Post # 1
Yes. I have decided it.
As of today, we have a venue and we have a caterer. As of Friday, I have a dress. We have done nothing else. Nothing.
My steps to remedy said situation:
1) Stop reading the “what are you doing this month?” posts on the June ’11 board.
2) Manage this one step at a time. This weekend: officiant. Photographer. Guest list.
3) Stress will not help. This will get done.
How did you all manage “AAAH THIS WILL NEVER GET DONE IN TIME” stress?!
Post # 3
Looks like youre managing well!!! Im still in the Meeeeeeh itll get done! ahah
Post # 4
MissBoston you hit the nail on the head with #2 ONE STEP AT A TIME
Wedding planning gets overwhelming all the time! But when you set small goals and take it bit by bit everything will get done eventually. I put a few things on my list each month and only focus on those things. And when I’m super stressed I looke at honeymoon stuff!
Post # 5
I did mostly everything WAY ahead of time… I was super stressed about school this semester so even though I’m not getting married until next May, I had 90% of EVERYTHING done by the end of August (when school started). Now I don’t have to worry about it and I can focus on school. 🙂
Post # 6
LOL. I like your approach and seeing as your just 1 week before me date wise, we’re at about the same stage and I feel a whole lot better, thanks! 😉
Post # 7
Focus on #2 – ONE STEP AT A TIME!
It is way too overwhelming to think (or try to think) of everything at once. Plot out your big milestones and major projects, but only work on/worry about one at a time. Keep lists so you can see your progress, keep everything in perspective. Sounds like you have the “big stuff” under control – good for you!
Post # 8
The whole one step at a time.
Everyone keeps telling me I’m trying to get so much finished way too soon, considering my wedding is 14 months away, but I’m working, hopefully about to begin my master’s program and dealing with lots of other “everything going wrong at once” moments. I’m trying to finish planning before January, which is when I start my master’s program, if everything goes right, so I have fewer things to worry about while I’m actually in school.
I’ve finally got some sort of organization going on. I made my own wedding book, and I’ve decided to devote a week or two to each thing. These 2 weeks have been about flowers, the next two weeks with be about venue and so on.
I tried doing everything all at once, but I ended up so frustrated that I was almost ready to go hide somewhere.
Post # 9
I had that freak out yesterday. My FILs were in town all weekend so none of my to-do list got done and I went into full on tailspin. I am on the same page as you. Stop comparing. Take a deep breath. Remember this is supposed to be making me happy, not crazy.
Post # 10
I decided to run a 10K yesterday just to get my mind off wedding stress. I think it worked and I rocked the race! 🙂 Hence the lack of stress today.. I think I’m still full of endorphins..
Post # 11
It’s OK!!! Take a deep breath. You will go through different emotions throughout the entire process – because that’s what it is… a process.
Embrace the one day at a time mentality and just keep doing small things that will move you forward to the end goal.
You will learn a lot about yourself and stress mgmt (love the 10K idea!) and will be a stronger person through the experience!
Post # 12
Thanks Oracle 🙂 I keep saying “once we do this, it’ll be easier…” but that keeps not happening. One. Thing. At. A. Time.
Post # 13
Hooray for June 12th Brides!! 🙂
What I did was plan in ‘spurts’. I literally booked all my vendors in a 3 day period. Once that was done, I took a nap for a few months then realized I had to get my dress and invitations (which took longer than anticipated, so do this early!). Then honestly there isn’t much you can do besides book vendors and send invitations until you’re about 1 month out at which point you can finally pick your menu, groomsmen tux’s, finalize flowers/decor, email your song list to the music provider, choose the ceremony text, etc. No one really wants to deal with you until yoru wedding is right aroudn the corner.
Post # 14
definitely one step at a time! venue, dress, and caterer are HUGE things crossed off your list, and you still have a lot of time for booking other vendors and working out the details.
Post # 15
@moderndaisy: That’s helpful. I think the main part of my stress now is that in Gloucester, nobody will let us book a block of rooms (it’s all small inns with like 15 rooms). We have 4 hotels picked out, so I’m very anxious to 1) make the guest list and 2) send out STDs so that people can get their rooms booked early (80% of our list is from OOT) – before things start selling out for the summer (they are already for long weekends next year!).
Hopefully after THAT, I can relax! 🙂