Post # 1
My BF and I have been togeather for 5 years. I used to beg for a ring. He will graduate in May from college. He has the ring on layaway to my knowledge hasn’t brought it home yet. BF promised me that I would have the ring by our 6 year anniversary which is in December…only two months away. Since I know he bought the ring I havn’t been obsessing over it or driving him crazy. We havn’t been fighting and we go out on peaceful dates where we can actually focus on eachother. I am actually nervous to get the ring….. so I did something crazy. I asked him to give me the ring after he graduates college.
I MOVED BACK MY OWN PROPOSAL -Bee’s I must have lost my mind
Post # 2
have you questioned yourself as to why? is it just daunting when it feels real for you?
Post # 3
I would think this over. You CAN take it back. Or suggest, “Propose any time between now and a month after you graduate… you know, to give you time to make it special. No pressure.”
Post # 4
I agree with damarajade. If you think you’ve made a mistake (for your sanity) than tell him that you didn’t want him to feel pressured but he could certainly propose before he graduates.
Post # 5
Begging for a ring is not a good look. You know it’s coming now, so just enjoy yourself. Maybe you pushed it back because deep down, you want the ring and the wedding but haven’t considered the marriage.
Post # 6
Jadegreen: Well you do want him to propose on his terms. Begging him for a ring forces him into a situation he may not be comfortable with. He may still propose by December you never know, but now he’s doing it when he feels it’s right and not when you do.
Post # 7
Sending virtual hugs.
I certianly think that this could work out in your favor. By giving your SO a looser time frame, he may be able to surprise you with a unique proposal. It may seem like you have lost your mind, but you also are getting ready to get proposed to, so will waiting another few months – now that you’re assured that a proposal will happen – really be that much of a struggle? I’m, by no means, downplaying the stress that waiting creates; I’m just pointing out that you are so close!! I’d be excited and happy, not worried or stressed.
Post # 8
well if i totally start to go crazy waiting i will tell him to hurry it up. but i feel a strange peace with waiting now and i don’t feel any need to have a ring right this second
Post # 9
I’ve been feeling that way since I knew for sure it was coming.
Peaceful. No fights either, for quite awhile. Enjoy it!!!