Post # 1
I’m at work, where it is allwomen, and we have two rotations where we almost never interact, they work the opposite nights we don’t. And the gossip and drama is insane! One of the opposite rotation asked off Friday night (a night I should have been off) and they were short tonight so I ended up with them. And holy cow.
This rotation had some serious complaints from a patient family but the supervisor didn’t understand who they meant, and blamed me and my rotation. My charge went to clarify because we could not for the life of us figure out what she was talking about! Well she described the nurses she had issues with, it wasn’t us, it was the others. It finally got cleared up but not until after I had gotten chewed out for something that had nothing to do with me. And the people who were actually to blame didn’t care that a) they got in trouble and b)they had the supervisor thinking I did something wrong. And never apologized and actually laughed when I said something to them about it.
Needless to say, I dislike this rotation a lot. And they are all pretty apathetic about their work, when you work in a hospital that is not okay. And to top it off, we haven’t had enough patients to keep the whole staff on every night, so someone was going to get called off tonight. Since this was supposed to be my weekend off, it should have been me. But one of the other girls “called in sick” except she was talking about going drinking tonight… sick huh…
Lordy, and we have a tech who is certifiable. And scares the hell of me. I hate this shift!
Post # 3
just wanted to say hang in there! ppl acting like middle school girls I think have a lot of demons in their own head! So don’t sweat them, because the mentality they’re caught up in is its own punishment!!
Post # 4
That is exactly why I do not have many female friends. It’s safer to play in a pit of poisonous snakes….:).
Post # 5
@Glenda_the_good_witch: I don’t even know what to say to this ridiculous comment.
OP it sounds like you just got a bad bunch. Hang in there, there are so many amazing women in the world, don’t let these ones disappoint you. I personally know many 😉
Post # 6
Can you not read? It means lots of friendships with women are poisonous. But thanks for the rude comment and snarkiness. Have a great day!
Post # 7
Case in point. Haha!
OP, sorry you work with sour apples. I’m the opposite and work mostly with men who think they are superior because of that fact alone. Can’t win either way!
Post # 8
@chasesgirl: I’m a night shift nurse too and I know how you feel. Most of the women I work with are super catty and it gets old really fast.
Post # 9
Every female friends I’ve ever had was a nutcase – except for 1. So out of probably 20 girls I’ve been really close with have been insane.
This is why I don’t keep female friends.
Post # 10
OP it sounds like you just got a bad bunch.
ITA with this.
In my previous career I was surrounded by a wonderful group of women who were intelligent, supportive, fun and inspiring. Just a really, all-around fantastic group of people who happened to mostly be women. My boss was a woman, and she had my back. She taught me so much and helped me enormously.
The group I’m working with now? Yikes! Talk about swimming with sharks — gossipy, hormonal, whacko, shrill, easily upset, back-stabbing, petty, judgmental, meddling, not that smart… I could go on. If I didn’t have Darling Husband to come home to, I would throw myself out the window.
So yes, I feel your pain, OP, but I hope you eventually have the opportunity to work with a really wonderful group of women, as I once did. (sigh)
Post # 11
I’m not sure where you ladies hang out but all my girlfriends over the years have been amazing. Obviously there are some arseholes out there but they can be men too. You have to learn to avoid these people. Not all women are catty or nutcases and if you think they are then you should have a look at the common link in your problem. You.
Nothing annoys me more than women that say all women are crazy/bitchy/catty etc. It’s just not true.
It can be difficult to avoid these types at work as you can’t always choose who you work with but you can certainly choose who you hang out with.
Post # 12
Sorry OP you had to endure that.
Post # 13
@FauxBoho: agreed! where I work it’s mostly men and you wouldn’t believe how catty some of them can be. the most manipulative, drama-filled person I’ve ever met is a guy. just people in general can be bitchy, though I’ve met plenty of great guys AND gals.
sorry about your situation, the best you can do is keep your distance, don’t stoop down to their level.
Post # 14
@FauxBoho: Absolutely. If a woman can’t keep a good female friend, well…. that says something about her, not every other woman on the planet.
Post # 15
well that’s a broad over generalization. Labeling ALL women like that does nothing to support your fellow women, except make it okay for men to label us that way. Nothing is more degrading than a man (or woman) calling someone crazy or a bitch just because they have a vagina. It sucks you don’t like the women you work with, but classifying all women like that isn’t cool either. That goes for everyone talking about why they don’t have female friends. No offense to those without female friends because they’re all “nuts” or “bitches”, but if you think every female you come across is crazy, then maybe the problem is not them, it’s you. Time for some self reflection, ladies.
As for advice how to deal with this bad bunch – try and just keep your interactions professional so as to not get caught up in the gossip and drama.
Post # 16
@chasesgirl: Agreed. Some women will never outgrow the petty, snarky attitude they had in highschool. Very frustrating!