the part that you’re already married!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have two cats so I have some experience with them.

If you brush the cat every few days it should keep the shedding to a minimum.  A good way to train cats is to get a little squirt bottle and every time he gets on the dining table or scratches something he shouldn’t, squirt him with water.  You have to be consistant with it and you can’t squirt him for no reason.  If you are gone for part of the day, put some aluminum foil down on the table and that will keep him off it b/c they hate how it feels on their paws.  If he is scratching any other furniture, get some double sided sticky tape and put it on the place where he is scratching, they hate how it feels, and once they associate that feeling with scratching that particular spot, you can remove the tape and he will (hopefully) stay away.  Also, get some new scratching posts for him and put some catnip on them.  My cats love the ones that look like the edge of cardboard.  It’s all about training.  After a few weeks of this, he should learn where he can and can’t scratch.

We did the squirt bottle training with my cat when we first got her.  My parents had a leather living room set and she NEVER jumped up on it or scratched it.

I know it’s hard, but honestly, if you get rid of this cat, there is a good chance that he will get put down.  Older cats don’t get adopted as fast as kittens.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@hotchildinthecity – I guess we were posting at same time!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I second hotchildinthecity’s soft paws idea!  My roommate had those put on her cat and it helped A LOT.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Well, cats are cats. They, by nature are moody and can be tempermental. I have two cats that are now ours. Charlie is like a dog and loves EVERYONE. Quincy is more reserved and definitley Mama’s boy. My FI gets upset that he doesn’t come out to greet him when he gets home from work (he gets home first) and always comes out to see me. I explain to him that he just likes me more, I guess because I was his sole owner for almost two years before we moved in together. It’s not personal with cats!

Some other posters have had some good suggestions as to how to deal with some of the behavioral problems you’re dealing with. As for your daughter, is she rough with the cat? A lot of cats don’t have the patience for “rough play”, and a lot of kids are rough with animals without really meaning to be. I’d keep an eye on her as she’s playing with the cat and see how they interact. If she is being rough, you can teach her to pet gently, and then the cat might warm up to her a bit.

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wait, so the cat only dislikes one of your daughters?  That seems strange to me.  I don’t want to accuse your daughter of anything but is there any possibility that she has done something to him? 

Also, when you say that he is a jerk to your daughter, what is he doing?  Just hissing? 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Miss Starlet: Not to be oversharing advice, but you might want to see how your other daughter approaches the cat, since he seems to like you and your 8-year old daughter.  Cats don’t like to be approached in an area that they can’t get out of, or rushed at excitedly.  I have no idea how old your other daughter is, but some advice would be for her to approach the cat slowly with her hands turned upward.  Also, utilizing toys and treats always helps :o)

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

You truely have my sympathy. I really don’t like cats and would be very unhappy with excess fur and scratching of furniture.

How old is the cat?

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