Post # 1
I feel like folks aren’t interested in my wedding and engagement at all. We never got an engagement party, or anything celebratory. Some of my girlfriends took me out one night for drinks, which was nice, but nothing official or big or anything. Neither family has planned anything. There are no plans for anything and frankly I think that ship has sailed. We have been engaged for 8 months now!
Plus, I am getting ZERO help, advice, and interest from most friends and family. Yes, my wedding is far away, but I’m trying to plan in advance, and no one takes me seriously or gives me any feedback. I hear a lot of “Sure that sounds good” as the person I am talking to flips though a magazine and barely listens to me. It would be nice to have a sounding board, or have SOMEONE seem excited!
It makes me annoyed that I am putting so much time and energy and effort and emotion into this and literally, NO ONE cares. Strangers are the only people who comment on my blog! No one I know can apparently be bothered to read it or comment on it! Grrrrrrrrrr. Sorry, just needed to vent.
Post # 3
I’d be feeling the same as you. But, most people will tell you that the interest will get more and more intense as the day gets closer and by the end you might well be sick of people asking how the planning is going! I’m sure you will be able to find someone who can be interested now – I had a couple of girlfriends who were happy to talk chair covers 12 months out, but most people certainly weren’t interested in that kind of detail 🙂
Post # 4
Me too. People start asking how things are going a couple of months out. Most people don’t know you have to plan a year in advance and it doesn’t seem as relevent to them at that point. It was really disappointing at first, since I expected my mom to be over the moon, and she was hardly excited about planning (even seeing pics of my dress) and unimpressed with everything I suggested. You can always hang out on weddingbee. That’s where all my advice comes from.
Post # 5
Things are just now starting to get “exciting” for our friends and family about our wedding. And we’re 3 months out… haha
Post # 6
Thanks ladies for the thoughts and support. I just wish I had someone to like, guide me through some of this and offer enthusiasm and wisdom. I hate stressing out over money and catering and crap and then on top of that, feeling like no one cares. I think I just need to take a deep breath and maybe get FH to be the one that I can chat with about all this…right now, he’s not that into it either!
Post # 7
I’m in the same boat. Even when we were planning something more formal, no one seemed to be enthusiastic. I know it has a lot to do with the fact that they don’t really celebrate weddings the same way we do back in the States. But still … I wish I can offer some advice but all I can say is try to ignore them?! This is why I started posting on WB – everyone’s either a continent away (asleep when I’m awake) and the ppl here act as if we’re planning a birthday!
Post # 8
That’s what wedding bee is for! Haha, if I didn’t have this site to bounce ideas of off/share my excitement with I think my friends and family would be going nuts by now! They have shared in the excitement, but I understand they don’t want to talk about wedding stuff 24/7 (whereas I would be happy to do so). So when I need my fix of wedding chat, I just log on the Bee.
Don’t worry, as it gets closer and people realize it’s coming up they’ll get more excited. A lot of people don’t have engagement parties (we didn’t) and that doesn’t mean your friends and family aren’t happy for you.
Post # 9
I’m feelign the same way! Not even my bridal party is acting concerned. It’s really discouraging. My grandma had the nerve to say to me “I didn’t know that you guys were even still doing it” and I was so offended, “no, I just have a ring on my finger for the h*ll of it!” For real people!
Post # 10
Nobody got pumped for my wedding until I had like, 5 months to go. And then it was just my mom. At about 3 months til, everyone was getting excited.
I mean, I can’t say I’d be super interested in someone’s wedding that is happening 1+ years away. It’s just too far out yet. Give ’em time!
Post # 11
My wedding is in just over 2 months and I’ve got a few people around me like that. My fiance’s parents barely acknowledge it. My coworkers are excited though, and I hear more from them than my MOH! I didn’t have an engagement party. You’ll most likely have a shower, but you do have a ways off before that. Like everyone else said, give it time. It seems too far away for most people. My fiance is really just started to get excited and ready to plan. He’s been pretty quiet during most of this too.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Nobody cares about my wedding either. And I’m not asking for much. I didn’t need a party or celebration, I just wish that someone besides my mother would be slightly interested.
Everyone was really excited at first, and then lost interest, especially my two bridesmaids – their eyes glaze over every time I bring up the wedding (which, for the past few months, has been like NEVER).
It was a bit hard to take at first until I realized a few things:
- NOBODY is going to care about the wedding as much as I do.
- I’m sure that once we’re closer to the wedding (3-4 months out), everyone’s enthusiasm will pick back up.
- I can either be upset and bitter about it for a year, or I can just chalk it up to the two above factors. If wedding-time rolls around and people still don’t care at all, then maybe I’ll get upset again, but I’m not going to worry about it until then.
Post # 13
I literally just came on weddingbee for this EXACT reason! I completely feel your pain! I have now been engaged for over a year. Everyone says those same things like, “Yeah, that sounds great.” Or “Good idea!” But that’s it! And I’m trying to plan my wedding in Vancouver Canada, where only my FI’s sister lives. His parents and us, live here in Jordan. His parents go every year in Feb, so we planned it at that time, for his family. Unfortunately, the tickets cost over $3000 for FI and I to go, and FSIL, who lives there(who we untimately chose THIS date for as she is having a baby and her parents want to be there so we are going at that time) has not even offered for us to stay with her and her husband. SO, on top of the $3000 in plane tickets as none of HIS Family could make the travel to the city where my WHOLE ENTIRE family lives, we NOW have to foot the bill for hotel and rental car!! With NO help, advice or suggestions from them. Also, I cannot really complain/talk to my family about this, cause poor them–they have to foot the same bills as us!!! GRRR. Sorry to hijack your thread!! My point– no one seems to care about my wedding either. I have been with FI for 9 years! Good god– I just want to get the wedding over with already!!
Hugs to you!!
Post # 14
yeah, i know what you mean. No one got excited for my wedding until the week of. Then it was non-stop action. My advice is to try and not take it personally. Until I was a bride, I could never have imagined and appreciated all the hard work that goes into planning. Now that I’ve had the same experience, I can get so excited now for my friend’s weddings and always show support and interest in even the tiniest details, because I’ve been there.
Post # 15
Yeah, I have to agree with KLP — we’re three months out too and it feels like only now friends and family (outside my mom and my bff/moh) are getting excited about stuff. We didn’t have an engagement party either, or get engagement gifts — it’s okay. It’s hard for others to get excited about an event that’s a) not the central focus of their life and b) pretty far out (I know it doesn’t feel far off to you, but it is to them). I’m sure they don’t mean any offense. Just stay in your Happy Planning Bubble and wait until you’re a few months out — I *promise* the energy will ramp up then.
Post # 16
Thanks all, and sorry for those os you going through the same freakin thing. I guess it’s a good thing we have weddingbee huh? I’m gonna try to take everyone’s advice and just stay positive and assume people will get into it closer to the date.
@XxMyXxDecemberXx: omg we’re date twins!!! i wonder if there are more of us out here yet….
@danadelphia: You are always so wise!
@NatDawn: Welcome to weddingbee, sounds like you are fairly newish from your post. Sound like a pain with the destination wedding, but hopefully it will turn out awesomely!