I hated my wedding :( (long)

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I am SO SORRY this happened. I’m glad that you’re keeping the perspective that at least you got to marry the man you love. I would strongly advise that you plan a nice romantic weekend for your first anniversary, maybe at a nice country B&B, have some candlelit dinners, breakfast in bed, etc.

Post # 4
3813 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Aw, I’m so sorry so many things went wrong on your big day.  But you’re right, you are married to your best friend now and you have your whole lives together to look forward to!  In the end I hope you are able to put this all behind you and not dwell on it… maybe in the future you can have a vow renewal that better represents you and the kind of wedding you originally wanted.

Post # 5
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I”m sorry you had such a crappy day. But it’s over now. All you can really do now, is choose how to think about it. I would encourage you to try to focus on the positives of the day. And just let the rest of it go. Kepp this in mind when planning things in the future, but don’t let yourself wallow because it wasn’t how you pictured it. Or let yourself wallow some and then get over it. The marriage is the important part. And the wedding is only a brief moment in the whole of the marriage. 

Post # 6
2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

OMG! I’m truly sorry that you did not enjoy your wedding. I think the worst part is your MIL making your DH clean up. Well actually it might be a tie between that and people showing up at your house after your wedding.

So sorry, but I’m sure you still looked beautiful and you got to marry your man!

Post # 7
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Sounds like you need some new friends and family. What a shitty sounding bunch of folks!

I’m so sorry your day wasn’t what you’d hoped!

Post # 8
1681 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh no. I think my heart honestly broke for you. I don’t think anything will take away the sting. I bet when you get your pictures back there will at least be a few that make your heart flutter. You finally got to leave that church and you finally got your husband!

I completely agree with PP. You need a perfectly planned weekend away. ASAP. Anniversary or not, you need something happy to celebrate your marriage.


(If it makes you feel any better, and I doubt it will, it sounds like you described MY mother. Eesh!)


Post # 9
8850 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@leahlou:  Aw poor thing!  I’d glad you realize the most important part of your wedding day went smoothly (marrying your man!!!) but the rest of that does sound pretty sucky for you.  I think the B&B anniversary idea is a great one.  You could even do a vow renewal, just the two of you, somewhere beautiful in the country to get your outdoor wedding feeling…

Post # 11
2878 posts
Sugar bee

Awwww gosh, I feel so bad reading this. *hugs* I would try to organize something romantic just for my husband and I, I think. Really, you have to turn the tables so you won’t have such negative memories of your wedding. Can you take a small vacation somewhere, if not litterally elope and have a ‘vow renowal/2nd unofficial wedding’ with your hubby, in a nice place for both of you ? Really, go anywhere you please for a few days. 

Edit : you posted your answer as I was writing mine. It’s good to know you’ve already tried to figure out a solution for you and your husband. I hope you’ll have a very romantic and relaxing week-end. 


Post # 12
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It sounds like a stressful event, and I’m sorry you had to go through all that.  But your head and heart are in the right place with the right perspective!  Plan a nice getaway soon – just for the two of you a long drive/flight from home and with YOUR flair – and maybe you’ll be able to laugh at all this.

Perhaps your laid-back, country barn vision can happen someday when you can pay for it yourselves as a big birthday bash or anniversary/renewal party… The theme doesn’t have to be written off just yet!

Post # 13
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I hope you and your husband have a fabulous week/weekend planned somewhere someday, and I hope you tell no one and just go be together.

Post # 14
3077 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@leahlou:  I think doing something next year WITHOUT the in laws OR your mom sounds like it’ll make for a much better experience! I am SO sorry it went so poorly, I’m happy for you that you’re married though!! I know that’s a really hard thing to hold onto when you spend SO much time planning this “perfect” “dream” day but just try keeping in mind that you can do a do-over next year!

Post # 16
2079 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@leahlou:  Geez, how awful! I’m sorry so many things went wrong on your special day. If it helps, I’ve heard rain is good luck on your wedding day. It rained on our day also. Did you and your new hubby at least get to go on a honeymoon?

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