Post # 1
I’m having a crappy evening. I am exhausted emotionally. I hate where we live (Georgia).
My FI and I have been living here for a year. He lived here several years before he moved to the west coast and we both moved back for his job. We were living on the west coast and I was there for 7 years. I miss the beautiful scenery, weather, great friends and the great jobs I held.
I love my FI with all my heart and we are in this together. He is not a fan of this place either, but he has an excellent job. The people here are different. I felt like I fit in much easier in California. My experience with people here has been very negative. I am at an emotional low right now. I know we are stuck here for at least a few more years. I know that I need to suck it up and deal with it, but I have no idea how I will be able to do so.
Post # 3
I’m sorry you’re unhappy 🙁 We move every few years- We’re both from Michigan, moving to Virginia was a big change. I’ve found keeping myself busy and finding positive things to focus on helps.
Post # 4
I would see if you can find a painting class or ceramics or photography class or something similar at a community college. You might be able to meet some new people and find something you enjoy.
When I feel down, I do these painting class/wine tasting combo classes. They’re only a few hours, but so fun. I go alone, because I like to meet the new people. Plus I like having the me-time to escape a little bit!
Post # 5
hey… but by living in georgia, you could do disney world vacations for alot cheaper than you would if you lived like in the midwest or something. sure, in california you would be close to disneyland… but disney world has so much more!
so… there is my bright side for you.
and yes, i think of everything in it’s relation to disney world.
Post # 6
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way! It’s funny though-I’m from Georgia and living in Albuquerque right now and I’m super homesick. Just goes to show you it’s all about perspective! Hopefully we’ll both be able to focus on the good 🙂
Post # 7
The reality is that there are nice people everrywhere and it’s the people that make the difference not the place.
I have moved a lot in my life and I encourage you to be the one who makes the first move to meet new friends. Invite people over for dessert and coffee or to watch a hockey game- anything!
Your attitude will have a lot to do with how you adapt to your new home.
Post # 8
Yeah, it’s definitely hard when you do a big move like that. Me and the DH moved from Philadelphia to Seattle. We both aren’t a big fan of the area. It’s definitely different from where we used to live. I don’t mind it and I could live here a couple more years if I had to because of my pretty good job. DH on the otherhand hates it. Like you, we would prefer the Philadelphia weather over Seattle weather. Plus, all of our friends and family are still on the east coast. We might be moving back in a year or two.
Post # 9
Thank you for the support, ladies. I am sticking it out because I have no choice. I hope things get better, but I have my doubts. I am not a southerner. Southern California fit my personality so well. My FI hates this place as much as I do. I just hope we get out of here within the next five or so years (his job is keeping us here). I will get more involved despite my hesitation to do so due to my past experiences. Thanks again, ladies.
Post # 10
Have you checked out the music scene? There’s a side of ATL that I didn’t see until I went to concerts and shows. Nice people. Friendly people. Chill people.
Obviously, if music isn’t your thing, then there’s a simple solution: move to Charlottesville, VA. I’ve never met anyone who wasn’t happy here. They call it The Hook because those who leave always come back eventually. 🙂
I’m sorry…I’m not helping. I’m being goofy!
Post # 11
That totally sucks, sweetie. But you know – as pp’s have said, there really are great people everywhere. Sometimes you have to take the first step and show everyone else how friendly you are.
Post # 12
We’ll have to check Charlotesville out one of these days when we head up there to visit a friend that lives nearby! 🙂 Thank you all for your support. I am going to make the most of my time here. I kinda have no choice, but I am going to make more of an effort to get involved. And oh yes, try not to be so dang sensitive.
Post # 13
I’m going to go out on a limb and guess that some of what you don’t like may be political/cultural? If it is too conservative for your tastes, try doing activities that will bring you into contact with the more liberal side. Others have suggested the music and arts scene, which is good advice. You could also volunteer with a political campaign, if you’re into that, or at a homeless shelter, women’s organization, or other cause you believe in.
Post # 14
@MonAmi: I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I’m a city girl to my very core and have been living in NH for about 4 years now. Needless to say, it’s not for me. I still have about 2 more to go up here, so I know it can be really really rough. How long have you been there? All I can say is it does get a bit easier eventually. I’m not saying you’re ever going to love it there or anything, but my experience was that I was absolutely totally miserable at first and I’ve slowly gotten used to it and started to be able to focus on other things. Good luck!
Post # 15
Ugh, I’m sorry. I could have written this post, except replace Georgia with Tennessee and the West Coast for the Southwest. I have been in Knoxville (moved from Santa Fe, NM) since December and I am trying not to cry every day (usually failing).
I just keep reminding myself that I hated Santa Fe every day for 2 years, called my parents sobbing daily, every time I left I vowed never to return…… Then one day it clicked, and when I left after 7 years, I was fighting it tooth and nail.
We too are stuck here for a few years (FI has three kids here, that is why we came back).
I’m not anticipating loving Tennessee, but if I can get through a day without getting heartache thinking about the Rocky Mountains, it will be a good day. I hope you have the same outcome.
I wish you strength and good luck.
Post # 16
I have to kind of laugh because I’m the exact opposite. DH is from GA and I went to school there and we can’t wait to eventually move back (we’re in TX now). I lived in Southern CA for a while and was not a fan. I got there and never understood why SoCal gets so much hype. To each their own I guess!
I’ll second PPs that you really have to put yourself out there and make the first steps to meeting new people be that by checking out the music scene, taking a wine tasting/art/ceramics/etc class, signing up for a sports league, or inviting your neighbors over for dessert night. Base you activity on what interests you and you enjoy and you can meet some new, like-minded people!
Also, try not to focus on how much you hate it. You will never learn to appreciate anything about GA if you constantly focus on negatives. It may not be your favorite place on earth and you may never love it, but always focusing on the negatives will just make you miserable.