Post # 1
In my last post I wrote how I had gone ring browsing with my SO and I have a good idea that the proposal is coming soon, just not exactly when,where or with what ring.
So my question is, did any of you know that it was coming soon and still were you surprised. A few people have told me that because I went and we (SO and I) pointed out what we like and didn’t like together in rings means the surprise is already ruined for me. I’m more referring to the surprise of the timing, not necessarily the surprise of what the ring looks like.
I kinda feel that even though i’m anxiously awaiting it and know its going to happen that still doesn’t mean I will know for sure. I just want to ease my mind, cuz they’ve slightly worried me into thinking its ruined for me.
Post # 3
Well, I had gone ring shopping with my hubs about a year before we got engaged! So, in theory, I should of been surprised. I don’t think ring shopping takes anything away from the experience. If anything, it just ensures that you’ll be as happy as possible because you assisted in his choice. You are wearing the ring forever afterall. In my case though, I wasn’t surprised by the actual proposal because he made is beyond obvious. He was excited/nervous, he just couldn’t help but drop hints along the way, silly guy.
Post # 4
I was in the room when he bought the ring, so it wasn’t exactly a shock!
He did make me sweat for a couple days and then totally surprised me by saying he was taking me out for dinner, then taking me tot he airport to get a plane he had rented. While we were flying, he proposed!
Later, I teased him that I would have been in a tough spot if I had wanted to turn him down. Who says no to the person flying your plane!
Post # 5
I went with my FI and picked out the exact ring and stone with him, and I was still completely surprised when he asked. Mainly bc I had suggested our plans, and my dad was out of town (FI’s a traditionalist and wanted his blessing) so I was convinced it WOULDN’T be the time.
Unknown to me he had spoken to my dad before he left town, and new I would be expecting it if he planned a dinner or date, so he bided his time until I suggested a picnic and took advantage because he knew I wouldn’t expect it.
Further, the ring looked different with the stone we picked vs. the stone in the store so I was still surprised at the final presentation. I didn’t know what he was going to say so that also was a surprise.
Don’t let people get you down. If all goes as planned it’s the one piece of jewelry you’ll wear every day of your life the rest of your life. Why shouldn’t you have an opinion on what it looks like! Leave it to him to still surprise you 🙂
Post # 6
Oh! I don’t think it is ruined at all! My FI and I had gone and looked at rings initially, then he decided to go to the same jeweler as his dad and his dad’s dad, and thought he could handle picking a ring I would like, but then included me in picking the setting… but he picked the center stone so that was the element of surprise for the ring. He wanted to make sure I got what I had dreamt of. I had no clue when or where the engagement was supposed to happen, and it was still a HUGE surprise! I had no idea that he had been planning the evening for a long time and I definitely did not expect it at all! I think it is a surprise whether you kind of know its coming by knowing you looked at rings or have no idea. Don’t worry about it! You’ll get a lot of criticism from people along the planning process, all that matters is that you and your SO are happy!
Congrats on your future engagement!
Post # 7
I picked out my ring, and my DH still surprised me. Also, I knew when the ring was supposed to come and I was still surprised!
So he ordered the ring in at the beginning of July last year, and I was a bad, bad, bad GF and broke into his email account to find the day of shipping. Well there was a problem with the ring, it didn’t meet QC, so they had to ship a new one, and the day I thought it was going to be there (the 28th), looked like it wasn’t coming until the next day (the 29th).
So I wasn’t expecting anything on the 28th, but that’s when he proposed! And I was completely shocked, not just because of the day, but also because of the way he proposed.
He chartered a bus from the university we both went to and had “Will you marry me?” on the header. So it was pretty important that the ring got there on the right day. He later told me the story, but I never ‘fessed up that I peeked in his email, oops!
So long story short, I even knew the day the ring was coming, but was still surprised, lol!
Post # 8
My fiance and I had talked, and he had a timeframe (mine) to propose in that we were getting near the end of, and we were leaving on a trip that I strongly suspected he would ask me on, and he STILL managed to surprise me. And I’m very hard to surprise. He proposed the night before we left when I got home from dropping the cat off at my parents’. He said he had a little surprise in the computer room. I thought he got me a new router. He had a whole slideshow thing set up, and flowers (that I didn’t notice until after) and I didn’t have a clue until Will you marry me? flashed on the screen. You can still be surprised.
Post # 9
No offense but tell them to.shut.it.
People giving you THIS idea is going to ruin it LOL I picked my ring out and knew it was coming but didnt know when. NOTHING WAS TAKEN FROM ME. I was still just as happy and cried!
Post # 10
I had NO idea he was going to propose. We had talked about getting married once or twice but never in any detail. I also never presured him into it. We had looked at rings once (about 2 years before the proposal).
When he did propose he had picked out the ring on his own, asked my Dad which I had NO idea about, and the propsed one day while laying on the couch. I was SHOCKED.
Post # 11
I don’t think it’s even close to ruined. In my case I ruined the fun of several events because I really thought he would propose at them. In the end he proposed at the end of a long weekend out of town during our 2 year anniversary. By the end of the weekend I had given up hope that he would propose, so I was totally shocked and excited. I think that I still would have had the same reaction even if he’d been able to go with his original plan and propose earlier in the weekend. The moment they pull out the box or get on one knee or whatever makes it obvious they’re asking is it’s own super awesome shock and awe moment. No amount of foreknowledge will take that away.
Post # 12
My number one advice to anyone who is engaged, about to be engaged, or actually in any stage of anything is DO NOT listen to other people. 🙂
I knew, and it was anything but “ruined”. People do not know what it is like to be “you”.
Post # 13
We went ring shopping (many times) and talked about it all the time – and I still felt completely surprised. I had a hunch it was coming (FI was just acting strange) – and when it happened – it wasn’t one of those unexpected types of surprise – it was more of a shocking-I-Can’t-Believe-this-is-actually-happening type surprise…. and it was completely wonderful. Don’t worry about what the other people are saying – it will be the most perfect moment for you… just watch and see 🙂
Post # 14
Thank you all so much! I feel a lot better and enjoy reading everyones stories!
Post # 15
haha well I can tell you it’s not! We went ring shopping back in March and he actually bought the ring, and I am STILL waiting!!!!!! So, I’m sure it’ll be a surprise because really, who knows how long you will be waiting. Chances are if you’re getting married, you’ve already discussed timelines anyways so whether you went ring shopping or not, you would have an idea that a proposal would be coming up in the near future depending on your timeline that was discussed.
So many times I thought, “omg this is it, he’s going to do it here” and it never happened LOL…. so be prepared for a lot of that!
Post # 16
i didnt go rign shopping with FI, but i knew HE had been ring shopping last spring/summer… we were buying our first home… and i knew it was going to happen *SOON* and i was actually really sad that i prolly wouldn’t be surprised 😛
however, FI pulled it off! proposed during our final walk-through, i had NO idea… 🙂