Post # 1
I am so annoyed with planning our wedding! First it’s drama with his family. Then it’s my mom trying to take over the planning. Next it’s bridesmaids who won’t respond to text, e-mail, or phone call about the dresses, etc. When people ask me how “planning” is going, they probably expect me to be so happy. And I’m just like, eh I’m ready for it to be over. Baha, as I’m saying it they lose interest so whatever. Honestly, if it didn’t involve other people I could be completely done with planning tomorrow. My fiance has been great about the whole thing–he chimes in when it’s important to him, and says “what” when he doesn’t care.
But seriously… how can you spend 9 months to a year planning a wedding? Ok ok, I know HOW you can, because it takes a lot. But I like to get to the point so I am so over it. Do y’all have supportive family members? Do you have OVERLY supportive family members? What about non-supportive ones?
Ok I’m done 🙂
Post # 3
I hear ya. Everyone has been supportive, but I’m just over it. I just want to get married and not worry about flowers, decor, or budget. I just want to go on my honeymoon and be married to my FI. 🙂
Post # 4
If this is how you feel, maybe take a little break for a week or so from wedding planning.
FI and I have had almost a two year engagement, which for me meant starting planning right away 🙂 …. About 6 months ago we were getting into several (unessary) arguments about details and both decided it was not worth the trouble, and we took a whole month off of planning. When we came back to it we were refreshed and had a better perspective on the whole experience.
I wish I could help you with the Bridesmaid issues. Can you try to make a date out of you and your maids get together to pick their dresses. Offer to take them to coffee or lunch and with plans of picking out bridemaids dresses?
Post # 5
i know exactly how you feel. take a break! for at least a week, try not to even think about the wedding. i promise these feelings will pass.
Post # 6
I sooo know what you mean. I absolutely hate wedding planning. I wish it was done already or just wish could hand the reins over (I do have a wedding planner) she has done quite a bit of work for me but haha wish could tell her here pay for it also.
Post # 7
The thing is, I’m honestly done planning the wedding from my end. I have to meet with a few vendors but I’m not doing that for a few more months until my mom can come down (because SHE wants to be involved). That’s fine with me I guess. But my problem is that nobody will let me take a true break from it. I already told my mom I don’t want to talk about it anymore–but she is constantly calling and telling me what I need to do. My dad is constantly e-mailing me about the plans. They are just so annoying! I don’t have anything to do right now–so this should be my break.
As far as bridesmaids go, we already picked out the dress. But they have a deadline to buy the dress by Friday. I told them 3 weeks ago when the deadline was and asked if anyone needed help. (If we don’t do it by Friday we don’t get our deal discount). Anyway, I didn’t expect them to order it three weeks ago. But I did expect them to respond. I’ve texted, e-mailed, and called. Can’t do it in person because everyone is out of town.
I’ve been “taking a break” from planning for about a month now, and yet it’s still stressful because of other people I can’t control. Oh well, this is just my sill vent.
Post # 8
It was fun at first……I’m over it now.
Post # 9
I don’t really want to put all my family crap on the www for anyone to see, but to answer your question in short: YES. I have had family drama. And I am so over wedding planning. Not just for that reason… for a lot of reasons. It is not as much fun as I thought it was going to be.
In the end, I think (and hope) it’ll all be worth it… but to be totally honest… I am SO excited to have the wedding and then be done with it and just be married.
Post # 10
I took the entire Jan off, I felt much better..
But now I came back from my break, I am still annoyed by all this. Hang in there!
Post # 11
Well at least I’m not the only one! Thanks everyone for sharing and advice! I think I just need to have a light heart about all of this and enjoy it. Easier said than done. 🙂
Post # 12
Ugh…sooo sorry you are going through this. I am running into the same problem. My flower girls mom just hasn’t gotten around to getting the dress yet. Really? I sent you the link 9 months ago….then I resent it 6 months ago…..and just today….I sent it again. I’m not saying she has to buy it now, I understand little kids grow like weeds….but I gave her three choices and I said pick one…yeah, hasn’t happened yet. SHe also hasn’t RSVP’d to my shower….3 people in my family have spoken to her about it and nobody has heard back. Le sigh, I will NEVER understand why people wait until the last minute….
Post # 13
im so over it too. Everything wedding related has been making me way too stressed out and depressed lately. I know how you feel. i havent done much planning lately but it still haunts me and I still think about it everyday..also family drama with the future in laws arnt elping me feel any better. i just found out the other day that most of FI’s relatives arnt going to be in town when we get married even though we sent them save the dates a long time ago. Also, a bunch of friends are pregnant now so they say they are due in the Fall and might not come too..I feel like our wedding has become a big inconvenience now..I’m sick of it all! i really cant wait for the honeymoon..we’re going to Europe!
Post # 14
We have over a year to go and sometime I feel a little over whelemed but then I stop and think “is it THAT big of deal? It’s supposed to be fun and when it stops being fun is when I have to make it fun again.