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I feel like I've been dishonest, lol.
I've been legally married to Danny for 2 years this year.
When we signed the papers, I was very ill. We didn't know what was going to happen to me. We had planned to get married that year anyway, but life got in the way and we had to cancel. He needed full control over my health records, so we just went down to the courthouse and did it anyway. We eloped.
He bought me a dress for $100 so I could feel special. He also colored my hair, did my makeup (my hands were too weak to do so and I was dizzy all the time) and picked out purple shoes and purple flowers for my hair for me. I was in a wheelchair at the time, but I pulled myself out of it for the ceremony. He held me up.
I'd always mourned the fact that I never got a proper wedding. Last year, I drastically improved, no longer needing the wheelchair and beginning to carry on a fairly normal life...but my day was over with.
Not long ago I had a dream. It was a dream of a beautiful wedding! I woke up feeling sad because I had never felt that. I never got MY day. That special day where a girl can be queen, even if only for a little while. I told Danny about my dream and started to cry. Suddenly he looked at me and said "let's do it!" "do what?" I said, unsure of what he meant. "Let's have our wedding! It'll be awesome! You can get your dream dress and we can have a ceremony in the park and then a huge reception! How about it? Will you marry me? Again?" Of course, I said yes.
I guess just calling myself "engaged" on this site rather than "married but still planning a wedding" was just easier. So yeah. There's my confession. I've been legally married over a year, but I'm finally planning the wedding of my dreams because I never got it.
My other confession is that I have the most wonderful husband a girl could ask for.
Sorry I was kinda untruthful.
And now...a pic of our first kiss as a legally married couple.
Congratulations! Your honey sounds like a keeper (= glad your getting your big wedding now.
Thank you for sharing. Danny sounds like an amazing man. So glad to hear that you are doing so much better :)
Awwe you guys are so cute and you have a wonderful husband. Glad you are happy and now healthy. Best wishes for your dream wedding!!!!
congrats! he sounds great.
I am glad your health is better. :) Enjoy the planning.
Happy planning! I hope you get the day of your dreams and glad to hear you're feeling better. :)
So sweet & way to precious for words! Congratulations on finding a sweet man like you did & also congrats on the upcoming wedding of your dreams!!!!!!! :-)
@imageeksowhat: Oh wow! This made me tear up! He sounds so sweet and amazing to you! (I'm a nurse and it never ceases to amaze me how a spouse will do anything for the one they love!) I'm so excited for you to get your day! I hope it's even more amazing than you imagine! (And that your health continues to improve)
Nothing to be ashamed of. Every bride deserves a wedding. It is a wedding after all. Wedding doesn't mean getting married again. It means a celebration of love. It sure sounds like you have that in your life. xoxox I wish you the best wedding ever!
I say if you consider yourself engaged, then you're engaged. People get married for a multitude of reasons (and yet many people CAN'T get married - but that's a vent of mine). I have some chronic health issues and my partner has been amazing. The proposal wasn't how he wanted it, but it was while I was laying in bed crying in pain, literally. He's taken me to the hospital. When I'm in the hospital, he's there the majority of the time unless he has to work. he's prolly going to be in sleep dep this week to take me to a surgery taht was scheduled on short notice. Marriaage for us is important b/c in many hospitals, if I go into ICU, they can decide he can't visit me. The ER we were just at would not let me list him as my emergency contact - b/c the emergency contact must be "family" and he's just... I don't know what they considered him. It hurt though.
But everyone deserves a wedding if they want one!
Your husband is an angel. Thanks, for sharing your story. And you are lucky to have eachother. Hugs!
So sweet!! And so pleased you're finally able to have the big wedding you dreamt of!
Your story made me all emotional! Your hubs sounds like such a sweet guy :) Congrats on getting the wedding of your dreams!
Congratulations :) i'm so happy you get to have your dream wedding :)
Oh wow, that is a beautiful story! He really sounds like a great man. Congratulations!
What a touching story!! I am so glad he is supportive of you in so many different ways. I think that you are certianly engaged! You aren't the first (and won't be the last) bee to marry and do it again in the way you always dreamed of!
Congrats on the engagement and happy planning!!
Thanks for sharing! So happy to hear that you are getting your dream wedding!! You deserve to be queen for a day!
Thanks for sharing! I'm glad you are getting to have your dream wedding. I'm glad your health has improved as well. Good luck!
you made me cry! I am so glad that your health has improved and that you have such an amazing husband! go big girl! i hope your wedding is everything you have dreamed of ;)
That is the sweetest story!!! You deserve a beautiful wedding and it sounds like you've definitely found an awesome guy!
what a wonderful story. your husband sounds like your prince...no wonder your going to marry him twice. congratulations.
Thank you so much everyone, he really is the best guy ever. He was only 21, 22 when I first became VERY ill (I was in a wheelchair for about a year) and was often in the hospital with me. He never went out with his friends. He never went to shows (we used to be VERY into the local music scene) he never did the things normal 22 year olds do, he just stayed by my side. Washed my hair, cooked my food, helped me with my physical therapy, and generally just did what I couldn't for me and kept me positive. I was also hooked on pills due to struggling for years with the illness and when I finally got off of them he was there through the whole withdrawal (WORST. THING. EVER.) he's just the best kid.
@ItsHollyAgain: I love your icon, we have a pug, too!! And you sound like you have a wonderful guy as well. That's part of the reason we got married, because he wasn't allowed in certain areas with me in certain hospitals and he was unable to be listed as a contact. We also weren't sure of how I was doing for a little bit and he needed proceedings over not only my medical records but basically all my stuff because he was the only one I trusted to handle things properly, the way I would want. Obviously, nothing too bad happened, haha, I still stuggle with a chronic issue, but other than still being unable to work, for all intents and purposes I'm doing fine. It's basically under control.
@mypinkshoes: He is my prince! In fact, our wedding is enchanted forest fairytale themed! (It's a mouthful, lol)
That's beautiful that you and your DH are getting the wedding you've always dreamed of! Thank you for sharing your story with us! Congratulations on your recovery and upcoming dream wedding!
Your story is extraordinary. You are one, lucky woman to have such a kind man at your side! Happy wedding planning!
I'm glad we all know the "real deal" now, and what a sweet story it is! Happy continued planning!
I teared up over this. Congratulations on your bettering health, your dream wedding and wonderful husband!
Awwwwwwwwwwwww. :)
Don't worry, no one is upset with you! Thanks for sharing, he sounds wonderful. I'm glad you are doing so much better now and wish you all the best in planning your dream wedding!
@KatyElle: Is that Buddy Holly on your icon? I LOVE Buddy Holly! But yeah, I felt dishonest, and I'm always an honest and open person, so I figured I'd come clean, haha.
Thank you, everyone! <3 we got the "in sickness" part out of the way, so I'm really for the whole "in health" deal!
Thanks for sharing that beautiful story and I am glad your health is better. Your husband sounds like an amazing man, and you an amazing woman. The love you have for each other can truly withstand anything. I am so happy for you and happy wedding planing!
What a beautiful story! Is it weird that I don't know you but I am super excited for your wedding? LOL! I am so happy that your health has improved and that you and your wonderful guy are getting the wedding of your dreams! Congratulations to you both!
@imageeksowhat: Congratulations! What love you two share! No need to apologize. You two have each other. Your story of how you married and how he took care of you is precious. Blessings to you both on your continued good health and have fun with your wedding plans! :)
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