Post # 1
So, my parents are paying for my wedding. i dont know what, but i plan on getting them a gift. I’m also getting my grandparents a gift b/c theyre paying for the rehearsal dinner and my pawpaw is our officiant.
FIs parents are not paying for ANYTHING! they havent even offered to help. so, my thinking is that i shouldnt buy them anything but am i supposed to? to me, it seems like more of a thank you gift.
Any advice would be very much appreciated! 🙂
THANKS BEES 🙂
Post # 3
I would, just for their support of your marriage. It doesn’t have to be big, just a little token to say that you appreciate them.
Post # 4
I’m not sure that the gift to the parents is supposed to be a “Thanks for hosting the wedding” sort of thing. I think of it as a “Thanks for raising such an awesome person who’s going to make a fantastic spouse” sort of gift.
Post # 5
Eek! I’m sort of in the same boat, I feel ya! FI and I are paying for the wedding, but really, we wouldn’t be able to if it wasn’t for my father. I treat my money as my dad’s money, that’s for sure! So for my parents, I’m inviting/paying for them to be at our tasting with our chef/caterer. This chef is REALLY special to FI and I and it’s definitely our yearly splurge when we hire him each year for FI’s birthday (and certainly for our wedding!). We thought this would be a great way to make my parents feel involved (my mom is concerned our chef is going to break his wrist for some reason) and treat them to a really special night that’s so important and intimate to our life.
FI’s parents are divorced and neither have offered to pay for anything. FI’s mom really doesn’t have much to offer, and even if she did I would say no. I’m going to give her my bouquet at the wedding rather than doing the bouquet toss. I haven’t thought of more than that. Maybe some jewelry to wear at the wedding? Don’t know.
FI’s dad….. Ugh. There’s a lot of history and bad feelings, etc there. He hasn’t offered a cent even though he’s been working hard to mend fences the past few years. I think he’ll get a big pat on the back and a “thanks for coming”. LOL! Even if he gave us money, I’m not sure I would feel like giving him a gift….
Post # 6
@Bakerella! i have a very similar issue. FI’s parents are also divorced. He doesnt have a good relationship with either one of them. There just not the greatest parents. & after some of the things that have happened recently, im not close with them either. they treat FI horrible!! which makes me want to give them gifts even less!!