(Closed) I have lost my best friend to her boyfriend, and I miss her :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

:[ If it makes you feel any better I had to dump my best friend. 

 

And idk if this will make you feel any better but I’m uber excited for you. 

 

Do you have a picture of your ring?

Post # 5
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1136 posts
Bumble bee

@Bostongrl25: She was making bad life choices and hanging out with a bad crowd.

 

 

I’m soo excited for you

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Have you said anything to her about missing her?

You can also stay best friends and not see each other all the time. My best friend from HS, (I just realized that’s 25 years- yikes) have had times when we only lived 30 mins away and still didn’t see each other very often–maybe once a year. We still talked on the phone all the time. We just had other things going on.

But… she is being a dork for not being more excited about your engagement (Congrats!)

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Bostongrl25:

That really sucks, I think its happened to just about everyone. I myself say I am guilty of dropping friends too… I have just stopped communicating, once friendship turn oneway I “give up” and move on. If she wants to be your friend she will make the effort, which is sounds like she is neither.

I hope eveything works out though! and congratulations!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

This has happened to me too and it’s very sad.  I don’t have any advice on how to get your friend back, just sympathy.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That’s really shitty. I suggest teliing her a version of what you’ve said here – that it hurts that she constantly cancels plans, and that you feel like you’re losing your best friend. Let her know that the ball is in her court, since she keeps dropping it.  Her actions from there should tell you what you need to know.

The thing about the sports tickets is doubly crappy because even if you couldn’t go to the event, couldn’t she have at least met up with you to just hang out for an afternoon/evening?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

This is life.  Friendships change over time.  And it is usually due to a SO.  My best friend and I have been friends since 6th grade.  Over the years our contact has ebbed and flowed.  When our kids were very young we hardly had time to chat.  We sometimes went months without chatting but every now and then we would literally call and say “Are you okay?” “”Yea.  You?” “Yea.”  “Okay, gotta go, bye”.  And we have lived around the corner from each other for the past 20 years!  But then years later when I was going through an ugly divorce she called and talked to me EVERY DAY for hours on end for months.  Don’t take it personally.  Be happy for her and give her space to do her thing.  Sooner or later things will change again, with marriage, with kids, with a new job, whatever.  This is just the way friendships go sometimes.  It doesn’t necessarily mean she loves you any less.    

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am going through the same thing with my BFF right now.  She probably isn’t doing it on purpose and may not even realise how you are feeling. I think most couples are like that when they just start dating, I would just give it time.

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