I HATE this….

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
Member
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

i would talk to him and try to convince him that it’s ok and he should tell his trainers 🙂  I was the same way with my little brothers when they got picked on.  Us sisters can be ruthless!!  😀

Post # 4
Hostess
9910 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Nona99:  HUG.  It sounds like he desperately wants to be ‘normal’ (I put that word in quotations because I’m aware it’s not the right word but I don’t know what is).  He didn’t dislose, probably because he wants to be just like everyone else.  What he probably needs help to realize is that if he would just disclose his limitations/medical history he probably has a better shot at being just like everyone else.  Once the trainers know what they’re dealing with they can make sure he’s getting the workout he needs – I’m sure they modify for people all the time, they just need to know what’s up.

Post # 5
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2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If it were my brother, I would encourage him to come to clean at his crossfit gym out of concern for his well-being. He knows you love him and care about what’s best for him.

Post # 6
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1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Nona99:  ::hugs:: I know there is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better, but I do understand that want to protect him and get frusturated at all the idiots out there.  🙁

Post # 8
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43 posts
Newbee

This was the most beautiful thing I’ve read in quite some time. You’re brother is strong. He’s proven time and time again he is just as capable as anyone else. This would upset me too but he sounds like an amazing person who would shrug off the idiocy of the cross-fit trainer. I wish I was this close with my family…

Post # 9
Hostess
9910 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Nona99:  So glad to hear that!  You sound like an awesome sister!  

Post # 10
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3410 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It is lovely you care for, and want to protect him.

But he is a grown man, who can make decisions about his own capacity, limitations and who to share medical information with.

I technically have a ‘disability’ of my own, and I rarely disclose it, because it does not prevent me from doing anthing. If a sibling or well meaning person was to choose to disclose MY issue thinking they knew better than myself about my needs, I would be livid. Just throwing that out there.

Post # 10
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296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - White Point Garden, Charleston, SC

I just want to say I can 100% relate to your brother as I too have cerebral palsy that has rather minor symptoms.  I have a slight limp, lowered flexibility and strength in my legs, and can’t swim or run well.  I also have to choose shoes wisely.

I’m not sure what surgeries he had, but I had a selective dorsal rhizotomy when I was younger and am left with a very large scar on my back that makes me somewhat uncomfortable at times.  Thankfully my FI didn’t bat an eye when he first saw it.

I don’t really have any advice, I just wanted to say that I get it.  I think a lot of not disclosing that you have CP if you don’t have to is a pride thing.  I will say I’ve accepted it a lot more in my 20’s, but when I was a young kid and a tween there was nothing more appealing than appearing 100% “normal”.  I still feel really self-concious in heels because I know that even though I love them, they greatly accentuate my limp.  I feel like people are staring, which may or may not be true.

Anyway, I get it and am sorry he’s going through that.  Sorry for my word vomit!

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