I have decided…..

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I had a midwife with my 1st and LOVED the whole experience.  She was apart of my hospital though but they had like a separate clinic inside the hospital where I went (I was a young mommy too 1st time around).

Even though I did give birth in th ehospital, they didn’t force me into anything.  I was tired and didn’t have the energy to push and it took me 3 hours of pushing.  They finally brought in a bar so I could stoop/squat and have gravity help and soon after, my son was born. They didn’t try to force any drugs on me or hurry things up.  But I was also low risk.

I have since had 2 more hospital births and will have my 4th soon.  The hospitals here are more laid back I think, where I had my 2nd and 3rd kids. I would love a home or birthing center birth but I have no idea where to even start looking.  Luckily, the hospital stay here is just 1 night.

Post # 5
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I haven’t read the thread you’re talking about, but we’re using a midwife. This is our first pregnancy and I am 37 weeks pregnant. I’ve loved having a midwife! Like I said, this is my first pregnancy, and I’ve never used a OB for a pregnancy, but I have friends who have & though they were great providers, theyre used to doing everything a certain way, so they’re more apt to offer what makes their job easier which can sometimes mean pit or a c-section. Our midwife has already discussed with us a million and one ways of ‘natural’ induction if it comes to the point where we’re far overdue and still have no signs of labor. So even if it comes down to it, she’s going to do whatever is possible to avoid chemical intervention. We are also using the Bradley Method, which I know a few June mamas used as well, and I HIGHLY reccommend seeing if there is someone in your area that provides the classes because they are WONDERFUL! 🙂


Post # 7
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I have been thinking a lot about that thread too. I’m not pregnant and no where near TTC but it’s given me tons to think about. And it’s given me more faith in my body that if I give it the chance, it will hopefully do what it is supposed to do (when that time comes).

Good luck with your birth!

When are you due?

Post # 10
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I couldn’t find a midwife option where I live, so I’m with an OB who is very supportive about natural birth (“I LOVE vaginal birth” she said in her heavy Russian accent when we asked – this is now one of our favourite quotes :-)) and we’ve signed up to a weekend of calm birth classes (might be like the Bradley method from what I’ve seen) so hubby and I are both prepared. I also highly recommend books by Ina Mae Gaskin and Active Birth by Juju Sundin. All the best!!

Post # 12
867 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@sunshine_kar:  Can I ask: what is it about c-sections and epidurals that everybody hates? Is it just a personal preference?  Is it p the way hospitals push them on people? Are they really that awful? I’m just wondering because I’m due in September and I am definitely not giving birth naturally, I don’t really want to go through a 14 hour labour either.  I’m considering having both a c-section and an epidural so I’d love to hear from other mamas about this. 

Post # 14
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@BridieBea:  if you are looking for info there are heaps of opinions and links to info on the “what is with all the c-sections” thread – things get a bit heated at times, but there are more links there than any other thread I’ve ever seen 🙂 I’m also due September!


Post # 15
3677 posts
Sugar bee

@BridieBea:  They are definitely not “awful” and hated – they are an important medical tool, and there are times when they are sorely needed!

There is a lot of evidence, though, that they are overused. The other thread focuses primarily on C-sections. Re. epidurals, I think for many women who have the goal of going natural, if you give birth in a hospital setting in the US it is almost assumed that you will have one, and so you have to expend precious energy (that you need for other purposes!) countering people’s (usually well-intentioned) attempts to offer them or persuade you to have one. It depends on the individuals you end up working with; some women report that their request to go med-free was respected, while others have reported that they had to deal with a lot of pressure and push-back from nurses, anesthesiologists, etc. (Who, in fairness, probably felt that they were just doing their job and trying to make it easier on the laboring woman, not realizing how at-cross-purposes they were.)

Many women would never consider birth without an epidural, and there are lots of good reasons for having one. Individuals experience pain differently, and people often have received very negative expectations about birth from family, friends, the media, etc. If they have mentally set themselves up for the worst pain imaginable, that’s probably going to be a self-fulfilling prophecy and an epidural might make all the difference between a negative and a positive birth experience for them. It can also be really important in a labor that goes much longer than expected, too, if the woman reaches the point of exhaustion.

For women who prefer not to have an epidural, some of their reasons include the way it can interact with other birth interventions (such as pitocin augmentation) to increase the likelihood of ending up with a C-section; it may prevent walking around and changing positions in labor (depending on the level of epidural – some allow more movement than others), which is a really useful technique for controlling pain and advancing labor so that it goes faster and more smoothly; it may prolong labor (which also increases the chances of having a C-section); it can be a factor in having a harder time with breastfeeding; and a small number of women have side effects such as a spinal headache.

Post # 16
1305 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@BridieBea:  PPs have said almost everything I wanted to say, but I want to add that the drug in the epidural can have an effect on the baby making it less aware and woozy. In my view, if drugging my newborn baby is possible, then I’m not doing it unless medically neccessary.

Also, one intervention raises the odds of more interventions. Induction of any kind raises the odds of pitocin which raises the odds of epidural, emergency c-section, forceps birth etc.

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