Post # 1
Yes, I have dreamed about finding the perfect man. Yes, I have dreamed about being married to this perfect man and having a perfect family. I found the man, I still dream about the family but NO, I have NEVER dreamed about the nightmare that is planning a wedding.
So, my wedding date countdown currently says go time is 50 days, 2 hours, 47 minutes. Strap me into a straight jacket because I feel like I am losing my freaking mind. These small details are making me feel like a moody, miserable, raging lunatic. My patience is wearing thin and all the while I’m struck with such guilt for not being able to chill out and enjoy the whole process.
Will the florist come through with arrangements I will like? I really hope I don’t look disgusting in my pictures. How am I going to do my hair? Should I do my own makeup? Do I need any extra lighting at the reception? Are the reception tables going to look too plain because I don’t want them to look too busy? Wedding card box or bag? Which hotel should I book? Necklace with the pearls or the bling? Hope my shoes don’t give me blisters. Why don’t my bridesmaids help me or even talk to me for that matter? Chardonnay or Pinot Grigio? White labels or ivory? What should I put on the song list? Oh crap, that reminds me…dance lessons, need to take some dance lessons.
Advice comes in the form of statements like, “Just have fun and don’t let the little things bother you.” Save your breath because all of us brides have come to find out that the little things are EVERYthing when it comes to wedding planning. The closest I’ve come to following that advice is when I downed a considerably strong alcoholic drink before noon last Saturday. The few hours of planning that followed didn’t bother me too much.
Add “buy another handle of vodka” to the list of to do’s.
Countdown now reads 50 days, 2 hours, 12 minutes. Just found out I have to reprint all of the invitations. The black print isn’t readable against the dark purple background. Better reinforce the arms of that straightjacket, the crazy just hit a new level.
Post # 3
hahahhaa oh my god! You soound just like me! I was having the same meltdowns and now that the day is 2 weeks away, I think everyone has disowned me. My new passion….trying to control the weather so we don’t have a freaking tsunami on my big day. i feel you pain, but trust me it does get better 🙂
Post # 4
hahaha Thanks for sharing…I feel the same..my head is going to spin right off of my shoulders soon.
I too am attempting to control the weather for my special day…why am I having an outdoor ceremony again????
Post # 5
Lol. I’m a terrible wedding planner. I’m amazing at planning ANYTHING else. But this wedding? It’s been on the backburner for quite a while. I get a few little things done here and there, but here we are about 6 months out and there are LOTS of things left to get done. I have a feeling I’ll be exactly in your shoes.
I have no advice, just agreement. Lol. Good luck. It WILL work out…in it’s own way. 🙂
Post # 6
I tend to do better under pressure so I’m happy that I planned our small intimate wedding in a month and only had to worry about a minor issue a month prior. I just wanted to get married so I really rolled w/ the punches. Now the day of, I wish I had just ELOPED!!!! Family can bring out the best and the worst in a Control Freak like me.
Post # 7
Im far off from my wedding date so I am calm right now but I am mentally preparing myself for anything to come my way…. Hoping that it will somehow help me
Post # 8
@toylitpapr: I LOVE your honesty!! This post made my day because wedding planning certainly is not all roses. I have time but the thought of those little details makes me want to bite all my fingernails and pull my hair. haha. Can I just add two statements I HATE hearing: “it’s only one day”..”Oh, just elope”. Everyone can damn well do what he/she pleases and yes, everyone should be sensible about it. But I hate when people imply one is not being sensible if that makes sense.
Anyways, I wish you the best of luck with the rest of your planning. As long as you and your FH enjoy the day, everything will work out. 🙂
FYI, i hope someone reminds me of this next July haha
Post # 9
I’m handling my dislike for this sort of planning by going easy on the little details. I did a few craft little things myself and I have a few more planned, but there are a lot of things that I felt weren’t important for me that other people think are vital, so I just didn’t bother with those things.
Post # 10
I can relate to this so much. I’m going out of my mind! I thought this was suppose to be an exciting time as well but those exciting times are very few and far between. Our wedding is going to be about 50 people at the very most. I thought that would cut down on the stress factor but not really. And, the stupid countdown is not helping. I keep asking myself why we didn’t elope.
Pass me the Vodka please……
Post # 11
I love wedding planning. 🙂 The only things I don’t like are:
1. People that don’t get back to you
2. Tight finances (but that is due to Fiance getting laid off, and hopefully will change this week!!)
Post # 12
I hated every aspect of wedding planning. I did not want a wedding. I wanted to be married to the man of my dreams. I wanted to eat tasty food (at a restaraunt perhaps) and party with my friends and family. Darling Husband and his family wanted the whole shebang. And I love him, so I did it. And if I am doing something, I am doing it right. I knew I was an emotional wreck. I knew I was stressed and even when I wasnt working on wedding projects I still didn’t want to go out and to dinner, hang out with friends, or see much of anyone.
My wedding was last wekeend. I had fun but I am SO FREAKING GLAD its over. I didn’t realize the weight I was under until it was off of me. For the first time in over a year I am stress free and happy. In the last week we have gone on our honeymoon, had dinner at my sisters house, took my niece to the Science Museum for the King Tut exhibit, watched a movie with both of my nieces, been more productive at work, and had my first girls night (dinner, wine and cheesecake) in way too long.
It feels good. In 47 days, you get to marry the love of your life. And after that you have the rest of your friggin life to ENJOY.
Post # 13
Ok, I love the planning and all the stuff involved and yes, I’ve been told by a couple people they’re gonna be asking me to help when THEY get married. (I’m still wondering if they were serious or just joking… hard to tell with these friends, lol. I love ’em, but boy are they crazy!!!)
I just don’t think I could handle planning EVERYONE’S wedding. It just isn’t my style, since my way is totally different from everyone else. Plus, I’m weird. I embrace my weirdness and geekiness, and gamer-ness, as well as all that is my Fiance.
Besides, if I can plan this…. I can plan ANYTHING!!!!
Post # 14
Caterer insurance not adequate for the reception site but we already paid them half and now the freaking caterers/bakers are on vacation and not getting back to any of our phone calls or emails. Final payments due in 2 weeks and not sure we’ll have enough money. We can get the roses I want but they may not be the same color orange. My hairdresser stood me up and now I’m screwed unless I can figure out my own half up-do with a braid on my own or pay a ton to someone I’ve never met to do my hair. Why hasn’t one of the bridesmaids tried on her gd dress and it’s still hanging in my closest! EEEEEKKKKK!!!!
Post # 15
I come into work at least twice a week screaming “I AM NEVER GETTING MARRIED EVER AGAIN!”
It’ll work out, and as long as you’re married that’s all that matters. But if you’re at it, I’ll share that bottle of Voldka with you 🙂
Post # 16
@Melie12:TOTALLY makes sense!!!