- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2009
For the past 3 months, I’ve been told that I can help pick out my engagement ring. I’ve been encouraged to show my boyfriend rings that I thought were pretty, tell him what size diamond I want, the cut I want, etcetera. For the past 3 months, I’ve been researching moissanite HEAVILY and was set on it, and he said he would get me whatever I wanted.
However, I’ve been waiting since January for him to get off his butt and buy me a ring and propose. So even after I told him what I wanted and no move from him, I just told him, you know what? Let’s just sit down. I’ll tell you what I like and what I don’t like, and you can just pick me something out and surprise me. I said: I like moissanite (gave him the MANY reasons why). I like 3/4 – 1 carat, no bigger (I have size 4.5 fingers). I told him I like princess-cut and cushion-cut the most, but anything would be okay except the round and marquise, because the marquise cut snags things and I just think the round is way too simple (just my opinion). I told him I really like rings with a halo setting and pave stones, but I just don’t like gaudy looking rings, or MOST three-stone rings, or rings where the center stone is hardly bigger than the side stones. I would basically be happy with a lot of things, I showed him HUNDREDS of pictures of rings I thought were gorgeous.
Well, since I told him he could pick it out, I *SUPPOSE* he decided that it doesn’t matter if I like it or not, as long as he likes it. Why?
1) He told his mother that I wanted moissanite. She flat-out said no, so he is set on a diamond, no matter what I say or prefer. Now he thinks people would find out and judge him and look down on us.
2) His mother went out and tried on rings and brought him a catalog, showing him which ones she thought would look good on me. I appreciate her help, and I value her opinion, but this is one of the ones she picked out and the one he likes the most, and is pretty dead-set on:
1/2 carat solitaire with a plain band…and a ROUND STONE.
I can’t believe it. 1/2 carat isn’t that big, but I would be fine with it, you know? I have size 4.5 fingers, so I’m not going to complain about that. Even though he was telling me he wanted me to have atleast a 3/4 stone. Plain band…okay. That I can also deal with. These are two things that aren’t that big of a deal. But the ROUND STONE…? I’m so annoyed right now, I honestly am. All 3 of those together kind of annoy me. I think solitaires are really pretty when done right, but for a solitaire I would prefer a princess-cut.
What would you ladies do?? I wouldn’t be upset if he just proposed with the ring, because I could always put it in a different setting later and it would look beautiful to me. But since he has been asking me to help him pick it out and telling me he wanted it to be something I like, I’m feeling really hurt…