I have no idea what to do…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What should I do?
    Ask to stay at my current job I've been at for years b/c of the familiarity, convenience, & benefits : (28 votes)
    20 %
    Take the new job because of better pay & a fresh start, despite the possible Mon-Thur travel/commute : (114 votes)
    80 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    36 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    What I think is missing here in your considerations are which job you *like* better. It’s hard to tell with a job you haven’t started yet, but do you think you’ll like it better than your old job? If so, then definitely move onto the new company! Also, I’ve seen friends and acquaintances stay at jobs longer than they want because they’re scared of change. Don’t be one of those people, I’ve noticed they’re usually unhappy… 

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    392 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I have never been in this situation, but personally, I think this new job would be great for you. Even with the pregnancy. you have 9 months to adjust to your new work situation. More money will be great for the future and you will be able to put more money away for savings while you are out on leave. Of course I am only going off of what you put on WB, so there may be other factors to consider, but I say move on with this new job and good luck in your pregnancy!

    Post # 5
    Member
    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy 🙂

    This is a tough question, but I think you should take the new job, because it’s advancing your career, and it’s better not to risk resenting your child for “holding you back.” After you’ve had your baby, you can decide whether to keep that job, or look for another one that works better for you in your new situation. Worst case scenario, you have to keep a job that isn’t ideal for a few months… which I think is the same issue with keeping your old job, but by switching at least you tried to advance your career sooner rather than later, you won’t wonder “What if?” And the health benefits might not be as good, but the extra money for providing for your child could be worth a lot.

    Whatever you decide, good luck!

    Post # 7
    Member
    36 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    Coming from the perspective of an employer, I think it would be a bit weird if you “rescinded” your notice to leave. If I were your boss I would internally question your loyalty and how much you want to be there, even if I let you back in to work in the same job. So if you decide to stay at the old job, try make your employer feel like you’re still motivated to do the job and think carefully about how you communicate your decision to return.

    Post # 8
    Member
    36 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    Question – how often will you be travelling at the new job?

    Post # 10
    Member
    7400 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @BassGirl:  This exactly. Plus I would be majorly pissed when I found out you were pregnant and I put two and two together and worked out you asked for your job back due to better benefits. I would definately not respect you as an employee and feel like you were just using the company for its benefits rather than actually wanting to work there.

    Post # 11
    Member
    36 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    yikes, travelling every single week for work? I change my vote, go back to the old job. Travelling that often for work SUCKS (in my opinion). I thought when I originally read the post that it would be travelling for work maybe once every few months or something…

    Post # 14
    Member
    3373 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @j_jaye:  yes, this.

    OP, you made a decision, now man up and follow through.

    I have to wonder, if children were apparently in your near future, how you didn’t think of these issues before applying for a job with different situations like travel and commute.

    Post # 15
    Member
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    No no no. You are only pregnant for 9 months, amazing opportunities don’t come around that often. I commute by public transportation for an hour each way every day, it’s not that big of a deal. In fact I prefer that to driving and having to pay attention. pleasetake it from someone who would give ANYthing to have a different job even if it meant a bit of travel. dont give it up just because of a positive pregnancy Test.  

    Post # 16
    Member
    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @OMGWhatDoIDo:  As an employer, I’d worry about you saying “The timing isn’t right because I’m pregnant”. While I commend you for wanting to be upfront, I think what I would hear is “I can’t leave NOW, even though I really want to, because I’m pregnant. So I’m going to stick around, have you pay me while I’m not at my best, use the great insurance you pay for, take a maternity leave and then maybe come back and maybe not. Or maybe I’ll just stick around for a year or so until the baby is older and THEN I’ll leave. Either way, I’m not in it for the long haul.”

    Not trying to be harsh, but just give you my perspective! This is a crazy difficult situation. 

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