I have no business wanting a baby….

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

First, you’re not that old! However, it sounds like there are many reasons that babies aren’t a realistic option for you two, which is fine. Four kids would make head spin, I can’t imagine 5! Honestly, I don’t have any kids  yet but if I could skip right to grandmother – I’d totally do it! Twice the fun and half the responsibility. So don’t feel bad about baby fever. But keep your wits about you!

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Geeze glad my parents didn’t feel the same way as you!!! My Mom had 3 boys, 11-14 when she started dating my dad.  They got married, saved some and then had two more kids (me yeahh!!) and my brother.  She was 45 when she had my brother and 42 when she had me. My older brothers are old enough to be my parents.  My mom had more fun with us, and she was alot more patient.  My brother’s were over the moon about us too.  So I wouldn’t knock it we kept them young and from turning into fuddy duddys 😀 

ETA: and what’s so selfish about wanting to have more kids, if you two have love to share why not do it!!

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Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

You have business wanting whatever you want! I want to blow whole student loan check on steak dinner and new shoes. Is that responsible for me and my future!? No way? But that doesn’t mean I can’t daydream about it and have it make me smile

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Vasectomies can be reversible.. it’s just not guaranteed..

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Nay1976:  I’ll be 37 and FI will be 43 when we get married in November and damn right we’re trying for kids! Yes we’ll be older than the average parents but I don’t get a crap about that. My parents were older than we’ll be when they had me (their only child) and mom always says it keeps her young.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My mom was 38 when she had me and 43 when my brother was born 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

My DH is 43 and I am 34 and we don’t have any children yet but we are TTCing! I plan on having 2 children so the first one hopefully when I am 35 and second when I am around 37-38! You may feel older because you have teenagers but you are not too old to have another baby! Since your DH got a vasectomy it would be likely impossible to get pregnant unless he reverses it! Heck my sister is 40 never been married but she will most likely get engaged by August of this year and her and her bf are talking about having a child but she wants to get married first! It is a personal decision and if your children are all going to be out of the house within the next 5 years or so and you want to enjoy your alone time than that is up to you but again you are not too old!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  MRS-K.
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

 

Nay1976:  I am sorry but your post kinda offended me. Since I had my first child at age of 37! and Currently am 40 and we are trying for a 2nd baby. You are not to old.  So if you and your DH want to have a child than you should do it. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My mother and step father planned to have a child when I was around 13 (they married when I was 12). They felt that was the oldest they could do it with an “appropriate” age gap (13, 11 & 7). Sadly my mother miscarried that baby, so they relied on a form of NFP and decided that it was responsible for them to be done.

Thankfully, when Mum was 41 & stepD was 48, the NFP failed 😉

My sister and I are a couple of months shy of being 20 years apart and it is awesome! My mother finally feels her family is complete. She and my step father are no longer together, but my sister is his absolute pride and joy. He finally got his daughter at age 48. 

If you want this, and your DH does, look in to reversing the vasectomy. It is ok to have a huge age gap. My brothers and I consider sister the best thing that happened to us.

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