I hate wedding culture as depicted by media/pop culture.

posted 3 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I agree. I was shocked the first time I heard that commercial. Of course the bride is usually the one who cares about the details and the planning, but she wouldn’t be doing any of that without the groom. So he’s 50% of the day, not 0%. 

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I dislike that sort of stuff for different reasons. I am not a fan of how much money the bridal industry expects us to spend and how it’s supposed to be the most important day of our lives blah blah. You NEED to spend at least $25K or your wedding sucks… etc. No thanks.

Actually, I find it pretty amusing that it’s the ‘bride’s day’. About freakin time women get something where men aren’t #1. Just saying. I totally agree that in theory it should be about both people (and for most people it really is about them both). Let’s face it, though.. men still make more for doing the same job (in some cases), up until recently societies across the world have been male dominated. So seeing women being #1 doesn’t bug me so much. And really, I think most men couldn’t care less about table linen colors and bridesmaid dresses so I don’t think most of them mind letting their bride call the shots.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

alt_bride:  Totally agree!! Many things about the wedding industry tick me off!!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I HATE that commercial! 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I remember seeing that commercial and going “uh. no.”

It’s ridiculous advertising IMO

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

alt_bride:  FI and I went to an open house at one of the venues we were looking at and spoke to many of the venues there. As we were leaving and talking about who we liked and why, FI says, “I found a new game to play in this whole planning process.” I ask him to elaborate and he says, “It’s interesting to see who the vendors are talking to. Most of them were talking to you. A couple split evenly between the both of us. I don’t think any were specifically talking to me.” I had to think about it, but it was true. Almost all of the vendors spoke only to me, occasionally glancing at FI. I’ve determined that any vendor who’s only interested in me and not us as a couple isn’t one I want to work with. FI is a key player and deserves to be treated as such. You can’t ignore him and still get my business.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

I think it be really weird for the day to be about only the bride and not about getting married. I do think it’s normal for the bride to do most of the organizing just because they care more about all the details. My groom was lovely on the day and thanked me for my hard work in organising most of it. Aww. 

When it comes to equality, the thing that bothers me most is the proposal. I just hate the idea of women waiting around to be asked. Argh! It kills me. Women are no longer second class citizens and can do anything a man can do, but so many of us sit around and wait for the man to make the decision about when it’s the right time to get married. It just feels like waiting to be “chosen” and told your good enough so you won’t be left on the shelf. It just bothers me. 

I’m not trying to critize anyone waiting or anything like that. I know some of the feelings myself. My husband and I decided together that it was time, but he wanted to do the traditional proposal so I waited in agony for the ring to arrive and him to do the asking. It was nice and emotional, but in some ways I would have preferred to just pick out a ring together, buy it and put it straight on my finger. Haha. 

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I almost wrote this same post last week when I saw that commercial for the first time. As far as I’m concerned it’s insulting to women because it isn’t (or at least shouldn’t) be a reality! It’s not very far to jump from thinking ‘It’s the bride’s day’ to thinking ‘She’s a bridezilla’ for people when this is ingrained into culture.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

canarydiamond:  I don’t think it’s really any more flattering to women than the fact that commercials for anti-aging products, shoes, kitchen appliances, and weight loss products are all aimed at us. It’s not like they’re saying “women are #1 in science and engineering!” Or “women are #1 in cancer research!” They’re just pandering to us because they know we’re the ones who are more likely to feel pressured to buy into the “pretty princess day”. It’s not really an empowerment thing, IMO…it’s a sales tactic and nothing more.

Just my $0.02.

And to the OP, I had the exact same reaction to that commercial.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

alt_bride:  I TOTALLY agree!! I remember seeing it for the first time and thinking “WHAAAAAAT???????” and even everytime after shaking my head. AND here this whole time i thought it was about the VOWS, UNION and LOVE between two people

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I was thinking the same thng about that commercial, “it’s all about the bride, and for the bride, it’s all about the dress”, thanks for explaining that to me, here I was thinking it was about love and commitment.  I hate the concept of “my day”. I went for an awful hair trial, and they wanted to start the dya of the wedding at 9AM, I told them that I was worried that would be too early, and people would be tired. The hair dresser’s response? “It’s your day, you get your beauty sleep and just have your bridesmaids be there early.” Ugh.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Maui

I was in America over the New Year’s Holiday and I was actually watching the TLC wedding program marathon.  It was the first time I had ever seen those shows.  And I saw that David’s Bridal commercial and thought it was dumb too.

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