- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
So what comes as no surprise to me, I got engaged last night. I had been home for Christmas for a week and he had to work, so the day after Christmas I flew home, and he said he had a small present for me to open. We get home and he hands me a wrapped box and I opened it and it was a ring, and he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I said yes of course!
I am feeling REALLY terrible. I never wanted a huge elaborate proposal, but I can’t help but feel disappointed. I mean, I just walked in from the snow and was still nauseous from the flight, and he just asked me in our living room. Plus, it wasn’t a surprise AT ALL. I knew it was coming, especially when he said, “I have a small present for you.”
I will be honest, I opened the ring box, I honestly thought it was a cheap Target ring or something so we could go pick out our own ring together, like we had discussed. It’s not that it wasnt beautiful, it just wasnt anything like anything I had showed him I like, and even he said he didn’t like the rings that looked like this one before. But now he keeps saying how much he loves it, and wishes HE could wear it he likes it so much, haha. I told him later that I didnt’ really like it. I said it just isn’t my style or taste, but that he really did do a good job. And when he proposed, he said if I didnt like it we could go back. But now that I keep asking when we can go back, he is getting kind of mad and saying, “I picked out this one for you.” I feel bad, but he only went to one ring store and was there for 30 minutes, so its not like I’m rejecting a ring he has spent a lot of time picking out. He says we wll go back this Saturday, but is saying the store, a little local family owned, doesn’t have much selection. when I say we don’t have to go there, I can tell he is getting frustrated.
I don’t know what to do. I know A LOT of bride-to-be’s have gone through this. I am torn between sticking with this beautiful ring that is just not my taste because he picked it out for me, or getting a ring I will love since I have to wear it forever…He spent a TON of money on this ring, so I thinkg that if he’s going to spend that kind of money, I might as well actually LIKE it, shouldn’t I? He says he doesn’t care now because the ring is not important , it’s the fact that we are engaged, and I agree. It’s just that my proposal which I have looked forward to my whole life wasnt exactly spectacular, so I would like to have the ring of my dreams.
What do you think? Change it and pick a ring together that I will like, or stick with the sentamentality of the ring he chose for me?