Post # 1
My fiance and I wanted a small wedding party to only include people we were close to. I was having my sister and his sister as bridesmaids and he was having 2 friends as groomsmen. I find out this weekend, 6 weeks before the wedding, that I might have nobody with me for the wedding.
Earlier this year we found out my sister started using heroin. She went to outpatient rehab and supposedly was clean. This weekend we found out she began using – she overdosed and was taken to the hospital. She is at the point now where if she doesn’t go away to an inpatient program I cannot have her at the wedding, or in my life until she gets the help she needs. It just hurts me that she would chose this lifestyle over being a part of our lives and in the wedding. Also, she is a very smart person and I just can’t understand how this could be happening. She has her masters degree and a lot going for her.
Then to make it worse my fiance’s sister who is in the military found out they moved their training/deployment up to the day before the wedding. It was supposed to be several weeks after. She is trying to see if they could fly her out a couple days late so she can attend the wedding but I doubt that will happen.
So it looks like I will be all alone now and have no bridesmaids with me. I don’t know what I will do if neither of them are there. It just won’t be the same. Hopefully everything will work out for both of them and they can both be here with us.
Post # 3
Wow, I’m so sorry to hear that! Sounds like a lot of tough things to deal with on top of knowing you might not have them there to stand up beside you 🙁
Is there anyone else you could ask to be a bidesmaid? I was a “last-minute” bridesmaid in my cousin’s wedding a few years ago and even though I wasn’t her first choice I know she appreciate having me there when her closer friends could not be.
I’ll say a prayer for your sister especially, and also for you FSIL. I hope things turn out ok.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Please remember your sister has an addiction, there is no rhyme or reason to it – even if she is the smartest person in the world. From my knowledge of drug addicts, it completely overtakes them. She isn’t picking the drugs over you (although I’m sure it feels that way).
Hopefully everything works out for your FSIL as well, I used to be in the military and understand how deployments can change at seemingly the drop of a hat.
GL and (((hugs))).
Post # 5
Unfortunately when someone is addicted to drugs, the drug usually takes preference to anything and everything in their life. I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I hope that your fiance’s sister can be there for the wedding at least. I’ll cross my fingers for you!
Post # 6
So sorry to hear your problem! My sister also had a drug addiction and I had to make the same very painful decision! It was awful!! Do you have any close family members that can step in? Or even your friends? I think given the situation any of your friends/family members would totally understand!
Post # 7
I’m sorry you are going through all of this 🙁 I agree with budgetbeautiful in that addiction takes control of that person’s life and they can’t even see how it is affecting their loved ones.
Also, you don’t HAVE to have bridesmaids if it doesn’t work out. I’m not! But you could always ask a close friend or another family member to fill in. I sure with the circomstances, they would totally be okay.
Good luck! Try not to stress to much! I hope everything works out.