(Closed) I have an early scan dilemma!!

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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5671 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Can you call and just ask and explain your situation? Maybe they might be able to accomodate you. I imagine they don’t want any loud children running around, but if your son is quiet and well behaved and you don’t have anyone to watch him maybe they can let you wait in another waiting room with your husband and then just go to the ultrasound room when they are ready.

Either way I really hope all goes well with your ultrasound.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Could you talk to the nursery? Maybe there is someone there who is willing to come in a little early and help you out if you explain the situation?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I had to have a scan with my second at an office that does not allow children (for the same reason yours doesn’t allowed children).  The office is also 2 hours away from where we live/daycare.  I ended up dropping DD off at our friend’s house before we left, and they took her to daycare that day.  It was really important to us that DH be there, so we found other arrangements.

Are you friends with any parents at your son’s school?  Maybe you could drop him off with one of them and they can take him to school with their child that morning.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’d bring your son if there’s no other option (other than DH staying home) and just do everything possible to be discreet and quiet. Maybe you can pack a special new toy or something to help keep your son happy/occupied? I think it’s important for your DH to be there and the hospital’s letter did say that they understand sometimes it’s not possible to leave children at home.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would try asking the nursery school and I suppose as a last ditch effort bring him, worst case scenario they ask your DH to take him out somewhere else while you have your appointment which brings you back to where you are not and not any further behind.

Can I ask why they would impose this rule? Because these women could potentially be losing their babies and seeing someone else’s will make them upset? Am I understanding correctly? If so, I can understand not rubbing children in the face of those who are having problems with pregnancy however, some of those women maybe be on their 2nd, 3rd, pregnancy and have children at home already such as yourself, and I would feel alienated if it were me waiting for a scan knowing people are putting me in a buble or category of being unable to cross paths with someone who has a baby.

I hope that wasn’t insensitive? As someone who plans to TTC soon, and might have issues because nothing is certain in this world, that rule confuses me a little but I guess it sort of makes sense. I’ve never heard of it before.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Please don’t take a child somewhere after being expressly asked not to.  And expecting a 20 month old to be quiet the entire time while you’re there is impractical.  That said, you have two options.  DH stays home and watches the older child or you get someone else to watch him.

You don’t have anybody that could watch him for the morning?  I second OP’s suggestion to check with the nursery to see if anyone would be interested in watching him and taking him to nursery in the morning (and obviously pay them like any other sitter for it.)  It’s summer time and I am sure you could find some friend or neighbor (any teacher friends who are out for the summer?) who would be willing to watch him if you don’t have any family nearby.  You have two days to plan.  Get creative and ask everyone.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@MrsSawyer:  I think it’s as much for the children as it for the soon-to-be parents.  I know at my appointment there was a women who was very visibly upset and crying on and off in the waiting room; DD was on 18-ish months, so seeing that probably would have upset her, too.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Mrs. Spring:  Gotcha.. I’ve just never heard of this so I was trying to sort out what the goal was.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@Kate25:  As somebody who just underwent two years of infertility, then IVF to conceive, I can honestly say it would have upset me to see young children or babies at the clinic. My clinic had a “no children allowed” policy for that reason.

I hope you can figure out something. A friend or family member to watch your little one so that your husband can go with you?! I hope so!

Also, I had bleeding at 8 weeks (red bleeding, too) with my pregnancy and everything turned out just fine. I was scared to death. So I understand your fear. I hope everything goes great at your appointment! Fingers crossed for you. 🙂

Post # 14
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@Kate25:  Yes, please try to stay positive! It really is all you can do right now. Just take care of yourself. Get proper sleep, eat well, etc. and just hope for the best! I’ll be thinking of you on Friday!!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My REs office has the same rule, but no one follows it. It isn’t uncommon for a woman to be looking at another woman’s child and sobbing her heart out in the waiting room. It’s brutual 🙁 It’s very kind of you to make arrangements to avoid that type of scene, best of luck to you!

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