Post # 1
I confess. I couldn’t pick a maid of honor. My two best friends are complete polar opposites – K is super organized, very much like me, and we work well together when planning. Actually, that’s when we get along best. J is very much like my artistic, emotional side. She’s super busy, but she’ll put everything she has into something, if she knows it’s important.
So, when it came down to choosing a maid of honor, I knew I’d have a hard decision, and I knew someone would get hurt. Thusly, I created the deputy maid of honor. Now, K lives far way, but as Maid/Matron of Honor, can delegate certain tasks to my DMOH. Most of my bridesmaids live far away, so this works perfectly for us. J was a little sad, but all in all, is enjoying the label – and all of the jokes that go along with it.
How did you handle your Maid/Matron of Honor situation? Have any of you been in the same situation?
Post # 3
My Maid/Matron of Honor is married to J’s best man. Since Bridesmaid or Best Man is his BFF and has been since like, 11th grade, it was an easy choice to let her walk down the aisle with her hubby 🙂 since I have two close friend and a cousin in my party!
Post # 4
I couldn’t choose either, so I have a Matron of Honor and a Lady of Honor.
Post # 5
I just decided to go with two Maid of Honors…
Post # 6
I didn’t have the problem, but I know someone who did and she chose to have 2 Maid/Matron of Honor
Post # 7
I had a Maid/Matron of Honor that wasn’t organized. Big heart but just wasn’t up to the task. So come wedding week I ended up with a deputy of sorts. She totally stepped up and I’ll thank her forever for it.
Post # 8
I was going to have to decide between my sister my best friend. Family trumps a lot in my book, but my sister’s only 20, 9 yrs younger than me, and my bf had me as Maid/Matron of Honor at her wedding this past summer, so I was really torn. I solved it by having them both! My sister will be my MAID of Honor and bf will be my MATRON of Honor since she’s now married.
Post # 9
@Miss Saphire – that’s totally what I envisioned happening if I had J as my Maid/Matron of Honor. She would have tried, but she definitely would have been overwhelmed. Or will be, anyway.
@noritake22 – Lady. I like that. Sounds much less “Wild West”-ish. I’m half tempted to get my ladies badges now haha
Post # 10
my moh lives far away, and my bridesmaid lives here. my bridesmaid just gets stuck doing more wedding stuff than she probably should have too! oh well.
Post # 11
I have 2 – a maid of honor and a matron of honor. ha ha. I haven’t decided what order they will walk down the aisle yet though.
Post # 12
I just went with one Maid/Matron of Honor. I was going to have two, but then the other one flaked out on the friendship. She kind of made the decision for me!
Post # 13
I have one of each a Matron and a Maid. They have been my best friends since freshman year of college, so I couldn’t chose between the two on my big day!
Post # 14
I’m having my sister (who lives out of state) be my maid and my friend (who lives in town) do the duties. They’re both fine with the arrangement.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor and the boy doesn’t have a Best Man. We each have three attendants who will be treated equally.
The reasoning was simple. He didn’t want to have to choose one brother over the other. And I’d have chosen my sister over my two friends, but she lives in Europe and won’t be too involved. So we just decided to scrap the idea and have everyone be equal.
Post # 16
My sister is my maid of honor … my best friend is my matron of honor. 🙂