Post # 1
So the man and I are getting married (Yay!) The thing is there is no ring yet. He doesn’t want to tell people that we are getting married until it is official and I have a ring. I respect that…. well in theory I respect that. I have totally run my mouth and have told people. I am a girl and I come from a family full of girls so we talk talk talk. The man and I have talked specifics and we are planning but the point is I’m supposed to keep my mouth shut. I am really close with my boss (I work for a family) and so I HAD to tell her. Her and her husband were both around yesterday and they told me that they would like to give us $150 towards wedding invites and she is offering her services to help with the design of the invitations. Our wedding is going to have a lot of DIY aspects so $150 will go a long way with invites which is totally exciting to me. Should I tell the man about this awesome gift now or should I wait until I get the ring? We are long distance and I know I will be getting the ring the next time I see him but it won’t be for another two months. After the most recent visit, I felt bad about not listening to what he wants and waiting to tell people so I don’t want to stress him out or put added pressure. I’m rambling… point is, should I tell him about the money now or when there’s some bling on my left hand?
Post # 3
I personally would wait. I mean, it is awesome news that your boss is going to help you guys out like that! That is definitely sweet, but I think since your guy is really trying to keep things on the DL right now, it might not be necessary to add that stress and pressure to his plate. I totally understand the big mouth thing because I totally can’t keep a secret to save my life. I honestly have the hardest time not telling something. But in this situation, you guys discussed keeping things quiet. Maybe ask your guy if you can compromise and just tell only certain people until you have your ring. That way you aren’t spilling the beans too early.
Post # 4
My inclination would be to wait, but it would also bug me to have a secret like that from my SO. So, if you don’t think it will upset him, you could tell him that you had to tell SOMEONE so you told your boss and GREAT NEWS, they made that generous offer.
How do you think he’d handle that?
Oh and congratulations!
Post # 5
How long are you expecting to be waiting for the ring? If it’s a short wait, like a couple of weeks or less, I would wait.
Post # 6
I would wait.. I can’t imagine having to hold something like that in! That must be really tough.. I totally don’t blame you for spilling the beans– how could you not?? LoL. It may be hard to hold the news of such a great gift in too, but I’m sure it’ll be easier than keeping an engagement under wraps. You said you’ll get your ring in a couple of months, right? If so, I’d definitely keep the gift news to myself until after the ring. Nothing good will come from you telling him any sooner… so why not wait?
Oh.. and congratulations! So exciting!
Post # 7
LOL i’d keep it shut about the gift!!