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I have a interesting question about gifts!!

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: if you cant go to the wedding will you still send a gift?
    yes, is the right thing to do : (13 votes)
    39 %
    no, because im not attending : (1 votes)
    3 %
    it depends who is getting married : (19 votes)
    58 %
    i dont know : (0 votes)
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    Magenta    July 31, 2010   Springfield MA- Wedding in PR

    i only had been in two weddings and those two were in Puerto Rico where wedding culture is different. so i have a question (just curious) 

    what is the etiquette in wedding gift?? if you get invited to a wedding but you will not be able to go will you still send a gift??

     

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    If you are talking about the etiquette for a wedding in the US, I think that you can send a gift or not.  I don't think that people would be offended if you didn't when you aren't able to attend.  I always send one even if I can't go, though maybe not as expensive as I would have otherwise.

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    If I couldn't attend a wedding I was invited to, I would send a gift anyway. Maybe a gift card from one of their registries or aomething. = )

     
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    Yeah, if I can't make it, I send a gift. Edit: I just feel like it's something I can do to help them celebrate.

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    I have received surprise invites to random weddings, meaning I have no idea why I am invited to the wedding. In these situations I feel uncomfortable about sending a gift with a reply of no! So I just send a congratulatory card.

    If it is a friend/coworker/family member I always send a gift if I cannot attend.

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    I think it would depend on whose wedding it is. If it was someone I was close to I would absolutely send a gift. If it was someone I don't know as well, I may not. 

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I do agree with Future Mrs Martin and amanda.lynn that it does depend on the wedding.  I have only been invited to weddings of people that I'm related to or friends with so I haven't had any weird ones.

     
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    soonerpsych    June 26, 2010   Oklahoman at heart, now in Southwest FL

    I agree, if I know the person well, I'd send something.  But maybe something smaller (cheaper?) than what I'd feel necessary if attending.  I feel like that sounds bad Embarassed

     
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    Magenta    July 31, 2010   Springfield MA- Wedding in PR

    i was invited to a wedding but we wont be able to go so i wanted to know what to do

     
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    michelle86    April 17, 2010   Saint Paul, Minnesota

    I've always been told to send a gift, but I tend to base it on who it is and my financial situation.

     
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    LittlestBirds    July 24, 2010   Seattle, WA

    Etiquette is very firm on this point; a gift is due for every wedding ceremony to which you are invited. It wouldn't make any sense not to, because the gift isn't meant to be an exchange or payment for enjoying the wedding and a meal. It's a gesture of gratitude for the couple's desire to include you in their special day, and a token to wish them well in their marriage. Absolutely send one if you can't make it.

     

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