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Seriously this girl is driving me bonkers.  She is acting like this is her wedding and not mine!  For starters, she is freaking out about her hair.  I hired a girl to come do our hair (if they want) and she's like-I'm going to need at least 3 hours for her to do my hair.  She does have really curly hair, but 3 hours??  I emailed the girl I hired and she said she's not worried and it won't take that long, but my BM is still insisting that it is.  I told BM that she doesn't need to worry so much about her hair because it's a pretty casual wedding.  She can just pull it back for all I care.  Oh no, she must have it blown out, curled and put in an updo.  She is mad because there won't be a hair trial that she can come to (I live 9 hours away from the wedding place). Who ever heard of a BM needing a hair trial??

My MOH was trying to plan a shower for me and wanted to reserve a room in the back of my favorite restaurant back home (a very casual place).  BM was not having it.  She said we needed brunch with mimosas and cucumber sandwiches and china and real silverware and we'd do it in her parents' ballroom (yes, they have a ballroom on their house).  That is SO not me!  MOH tried to tell her that, but BM was not budging.  Needless to say, the shower ended up not working out (couldn't make it down).  It's probably a blessing in disguise.  

BM took the Friday before the wedding off (as did her husband) since it's about 2 hours from where she lives.  I asked all the BMs to help us decorate if at all possible before the rehearsal on Friday night.  BM said they check in to their room at 4 and will come help decorate after that.  Um, the rehearsal is at 5:30.  If you have the whole day off, why can't you come earlier and check in after we decorate?  That would give them time to get settled in before the rehearsal.  Their hotel is only 10 minutes away.  Everyone else is coming early to help, so why can't she?!

On a NWR note, she went off on me the other day because I fussed at her for taking an obscene amount of multivitamins.  She has been eating like 8 gummy vitamins a day.  She kept trying to tell me there was no way to overdose on vitamins and blah blah.  This girl has no science or medical training btw.  So I found a report from the poison control saying that over 60,000 people overdosed in 2004.  She was like-what is your problem?  Why are you being so aggressive?  I don't do aggressive.  I told her that I was worried about her and she obviously wasn't listening to what I was telling her, so I provided proof that I was right.  She told me never to do that again and basically put rules down for our friendship.  WTF??

I'm really dreading the wedding weekend because of her.  I don't think she gets that this is not about her and she can't be dictating how everything is going to go!

Shameless bump for advice!  How do I deal with her???

@ViaMinorViator:  Aww man, I love this!  Seriously, I've had it with her and the next time she does something I think I'm just going to be blunt like that!