Post # 1
I’ve been catching myself interrupting people lately. Today I caught myself doing it twice in the span of ten minutes to the same person. I never realize it until after the conversation and then I feel badly about it (as I should because it’s rude).
For some reason I just start to talk while they’re still talking. However, since I never realize it until way after the fact, I’m not sure how to stop!
I’m hoping that since I’ve identified this problem I’ll be able to catch myself before interrupting people but this hasn’t been the case.
How can I stop doing this? I was thinking of putting a little note on my desk (I do this mostly at work) that will remind me. I’m not sure what to actually write on it though. Any advice? Anyone else with the same problem- what did you do?
Post # 3
My mother does this. Nothing else in the world pisses me off as much as someone interrupting me when I speak.
Maybe try to be concious of it? When you start a conversation clench your jaw so you can’t talk? Remind yourself on repeat, “Wait for them to finish.”?
Post # 4
Wear an elastic band on your wrist and snap it while they are talking.
Post # 5
I have to work on this too! I feel so bad!
Post # 6
@MrsBeck: Just switch your brain into an active listening stance, people who interrupt aren’t listening to the person who’s speaking….so if you can gear your focus to not only adding to the coversation, but listening to all of it…you’ll be able to stop this habit….it usually comes from a good place, one of enthusiasm and excitement, so people are usually pretty understanding, at least I am about it.
Post # 7
Practice active listening! Force yourself to do nothing but listen to people for a few days.
Post # 8
@Hyperventilate: I hate it when people interrupt me so I’m ashamed that I’ve started doing it. I’ve tried repeating stuff like that in my head but then I lose focus of what they’re saying.
@julies1949: Thanks. Good idea- then I won’t lose focus by repeating something to myself.
@lina010: Ugh I know! I hate it when people do it to me so I feel terrible that I do it now. I always want to apologize for it but by the time I recognize what I was doing I’m back at my desk and it would be really strange.
Post # 9
Thanks! I will try listening more actively. I think I’ve started doing it because I’m trying to make friends in a new work place so I’m overly enthusiastic about talking to people. Nobody is going to want to talk to me though if I always interrupt!
Post # 10
I do this sometimes too. I used to be a lot worse but I’ve managed to try to curb it and tone it down… I have to make a conscious effort to listen to them and wait until they are finished speaking before I say something.
Post # 11
My mother does that CONSTANTLY! Sometimes I get embarrassed by it, but I just thought it was an “Italian thing.” Lol. I do it myself sometimes.
Post # 12
@MrsBeck: You know, I noticed I had a problem with this when I was spending far too much time by myself. I am self-employed and can go for months without contracts and human interraction every day. When I would have someone to talk to, I would go overboard and dominate conversations.
Here’s a good article on active listening: http://psychcentral.com/lib/2007/become-a-better-listener-active-listening/