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Seat her with people she knows, both at the ceremony and reception. If she has a favorite song, be sure to play it at the reception. So long as she's with understanding people, it shouldn't be a problem.
@cyneswith: Thank you. I have already implemented those things. I just don't want her to feel frustrated and/or bored.
Would it be reasonable to ask her or one of her caretakers what might help her enjoy it? They might have specifics. If she has someone accompanying her, hopefully they can be very descriptive about the surroundings.
@Mrs. DG: My auntie; her daughter will be accompanying her. She has said whatever we have in mind will be fine. I know she takes very good care of her, but I am just worried about her. I am keeping my grandma in mind with every decision I make about the wedding.
I don't think you should worry about her being bored, she'll be thrilled for your big day! Maybe just ensure that she has a caregiver for the day, ideally a family member who she trusts and likes. I just think it would be great to ensure that someone is always there to help her get around and tend to any of her needs.
You are being so sweet and thoughtful. I think you're doing a great job of considering her needs and taking care of her. I'm sure what you've done is perfect to help her enjoy your event. I'm also sure that she is thrilled to be such a big part of your day. I think yu've done what you can and that she'll be a happy guest.
@TealaB: She will have my auntie there with her, and she will get special treatment; ie, we are having a buffet, but she will be served. She will also have reserved seating and all the vendors know to make sure she is taken care of, even before us.
@Encore: Thank you. I hope so. My FI has said that she is the one I am worrying about the most, and he is right. I just wish we would have gotten married sooner, so she could see everything. Now she will just have to go by touch and taste and conversation.
Is there a local non-profit that works with the blind in your area (American Council for the Blind, American Federation of the Blind), or a school for the blind? They can probably give some great advice on this. What would really help your grandma is to have someone be an escort and provide audio decsription to describe what is happening. Find some movies that audio description to understand what I am talking about. If she can be present while you're getting ready, let her use her hands to feel your dress and hair. If will help her visualize how you look. Let her smell the flowers of your bouquet.
I completely sympathize with your circumstance. My grandma is wheelchair-bound. She and my grandpa won't be able to come to our wedding. My FI and I are trying to work out a way to stream our wedding live so they can still be a part of our day. This is very important to us.
@Scottielass: That is a very good idea. I am sure there is. I will have to check it out. She is the only grandparent that is still with us, so this is really important to me too. I hope you can get the streaming thing worked out. Grandparents are very important.
@noritake22: I think everything you have come up with so far has been spot on. I am curious, has she lost all her vision or can see still see shadows or lighting? That might make a difference in what you can do to make her feel comfortable.
The vendors should be told in advance who she is (importance wise) and what her disability is (lack of vision.) I've seen people speak to a person with a vision impairment as though they are Deaf and/or developmentally disabled as well. If you have ever seen a person 'yell' at someone in English when their first language was otherwise, you know what I mean! :) Also, regardless of someone's vision, I feel like it is still important to make appropriate eye contact - the person speaking/seeing stays more engaged if they attempt to speak to the person with the loss of vision this way.
Since your auntie will be will her, I'm sure if your grandma gets overstimulated or tired, she will know that and take her home at the right time. You are doing all the right things :)
@christalynn11: Thank you. I just get all teary eyed when I think about this. I do know what you mean about the yelling thing. I think that is just rude. My planner is tough, so I know she will be on the lookout for her and my auntie takes care of her at her home, so I know she will know if things get to be to much for her. I will also be making sure she is sitting close to us and I will make sure to pay special attention to her. She has always been such an inspiration to me. I just want to make sure she is happy.
Is there a certain song or artist you can play at the reception, just for her?
You could tell her that when she hears ____ it's just for her. A moment that the two of you could share and something she would enjoy without needing to see.
**I'm sorry - I missed it where a PP also suggested this.
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My grandmother is 97 and is going to try very hard to come to our wedding. The problem is that she, as she has aged, has lost her eye sight. There is nothing that the doctors can do to help her with this.
I need to know how I can help her enjoy the wedding and the reception. She is the epitome of who I would like to be when I grow up and I want to make sure she is happy.
I don't have any experience with blind people, so I don't know what to do. I know that if she had her eyesight she would be very excited and happy with everything at the wedding, but I am at a loss as to how to include her, other than with conversation and hopefully a dance or two.
If anyone has any experience with this, please offer me some suggestions.